DP asking me to not go on night out

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I have a very close work team as there's not many of us. I've only been out with them twice this year so far, but I've never really been out before starting work with them and I'm really enjoying having that bit of life to myself after being a SAHM.
So I've been out with them twice this year and then when DM has had DS, have had about four/five 'date nights' with DP so far (including spending time together every night after DS goes to bed).
We all arranged to go out next weekend. Our team is predominantly males, and it's usually just me and another girl on nights out. She's actually away next weekend but there's a good few still going out.
Since hearing that there's most likely no other women going out, he's started asking me 'nicely' not to go. Trying to guilt me by saying that I never spend time with him and always prioritise going out with 'randomers'. He even said that he didn't trust me (and then backtracked).

AIBU to still go out of principle? To me, it wouldn't even cross his mind that he wanted time with me and I was prioritising work friends if it was just me and a female colleague.
I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable though!

I'd never go out with colleagues without dh, i feel it's just rude

Do what? Who on earth brings their partner to a work outing (unless it's a big/formal all-partners-invited thing? What would be so awful about going on your own? Have you ever considered that your work colleagues don't want random partners invited?

And preference, maybe. But rude?!

It's 2019 people. Not the 1800s.
We can actively declare ourselves genderless.
Those who are gay can legally get married.
Women can vote too! (Shock, horror!)

Yet men and women cant be friends and go to dinner for fear of cheating?
Or male and female colleagues cant meet on weekends out side of work because 'It's work colleagues not friends'?

Some of the responses are beyond ridiculous.
It's possible to see colleagues as genuine friends. I met one of my closest friends this way. And they are male!
Some of my colleagues now are wonderful and id love to spend time with them outside the workplace. Why is that wrong?

OP i wouldn't know how to navigate this. I think its incredibly controlling and sounds like he's not very trusting so it would be worth having a proper sit down chat and seeing why he is being like this.

@sorry
Is your comment meant as a joke? Are your views on relationships that skewed? 'Not bruise his ego' just what in the fuck of fuckery are you on? I'm astounded at these replies.

SorryWhat

You're going down a slippery slope there. What if he starts doing this EVERY time OP wants to go out? What if your partner suddenly told you that he didn't like you wearing a certain outfit or having your hair a certain way? Do you do everything just to make him happy?

There's absolutely no good reason for the OP not to go out apart from her DH's own silly insecurities. That's his problem that he needs to get over, not hers.

Point out that you work with them every day. If you are going to have an affair it will happen regardless, so he'll have to trust you. That trust is an important component of a healthy marriage and he has no reason to distrust you.
Then make sure you go. I'd go crazy if my life only revived round dh.

The OP's ego is not more important than her own free will to do whatever she likes and go wherever she likes whenever she likes.

So many surrendered wives on here it's quite shocking.

Sorry. The OP's partner's ego that should have said

Otherwise my post means something quite different

If I'm being totally honest I wouldn't like dp going out with a load of woman I didn't know.
You have been out twice before with people from work and presumably he hasn't voiced concerns as he knows it's mixed.
If it was the other way around and you were posting that your dp was going out with a group of women from work when normally men were there I think alot of people would be replying differently.
He has asked you not demanded you not go I don't think he is being unreasonable.
It's your life obviously you can go out with who you like but he is allowed to say he is not comfortable with it weather you feel guilted or not

If I'm being totally honest I wouldn't like dp going out with a load of woman I didn't know

But even if the other woman was going as she usually does, the OP would still be out with a load of men that her partner doesn’t know. Just with one other woman in the mix. The OP’s partner has no problem with her being out with a load of men when that one other woman is there. Why does her absence change things? Are the men likely to become sexual predators because there is one woman there instead of two? Is the OP likely to throw herself at the men just because the other woman isn’t there?
I’m a bit baffled by the reasoning.

Don’t know if yet another opinion will make a difference, but personally I’m sick of men who don’t trust their wives to make a judgment call about their own safety.

And if it isn’t that, the alternative is that he doesn’t trust her around other men, which is worse. Most people judge others based on their own morals. A man who doesn’t trust his wife is more likely to be a cheat himself.

Go, OP. If you want to go, then your husband should respect you enough to let you. He should not be putting any pressure on you whatsoever.