Aibu to be furious with barber

[BillywigSting]

So I took ds for a much needed tidy up haircut. It was a bit longer than in the 3rd pic. He chose a style he likes and that will be ok with school.

The blurred out pic is ds, the other what he wanted.

He previously had lots of beautiful blonde curls. They have given him a number 4 and cut his ear.

I know I am probably being a bit dramatic but I could honestly cry. His hair grows really really really slowly too. This is only his fifth or sixth haircut ever because it's curly it stays short for ages.

I refused to pay because it looks nothing like what he asked for. He's upset about loosing his curls and I'm not sure school will be overly happy with it either.

[Hahaha88]

Yanbu to be upset, my son has curly hair and had a style like the one yours wanted. However the barber (a Turkish one seen as people seem to think they can't do curly hair) left the top much longer than they would have in a straight haired boy to allow for it to curl. However you were unreasonable not taking a picture of a boy with a curly hair style. Also if I took my son to a new stylist I always asked if they were experienced with curly hair. 8/10 times I took him to an African stylist. I hope his curls grow faster than normal!

[SparkiePolastri]

Why would you give a 10YO a haircut that he'd have to blow dry his hair each day to achieve...?

[dementedpixie]

Who is the 10 year old?? OPs child is 5

[FlopsyMopsyRabbit]

You still haven't explained why the school would be unhappy with it?

[BillywigSting]

The school has a strict uniform code and the hair at the back is basically too short to be allowed. It must be a minimum of 2cm at the shortest point and his is shorter than that.

I spoke to his teachers this morning and told them what had happened and they said that because he is only in reception and is normally spot on with uniform nothing would come of it. If he was older and or it was done on purpose he would be in trouble for it.

[angelikacpickles]

The most unreasonable thing about this whole thread is a school deciding that a child's hair can be too short. Can a child's hair be too long? How is it any of their bloody business? Can they exclude a child for having a bad haircut?

[BillywigSting]

It's an academy so yes they can pretty much do what they want.

It was either there or a faith school, and we were never in a million years sending him to a faith school but that's a different thread altogether.

[Namechangeforthiscancershit]

Ffs, even the other barber wasn't impressed with his handy work

If the manager said it's no good then presumably he was fine with you not paying. I wouldn't feel bad about that.

[wildbhoysmama]

OP my DS (7) has very curly, blonde hair. I find most barbers and many hairdressers don't cut curly hair well. Embarrassingly, I drive 30 minutes to my own hairdresser to get his hair cut, but it's worth it!

[Tmara]

OP you have had some really harsh responses! I have girls not a boy so I've never been for a little boy's haircut, but if my child's ear got cut I'd be upset too - that's totally unacceptable and I feel very sorry for your little boy and you. With the actual haircut, personally I'd be annoyed too, especially if my child was upset as well, but, I think I'd have to chalk it up to experience. You will now know what to avoid in future, it's a learning curve, and we're not all hair experts. I would expect a barber to tell me if a pic I showed them was not realistic for certain hair type! I know hair can take ages to grow and in the short term it might be upsetting. Like another poster said, your son's curls are clearly a big part of his identity, and he's so young, it's a big deal at that age! Why do some people expect him to just suck it up because he's a boy? Plus it's his baby hair so it's a big deal for you as his mum. It will grow back eventually though, it sucks but it's not permanent, and like I say just try and chalk it up to experience. I think his curls look lovely, but also that his new short haircut looks good in a totally different way, tell him he looks handsome and smart and if his confidence has been knocked, reassure him. I know it's really upset you and I don't think yabu, but it will grow out again eventually x

[pictish]

The school’s ‘strict uniform code’ can hoof off. They expect arbitrary control to such a specific degree, they sound like lunatics...academy or not.

[DanielRicciardosSmile]

Tbh though, the haircut you wanted doesn't look like it's 2cm long at the shortest point.

[JellyTeapot]

Some of the responses here are ludicrous. How many of you, after getting a haircut which wasn't what you asked for and having your ear cut in the process, would be happy to pay for it?

[eddiemairswife]

Does the school actually measure the child's hair if they think it is too short?