To tell 12yold the real meaning

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Year 7. Keep coming back with playground talk which is inappropriate and incorrect. We have a very open relationship and I encourage them to talk to me. Tonight he laughed and said I just teabagged the dog. I questioned what he said and he says that everyone says it at school and he thinks it means to sit on. I hated being made to feel stupid by not knowing stuff at school (I was very innocent) but equally don't want to project. Wibu to tell him what it means?

You need to tell him the real meaning and why the phrase and act are unacceptable. He's not a baby, and it is easy to explain this in an appropriate manner.

Dog liked to wee was not a metaphor, it was a quick answer to an uncomfortable question he said C*, I immediately asked.

Well I must be little Miss Innocent, I would understand the phrase to mean dropping a teabag, in error onto a dog whilst trying to get it into the bin. . I think it does need explaining.

I would tell him incase he repeats it to a teacher in class, or if he has younger siblings he might say it too.

Also, may be very embarrassing for him if he goes round telling people he teabagged his dad or something

I’m surprised at 12 you wouldn’t just explain what it means.

and suggest he google it

Dear god, no!

Just tell him.

On Call of Duty the characters can teabag the dead bodies. They're fully clothed so I can see why they'd think it was sitting on

Prism But even on CoD it still comes from the sex act. OP just say "It's a sex act...so don't go around saying it in general society"

@HennyPennyHorror of course it does I wasn't saying it didn't mean that, just that that's probs where they got it from. I agree with informing him (without detail)

Well I’ve learned something today, nearly in my dotage!

I'd tell them tbh

Wow! They put their balls in the mouths of dead bodies on computer games?!?? Give me Streetfighter any day! Spinning bird kick!

Totally agree with tell him.
We have an open policy here and although there are many words I'd really rather my 11 year old did not hear, the reality is very different. Older siblings, inappropriate songs/online viewing etc all make for a bad mix.
I use it as an opportunity to open up discussions with her. You just have to bite the bullet.
The worst we've had so far are blowie, paedo and cunt. I don't want people using these words around her and having the power to make her feel embarrassed or ashamed because she doesn't know what they mean. Also don't want her to repeat them!
Better for her to understand and realise most kids are just trying to be cool by saying stupid stuff.

When they do it on CoD, does it look like they’re just sitting on someone?

Just tell him! You don’t need to say more than ‘it’s actually a sexual act so don’t say it in front of people’. End of. He’s going to be so mortified he won’t dare ask you exactly what sexual act.

Thank you all so much. My instinct was to tell him but his younger sister was in the room so I glossed over it which gave me a moment to ask you lot ☺ but I will tell him. Thankfully we do have a good relationship, and I've told him lots but tea bagging I only learnt about in my 30's and was more of a sexual nature than things we've spoke about in the past. It's hard realizing they are growing up, it's such a jump from primary school.

You could tell him it’s slang for a sex act and suggest he google it (if you can’t stand the thought of being that explicit.)

OP, Please ignore the previous poster who suggested you tell your child to google teabagging. Fucking hell

I wasn't suggesting he googled it, I was saying he could, therefore it might be better to explain.

@Mokepon that's exactly it I felt embarrassed and ashamed growing up as I had no one to ask.

@happyspud he doesn't appear to get mortified, I guess it's the curiosity of youth.

sorry just worded it badly

I wasn't suggesting he googled it,

Another poster did.

This stuff isn't really that difficult is it? I also have a 12 year old boy who was extremely naive until he started secondary school. He's now heard all sorts.

We openly chat about what he's been told at school or overheard and I explain what things are and we have a bit of a giggle and then I say ' but this stuff is very silly to say / do and not something I expect you to be saying / doing because you know better ok?' and we then move on and I feel I've don't my motherly bit.

He came out of school last week telling me that some of the boys make panting noises and pretend to have sex with the tables. 'Well isn't that silly?' is really all I could manage

I would just tell him in a very matter of fact and that's why we don't say it kind of way, I'd go with it means flopping your balls on someone rather than it being a sex act though, better he knows what it means than keep using it and potentially getting in trouble for it.

It’s called teabagging in games because it’s a disrespect act to your opponent ergo usually crouching repeated on/near an opponent to mock them

Actual teabagging - dunking balls.

As for telling DS. Yes, I think you should. Silly things like that are only funny because they’re rude. If they’re going to say these insults they may as wel know proper context

I just remember being quite naive starting high school. Kids can be really crude at that age and I recall many occasions peers laughing and I didn't have a clue.
I know that the boys especially in her class use appalling language towards each other. I want her to be able to shrug it off or if she does challenge them to have the correct meaning and be able to say 'Do you know what you are saying?'. Because I know them all and I'd bet at least half of them haven't a clue.
Can you tell this is a major issue in our house just now?