To not pick him up from the airport tomorrow?

[theemmadilemma]

Can't be arsed to NC.

Relevant details:

He is in short haul EU country (1.5hr max) visiting family including a GP who had a stroke around 3 months ago - recovering well.

I am at home working and looking after dog and cat.

He left Thurs am (up at 6.30am) after a late night and disturbed sleep for both of us for reasons out of our control.

He has since been having lovely lunches in lovely sun...

I am at home holding the fort at usual. I WFH so I'm ok with picking up most home duties.

I don't have a problem on a daily basis with the split of chores.

However, dog is being unusually annoying and over active, I'm trying to work, and do all the usual shit including cleaning the house. I had a crap night sleep last night due to my wonderful but currently arsehole dog.

I won't have any down time tonight really.

And tomorrow I need to clean the the house some more.

AIBU to say that whileI have nothing else meaning I can't. I'm happy to play chef, laundry, cleaner, etc., I'd rather not add being chauffeur at 7pm tomorrow night to do a 1.5 hr journey to save his a £30 Uber he can afford? When I could be supping a wee glass of vino and trying to chill out?

AIBU?

Just pick him up! If can’t arsed it’s your conscience need to deal with.
Yes been abroad to see a sick relative not exactly on a jolly!

^ I can never understand why people are so reluctant to pay a small taxi fare (assuming it is £30 and not £150!) And would rather put others out massively.*

I agree! Everyone needs down-time.

And driving can be very stressful!

OP, someone upthread posted that many people on here are sleep deprived with one or more children and pets to look after, and that's before you factor in, employment, commutes, partners being away, ferrying children to after school hobbies, helping them with their homework and all the rest of it.

But you already know that, because it's MN, and AIBU, so I'm surprised that you're surprised at the comments. Part of me thinks you're winding us up, but maybe not.

In the context above, looking after a big annoying dog, and a cat doesn't seem as difficult as you're making out, but YANBU to suggest he gets an Uber.

Is the flight 1.5 hours long or is the airport 1.5 hours’ drive away? Or 1.5 hour round trip? People are variously assuming all of these but you haven't clarified.

I agree it’s your “woe is me” tone that’s got people’s backs up. He’s only been gone a day and a half, he won’t have had that many lovely meals or that much lovely laundry done ffs. And as for saying you’re facilitating his jet-setting career?! You only have pets, they could go to a kennels, it’s not
like you have two preschoolers. You do sound hard work.

For heaven’s sake. What a storm in a teacup. How is 1.5 hours in an Uber £30?
Just pick him up.

I'm surprised that you're surprised at the comments.

I'm surprised that you're surprised that OP is surprised, TBH.

How is 1.5 hours in an Uber £30?

It's 1.5 hour round trip so 45 mins in a taxi.

Gosh so many posters jumping down OP's throat, chill out! Maybe have that glass of wine that OP is planning on....

If he can afford the £30 then yes Uber is no big deal, whilst it would be 'nice' to pick him up it really isn't that big a deal and especially if it's going to cost you the same then even more so. Having a nice meal and bottle of wine will be a lovely treat for him to look forward to and cared for. Ignore the belligerent posters.

If you don’t want to pick him up that’s fine but don’t make up all sorts of crap excuses to why. Makes you look daft.

This has to be one of the oddest threads this year.

Op, you're clearly very angry and just wish to argue and fight. It doesn't matter who with or what over.

Pick him up, don't, it doesn't matter, but suggest you address what's making you so angry and wanting to pick fights with random strangers.

Airport roughly 40 mins on a really good run. Heathrow if you must. Parking etc. So yes at least 1.5 hrs round trip.

40 mins in Uber.

I'm really not angry!

Pick him up but he gets to drive home via an eaterie/drinkerie of your choice - the taxi fare alone should cover 2-3 cocktails of your choice.

Job done.

Or surprised!

He'll be knackered and want home and the dog and me. Not to eat out. He'll want to get home and relax with calm.

@theemmadilemma

He'll be knackered and want home and the dog and me.

What about the cat? Or has the cat disappeared in the 5 hours between you posting your first post, and your last?

I knew I should I have gone with a thread about washing newly bought clothes.

@americandream Feel free to check me out.

Yes, and my (our) cat of 12 years. If you want to read upwards I just lost one of my two.

Definitely don't have kids together if a dog is causing so much stress and your partner already does nothing around the house.

@americandream better still report me if you doubt me that much.

Don't troll hunt.

@Stawp Not planning on it. Since infidelity in my first marriage resulting in my husband getting another women pregnant while I watched my step son, and my subsequent issues with pregnancy, infertility, miscarriage would suggest you're right.

Nice.

Whilst I do think your life sounds pretty easy, I have to say that DH would laugh in my face if I asked him to collect me from the airport. There are buses, taxis, trains for that job, he'd say; why are you asking me? So we both always make our own way home - very simple. I suggest you try this approach.

It's ridiculous that anyone ever picks anyone up from any airport. Parking is expensive and traffic is awful, why spread the misery? People should be independent and get themselves to and from airports.

You can blame AIBU for calling you "hard work". But you are hard work. Get a bloody grip

My first grip!