To not pick him up from the airport tomorrow?

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Can't be arsed to NC.

Relevant details:

He is in short haul EU country (1.5hr max) visiting family including a GP who had a stroke around 3 months ago - recovering well.

I am at home working and looking after dog and cat.

He left Thurs am (up at 6.30am) after a late night and disturbed sleep for both of us for reasons out of our control.

He has since been having lovely lunches in lovely sun...

I am at home holding the fort at usual. I WFH so I'm ok with picking up most home duties.

I don't have a problem on a daily basis with the split of chores.

However, dog is being unusually annoying and over active, I'm trying to work, and do all the usual shit including cleaning the house. I had a crap night sleep last night due to my wonderful but currently arsehole dog.

I won't have any down time tonight really.

And tomorrow I need to clean the the house some more.

AIBU to say that whileI have nothing else meaning I can't. I'm happy to play chef, laundry, cleaner, etc., I'd rather not add being chauffeur at 7pm tomorrow night to do a 1.5 hr journey to save his a £30 Uber he can afford? When I could be supping a wee glass of vino and trying to chill out?

AIBU?

Go and get him, it’s your partner/husband, have you not missed him the past few days? Having a dog and working your usual hours from home is not particularly stressful or tiring unless you have other issues, this just makes you sound resentful and not very supportive tbh.

The issue isn't collecting him is it? The issue is he's a lazy, feckless partner who leaves the OP to do everything?

How did it get to this stage OP? Why is division of labour so one sided? I note you make a comment up thread about him never washing up / but he would do a crap job anyway. So do you enable this inequality at home?

Or is he playing you? Doing a shit job with chores so you just go ahead and do it?

@HarrysOwl Thanks!

My chicken only lasts a couple of days. dog

This place is losing either it's sense of humour or ability to sense sarcasm and general lighthearted stuff.

I'm almost proud to know I'm special snowflake.

I didn't understand not fitting certain criteria for posting on here was a problem. Or that we judged people on how their issues effect them in comparison to ours.

But again this was a lighthearted thread.

Lighthearted or not I'd still opt for the wine over negotiating airport parking.

You won't pick him up because he had a nice time and you haven't? How nasty. Imagine if the tables were turned!

YABU. You don't work out of the house and therefore it doesn't count as you are not in an office. stay home and cuddle the dog

@Crunchymum I do occasionally rant about it, but there are things he does I don't. He's also kind, generous, loving and generally wonderful.

I most of the time enjoy being able to look after him and facilitate his career progression as I am able to - meaning he can travel at the drop of a hat.

I think it's just a few odd apples, OP.

And others see the flame and like to stoke it.

Must be something in the water this Friday night!

So. More importantly. Red or white?

You don't sound like a bitch Op. £30ish for an uber sounds like a no brainer especially if he is coming home to a nice meal and a beer.

As regards to him not doing any of the domestic chores, well if you are happy with that crack on, if not get a cleaner and get him to pay half.

I would not do a pick up if it was 1.5 hours away! Tell him to get an uber.

You'd have had a different response if you'd made it lighthearted or said you were posting for a rant but you asked for people's opinions then got pissy if they weren't what you wanted! Waste of time people giving their 'thoughts and comments' if they don't match yours.
Nice dog.

I'm not sure MN has changed. If you'd said 'DH is coming home. I can't be arsed collecting him and he doesn't care, what do people think?' then you'd have had different answers. imo it was the implication that you'd been holding the fort that influenced the tone of responses.

DH and I sometimes collect each other. Sometimes we don't. But we don't have an issue about our split of domestic chores so wouldn't link that to our decision about an airport run.

Can't I just chill tomorrow?

Yes, Don't bother to clean, it can wait another day and your husband can help.

Does it have to be an Uber? Is a train or bus a possibility?

It's going to need to be white tonight. @HarrysOwl

Which I will look into, swirl the bottom of the glass and contemplate how it appears I'm much more pissy than I ever fucking realised.

"At last some fucking sense."

Translation "ah, someone who agrees with me, must be objectively right then". Not sure why you bothered asking except to have a go at naysayers.

Wouldn't dream of not picking up DP, or any friends or fam, from our nearest airport, and I didn't when I had two under fives either. DS1 saw two Concordes on the tarmac at Heathrow once. Made his week.

Nice dog though.

I lolled when i read "holding the fort" when its just been you in the house. Big deal you have 2 animals. Feed, walk and let out for a pee. I dont know how you've coped actually!!

Yes, YABU. From my point of view, anyway. And probably most people on here seeing as this is mumsnet and most will be holding down jobs/kids/husbands/single parents doing all that etc, so you having a dog and a house and wfh isn't really all that much tbh to a lot on here, not because people are arseholes, but comparatively, you have a light load in comparison.

But what does that matter? What matters is how you feel, not strangers - no?

If it's only £30 for an uber just do it. But from my perspective - my DH due to his job is always away doing lovely stuff in lovely places eating and drinking heavenly food without me whilst I'm knee deep in wee puddles and tantrums and school runs and arguments and blah blah blah. But that's life, that's just the way it is. If he's off living the high life, I treat myself to a nice bottle of something, a favourite food etc, and enjoy it. Can you not treat yourself to something nice just for you?

I have never been picked up from an airport nor picked anyone else up. It'd never occur to me. You sort wine and food, he gets an Uber. It's the utilitarian response; the least hassle for you both.

What with the cost of fuel there and back and ripoff airport parking, then my vote goes to Uber on this occasion.

Put your feet up

Nice dog though

Leave the damn cleaning and look after the livestock

Pick him up and have a relaxed remainder of the evening together
and do the cleaning together the next afternoon.

Darling resentful? Not in the slightest. The op has nothing extraordinary about her life and has less to deal with than many people. Just don’t try dress it up into something it isn’t.

Would I pick my h up? Probably not. But would I make out that two days has been soooooo hard? No.

£30 is a lot, I'd suggest he gets the bus or buses home, most major airports are well served by public transport now.

With the money hes saved he can bring in some food/ drinks for the evening.

I think yanbu to tell him to get an über as that's the cheaper easier option.

But I think where your post came a bit unstuck is that the majority of people on here will genuinely have more demands on their time so cannot relate to you saying it's so hard working from home and looking after a dog and cat! Not judging just making an observation.

I've got two dc under 5 and a 13 week old puppy. I work from home and am constantly battling the tip of our house 😂 So yes I was a bit 🤔 at your post and how difficult your life is BUT it's all relative and for you maybe it has been a tough week I guess 🤷‍♀️ Many people will have it tougher than me and won't sympathise when I have a little rant (or cry 😂).

I don't want to do the cleaning on Sunday with him!!

I want to get it done tomorrow before he comes home, have a nice evening meal, sleep and chill tomorrow with him.