To tell 12yold the real meaning

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Year 7. Keep coming back with playground talk which is inappropriate and incorrect. We have a very open relationship and I encourage them to talk to me. Tonight he laughed and said I just teabagged the dog. I questioned what he said and he says that everyone says it at school and he thinks it means to sit on. I hated being made to feel stupid by not knowing stuff at school (I was very innocent) but equally don't want to project. Wibu to tell him what it means?

Glad you read it Itsallgoingtobefine In fairness the comment isn't actually correct, they don't necessarily need to have a penis...just a pair of bollocks

OMG, if it just means (as someone detailed below) "to jump on someone's face with your balls" then just tell him in a casual way. My 13-year-old son just came in and read the initial two lines and asked what it means. I told him and he just smirked and I further explained it's just a silly sex term that some kids use, a phase and he just said: "mum, I wouldn't find that funny, it's stupid". This is just a phase that will pass to another silly term probably until they get to an age where they've matured a bit more and can't be bothered with it or if like mine arrive at that maturity earlier. JUST TELL HIM, he's not a baby and should be able to handle it in a casual way. I know we like to preserve their innocence but also potentially he could look a right fool if bated with that term also by kids that know exactly what it means. He'll still be innocent as he'll only realise it's a sex term but still won't comprehend the full extent of the act itself unless old enough to engage by experience and he's clearly not and plus it will as said before forget about it and move on. Not a big deal unless made a big deal.

Whats the difference with twit and twat...? I say it all the time 🤔

I think its terrible that fortnite are using that term when characters are sitting on each other. The game has been created by adults who know what the term means and they are aware kids play the game.

I would tell him to look up the term.

Whats the difference with twit and twat...?
Twat is a vulva/cunt/minge.
Twit means silly. I think?

I think twat has 2 meanings - yes one is lady bits, but also it just means a ruder version of twit.

Yes it isn't a great word to use if you mean twit.

For those acting in shock at the idea of telling him to Google it, I just did. The 2nd thing that comes up is the urban dictionary definition - not istant porn site pop ups!

OMG.... im so embarrassed hahahhaahaaa i had no idea twat meant ladie bits... i thought it was another word for silly same as twit...thank you mumsnettrrs!!!!!

The term being used in a game is no different to all the innuendoes etc that were in childrens' programmes in years gone by. It's only when you watch them as an adult that you realise how close to the mark they were.

For those acting in shock at the idea of telling him to Google it, I just did. The 2nd thing that comes up is the urban dictionary definition - not istant porn site pop ups!

Rather interesting that you had to do it before you could tell us that. I stand by my comment that it would be fucking stupid to tell a 12yo to google this. Just because your google search turned out ok doesn't mean it's ok to send kids of to google sexual references!

Ummm never heard of
That term. I guess I must just be old 🤫

Does he play games? There is often a fad in FPS games like Fortnite to 'teabag' kills which is on screen essentially sitting on their face. Might have got it from that

It turns out that my 14 year old is familiar with both usages.
First he told me the game version, then admitted he knew about the original meaning, although I didn't push for a specific definition.

"man or penis-having person" ?

I think they meant balls-having person. If you have a penis but don't have testicles you can't strictly teabag.

My lb is 4 so I can't say I would definitely tell him the truth if it was me but I can say I probably would. I presume at 12 years of age you've given him the basic birds and the bees talk? I got mine before high school... ps being brought up Catholic, basic means special cuddles 😊...I would say no harm in telling him as he'll find out soon enough and best coming from a responsible adult 💝💙

I'm a naive 32 year old mum, until I came on Mumsnet I'd never heard or new what the phrase tea-bagging or pegging or cottaging meant

Off to google pegging, not heard of that one except in terms of washing!
When DD2 started secondary I told her to expect a lot of rude language, and that certain things could be said in the playground that she should never repeat to teachers. I asked which words she’d heard and explained how they are used and what the literal meaning was (eg fuck off means go away, literal meaning of fuck is to have sex). I also gave her an indication of how bad the words were (don’t mind if the odd bloody/shit slip out but don’t want to hear fuck and cunt). Sadly I forgot racial terms, as she overheard some black kids using the N word and thought it was an acceptable term .

My DSS at 11 said he'd never be naughty and end up in prison because he'd be really scared incase he dropped the soap in the shower i was so shocked but he did actually know what it ment no idea where he got the info from but he's 15 now and we often laugh about it

When I was in year 7 I heard an older boy call someone a 'crusty piece of donkey sponk'. No idea what it meant but I liked the cadence of the phrase and used in on my dad...

He hit the roof

For heaven's sake don't tell him to google it! I've always answered honestly, for example when my DDs were younger and would ask what a word was, I told them what it meant and why it was a bad word. Yes, even the C word. I was 9 when someone at school told me to ask my Dad what that word meant! I still remember the shouting... but still didn't know why it was bad?! Honesty is best I think.

Umm 😐 what does it mean?