To not pick him up from the airport tomorrow?

[theemmadilemma]

Can't be arsed to NC.

Relevant details:

He is in short haul EU country (1.5hr max) visiting family including a GP who had a stroke around 3 months ago - recovering well.

I am at home working and looking after dog and cat.

He left Thurs am (up at 6.30am) after a late night and disturbed sleep for both of us for reasons out of our control.

He has since been having lovely lunches in lovely sun...

I am at home holding the fort at usual. I WFH so I'm ok with picking up most home duties.

I don't have a problem on a daily basis with the split of chores.

However, dog is being unusually annoying and over active, I'm trying to work, and do all the usual shit including cleaning the house. I had a crap night sleep last night due to my wonderful but currently arsehole dog.

I won't have any down time tonight really.

And tomorrow I need to clean the the house some more.

AIBU to say that whileI have nothing else meaning I can't. I'm happy to play chef, laundry, cleaner, etc., I'd rather not add being chauffeur at 7pm tomorrow night to do a 1.5 hr journey to save his a £30 Uber he can afford? When I could be supping a wee glass of vino and trying to chill out?

AIBU?

[Bluntness100]

This is just getting odder and odder. Are you now saying your cat passed away and you were lying about all thr work it took to look after them and their litter tray and it was just you and the dog, but apparently you've been repetitively cleaning your house?

Look, if you can't be arsed picking him up don't. It's hardly the crime of the century.

[funmummy48]

I'd turn it into a date night. Pick him up, drive to a nice restaurant, have a lovely meal, you can have a few drinks & he can then drive you home. Not a chore at a bit a great evening out.

[BritInUS1]

Lol are you for real? Just go and pick him up. Working from home and looking after a cat and dog is hardly hard work!

[MakeItRain]

I would be the same as you, seeing both sides, thinking "oh I could do it but I'm knackered after working all week and cleaning up cat shit", and on the other "oh I suppose I could get him even though it's a pain in the arse."

In the grand scheme of things either scenario is fine. Stay home and make a lovely meal to appease a bit of guilt

Note to self - remind me never to post any musings on AIBU in case my entire life is shredded to pieces and my indecision is put down to me being a bitter, complaining shell of a woman with a shit house, set up and relationship who doesn't even deserve this crappy set up, such are my nasty ways and opinions.

[Flobochin]

Uber is your friend. It's only money. 45 mins for him but 1.5 hrs for you at the end of the day when you're tired.

[Junkmail]

Yabu this wouldn’t bother me in the slightest and I have a similar work load to you—I work from home, my husband works night. I do the majority of the housework and also take care of five cats and three dogs. Honestly OP I think you’re being mean. Picking him up would be a nice thing to do and it’s not like it’s a daily occurance? Plus he’s been visit a sick relative, not living it up, partying on the beach.

[UnspiritualHome]

You haven't explained why he can't get public transport?

[theemmadilemma]

@MakeItRain It's worth noting!

He could easily get public transport though would still need a taxi from the station here. So might as well just jump in an Uber

[theemmadilemma]

@Bluntness100 I had two old cats. One passed last week. One is still alive? Why on earth would I lie?

[MaryPopppins]

Please don't have kids if you think what you're currently dealing with is enough to not be able to drive 90 minutes.

[peppaaargh]

What are you making for his tea?

[whywhywhy6]

I Iove a fiesty OP.

YABU.

But collect him, or don’t. Whatever.

[theemmadilemma]

@MaryPopppins See my previous post re infertility. You can stop worrying.

I've got duck legs for this evening and a nice dessert!

[UnspiritualHome]

Compromise and offer to collect him from the station?

[Horehound]

Maybe you should get on with cleaning now instead of mumsnwtting and then you'll have time to get him. ;)

If it was the other way around would you like to be picked up?

[Lougle]

@theemmadilemma AIBU can be very harsh.

[MitziK]

You could take the dog for a nice, muddy walk, then stick him in the car, pick up the DP and let DDog show DP just how much he's been missed.

Two and a half ton of muddy, waggy, slobbery happiness should get him over the chilled meals with copious amounts of wine fairly quickly.

And you get to look like the amazing, supportive partner for picking him up...

[BusterGonad]

I'm really enjoying this thread, Op you've got a good sense of humor, I think if it'll take 1 1/2 hours to get your partner than I'm in agreement that he can uber. I'd get my husband purely because £39 is a lot of money (we have a child and I don't work).

[theemmadilemma]

Trying to fit my dog in my Mini is laughable. I haven't ever tried it, but it feels like we could do something Scooby Do there!

[HarrysOwl]

Hope you're chilling the wine, OP. What's for dinner?

How long until his arrival?

[SimonJT]

I would pick him up, I once picked my ex up three times in one week from the airport, yes it was a bit of a faff, but I preferred the faff of the drive and getting to see him an hour earlier.

Do what works best for you, I used to get teased from picking him up every time, but I liked doing it.

[HarrysOwl]

Oh just seen above - oooh duck. You're spoiling him!

[BusterGonad]

Op if you do pick him up, then surely you need to also take the cat!

[Ihopeyourcakeisshit]

I'm uber all the way OP.
Sorry you've had such a tough time in this thread.