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To tell 12yold the real meaning

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Crockof · 25/03/2019 20:00

Year 7. Keep coming back with playground talk which is inappropriate and incorrect. We have a very open relationship and I encourage them to talk to me. Tonight he laughed and said I just teabagged the dog. I questioned what he said and he says that everyone says it at school and he thinks it means to sit on. I hated being made to feel stupid by not knowing stuff at school (I was very innocent) but equally don't want to project. Wibu to tell him what it means?

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Crockof · 25/03/2019 22:56

@fruitbatdancer don't!! 😂

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Monty27 · 25/03/2019 23:02

Tell them what they are saying. Explain it I mean otherwise how would they know any better?

megletthesecond · 25/03/2019 23:08

Tell him.
12yr old DS heard it as school and asked me so I told him. He didn't know whether to laugh or be horrified.

He's been told to ask me about words he hears at school. I'd rather a few minutes embarrassment explaining it than he starts using it inappropriately.

thinkfast · 25/03/2019 23:16

You can tell him the truth without being overly graphic - say something like it's a slang term for a particular sex act

Magenta82 · 25/03/2019 23:32

This is bringing back memories of the time my mum came home from work baffled by a joke. It was her 30th wedding anniversary (pearl) and someone had said "is your husband going to give you a pearl necklace" and she couldn't understand why people goggled. I had to explain.

HarrietSchulenberg · 26/03/2019 00:09

Glad you told him, well done.

In Y7 (first year in those days) I used to call everyone "twat", thinking it was a cooler version of "twit". I even called my mother a twat and she had no idea what it meant so wasn't offended. Unfortunately, my friend's mother DID know what it meant, and my poor friend was sent to her room for the evening with only a dictionary for company when she said it at home. She took great, and hard-earned, pleasure in telling me what it really meant next day. I was mortified.

Still think "twat" is a great word when spat out at someone who deserves it.

PregnantSea · 26/03/2019 05:34

You have to tell him

MsHopey · 26/03/2019 05:46

Glad you told him!
I'm the oldest kid from my family, I was upset when i was 11 and said to my friends i was a minge (I meant minger) they all laughed so hard and told me where I'd gone wrong. Yr7 back then too,.I was pretty much beetroot red all day and still look back mortified with myself 😳

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 26/03/2019 06:04

Of course he needs to know, it’s not a hard topic to discuss tbh.

Ds teabagging means your gentials/penis/willy has touched a dog...

bellinisurge · 26/03/2019 06:08

I always tell my dd anything like that. She rolls her eyes and says "I know " which we both know is not quite true but if it helps her dignity, I don't mind.

My sister (now in her 60s) also randomly used the word Twat until quite recently without knowing what it means - she's very prim and proper. Because I'm a cowbag baby sister (early 50s), I have never told her Grin. Sadly, I think someone else has (maybe her sons who are in their mid 20s) because she doesn't use the term anymore.

Natsku · 26/03/2019 06:15

In Y7 (first year in those days) I used to call everyone "twat", thinking it was a cooler version of "twit"

Same, except I was in year 9 but thankfully my friends knew and explained to me

anniehm · 26/03/2019 06:20

There may be more than one "meaning" around. I've heard it used on a game and nothing to do with sex (never heard of that meaning!)

ShaggyRug · 26/03/2019 06:58

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend

Ds teabagging means your gentials/penis/willy has touched a dog...

.... say what now?!!!!! That is NOT what teabagging means ShockShock

AprilSpring · 26/03/2019 07:07

I had to tell my boss what a twat was once, I agonised over it for days. I think she was meaning twit (still not a professional way to describe someone but better than twat).
I’d tell him. And follow it up with a chat about appropriate language ‘banter’ etc

Dramatical · 26/03/2019 08:10

Ds teabagging means your gentials/penis/willy has touched a dog...

Except it doesn't mean that at all Confused

YesimstillwatchingNetflix · 26/03/2019 10:45

Tell him.

Treefingers · 26/03/2019 10:52

The joys of Secondary, my DS had a similar incident, we have an open and close relationship so I just made a joke of it that explained the real meaning, he went a bit red and giggled.

Rockmysocks · 26/03/2019 14:38

Well, that's a lesson learned! I was told it was when a male stripper dunked his bits in drinks for money! Thought that was damn unhygienic!

Bluntness100 · 26/03/2019 14:42

Ds teabagging means your gentials/penis/willy has touched a dog...

Eh, what now? 🤣🤣🤣

ooItsAoBeautifulDayNow · 26/03/2019 14:42

Could you say that you said it at work / to a friend and someone told you what it really means so you wanted to tell him too? Might be a bit less embarrassing for him that way. My school mate also thought orgy meant orgasm until a lovely big sister of my friend corrected her - we were too embarrassed too!

ooItsAoBeautifulDayNow · 26/03/2019 14:42

*too embarrassed to

Stompythedinosaur · 26/03/2019 14:46

Good move to tell him, I would have done the same.

WeeDangerousSpike · 26/03/2019 14:52

Ds teabagging means your gentials/penis/willy has touched a dog...

Except it doesn't mean that at all confused

It does when he announces he's just teabagged the dog...

Dramatical · 26/03/2019 15:10

No, not even then. It doesn't mean your penis touched anything. Dog or otherwise.

Oblomov19 · 26/03/2019 15:15

I certainly would tell him and I tell him exactly what it meant in simplistic terms. I think it's important that they know What the word really means when they are using it inappropriately.

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