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To just face the consequences of non school attendance because this is more important

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Mumshotel · 23/03/2019 19:28

Ive just had a few wines. Split with abusive husband at Christmas and i just thought fuck it we need a break. Got some insurance money after a horrible car crash. So i bought a new oven, fridge and booked a week in gran canaria and boarding for animals in june. Its not school holidays. I think i might get fined. Aibu to not fucking care anymore???

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curlykaren · 23/03/2019 19:30

No, YANBU. Enjoy x

ShabbyAbby · 23/03/2019 19:30

If you can afford the fine then 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would. But I'm a little bit of a non conformist and think life is short and holidays are important. Plus, mental health trumps bloody phonics!

aibutohavethisusername · 23/03/2019 19:32

How old are dc?

Mumshotel · 23/03/2019 19:32

Is it 75 quid??

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Mumshotel · 23/03/2019 19:33

4, in nursery and 7 in school

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TeacupDrama · 23/03/2019 19:34

unless your DC are 16 and taking exams or it is SATS week go for it not all LA's fine as much as others , don't tell school until week before it won't be approved but it gives them less time to moan about it

Theimpossiblegirl · 23/03/2019 19:34

Have a lovely time, it sounds like you all really deserve it.

Mumshotel · 23/03/2019 19:35

Oh fab tip, thanks so much. I was going to tell asap

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Saucery · 23/03/2019 19:35

Put in a form to the school for it anyway, might as well do it by the book. But if it’s Unauthorised, well, it’s booked now, enjoy looking forward to it!

Orchidflower1 · 23/03/2019 19:35

Nursery - they can’t fine you because it’s not school age. For the older one it depends on the school.

I’d write to the head and see what they say after the rubbish time you’ve had you and the dc need a break.

SrSteveOskowski · 23/03/2019 19:35

YANBU at all. Missing one week of school is not going to impact on your children's future. A week in the sun will do you all good.
Hope you and your DC have a great time x

ILoveMaxiBondi · 23/03/2019 19:36

Will you definitely get a fine? Is there any chance the school would authorise it? If you explained the situation?

Ellieboolou27 · 23/03/2019 19:36

Go for it!!!! You’ll only get fined for 7yo as its Not compulsory for 4yo.
£75 well spent and sounds like you deserve it - enjoy

MintyCedric · 23/03/2019 19:38

Bloody good for you...have a great time and know that life really does get better Flowers

TriciaH87 · 23/03/2019 19:39

We have done it 3 times so far with our boys snd not been fined. Also doing again in June. If we get a fine so be it we still save over a grand and we couldn't go away last year as me and oh were not off at same time. Its good for them and you to get a break. It sounds like you deserve it.

oblada · 23/03/2019 19:41

My LA only fines after 10 days unauthorised in a 10 weeks period. Fine is 60quids. So check your local authority rules and don't worry about it! I took kids the same age on a ski holiday earlier this month and will probably continue to take ski holidays outside of school holiday time if it's worth it (much much cheaper flights and it was a quiet time where we went which was absolutely fab).

rose789 · 23/03/2019 19:43

Eeh op I read your update as you had 4 children in nursery and 7 in school!! Grin
That would have been a lot of fines- and a fortune to get 12 of you to Gran Canaria Grin

Go for it, and have a wonderful time Flowers

noideaatallreally · 23/03/2019 19:45

Go on your holiday. Enjoy the time with your children. Bugger the fines - they are not going to miss anything of great importance in school. Stop worrying and enjoy.

flumposie · 23/03/2019 19:47

Enjoy your holiday.

TapasForTwo · 23/03/2019 19:47

I'm a bit of a rule follower, but in this case I would just go for it.

Mumshotel · 23/03/2019 19:47

Thanks for the sharing of your ecperiences. I did think about writing to ecplain the shitty time. But i wonder if just sucking up the fine and telling them not long before might be better. Glad to know others havnt got a fine.

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Mumshotel · 23/03/2019 19:48

Yey you have been so supportive. Thank you. Parenting is ridden with guilt isnt it x

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OnlineAlienator · 23/03/2019 19:49

Go for it - they are YOUR children, these fines are insane.

MsTSwift · 23/03/2019 19:51

You won’t get fined for the little one anyway

noideaatallreally · 23/03/2019 19:53

it is hardly the crime of the century to give yourself and your children the gift of time together. I hope you all have a lovely time.

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