How does this birthday card make you feel?

[Fretful]

Without giving any background as I would like some unbiased opinions, please

Just yet another example of how casual misogyny is a-ok compared to e.g. casual racism. Find fault with that card and chances are you'd get a raised eyebrow and be told to lighten up. But imagine a similarly 'low-key' card based around a racist trope. Wouldn't make it to the shelves in a million years.

I'd be bemused if anyone gave this to me because it's so far away from anything I would find funny.

It's funny. One of those stereotypical jokey cards. I'd laugh if I got this from OH! X

Depends who gave it to you really doesn’t it?

I would think the person who sent this card was a twat tbh.

It's a card, and a step up from the appalling satin padded sentimental hearts and flowers 1950s, with dreadful doggerel, stuff DH is amused to bring home. It's not funny, and not touching. For the thoughtless and inconsiderate puchaser only IMO.

Depends on the relationship between the giver and receiver and if they have the same sort of humour!

Its horrible

Its a bit of a shit joke.

I don't find it offensive but i'd question the intelligence/values of the sender

Don't get all the offense at all. It's clearly just a lighthearted jokey card - to me, anyway! Can't joke about anything these days anymore... Cant imagine anyone would send a birthday card with anything but a laugh and birthday wishes in mind, sure its not harshly intended. It's the sort of thing I would send to DH, or friends with "laddy" DHs may send to them, or maybe a guy who prefers jokey to soppy may send to his wife x

HotpotLawyer nicely said

XH was a terrible one for telling me we couldn't afford to put the heating on. Later, when we were divorcing, I simply told him that as I pay for the bloody heating I was jolly well going to put it on if I wanted it on. He seemed quite taken aback. Good. (Given that he used to moan about the cold it was fairly surprising he didn't want it on himself, but maybe watching me freezing was amusing enough to make up for any discomfort.)

Sad. Because there are plenty of women in relationships where they don't matter one shite to the man. I find that sad and I find the fact that people find it funny sad.

It's an apt card of how things were like in the past for a lot of women . The men went to the pub, the woman stayed at home and the man controlled everything .

It's a joke. If the person who made the card actually thought it was ok to turn the heating off on their wife leaving them cold it wouldn't be a joke and it wouldn't be on a card.

Sad and pissed off.

I don't think it's funny, but I wonder what the inside says. Is it blank inside, or is there another "line?"

I don't know anyone I'd send it to, and I don't know anyone who'd send it to me. In a shop I wouldn't even notice it.

"Hilarious".

I wouldn't be offended by it, but it's a bit of a shit joke and the artwork is mediocre.

I would think someone had found a card left over from the 1970s.

My cousin has a marriage like that... they take delight out of putting each other down, each gives as good as they take. They actually have, I reckon, one of the strongest marriages out there. But no holding back on hostilities.

Just yet another example of how casual misogyny is a-ok compared to e.g. casual racism. Find fault with that card and chances are you'd get a raised eyebrow and be told to lighten up. But imagine a similarly 'low-key' card based around a racist trope. Wouldn't make it to the shelves in a million years

Absolutely this.

It is appalling ,quite frankly, I wouldn't be having a relationship of any sort with anyone who thought it was amusing, let alone sent it to me!

Those posters saying otherwise, is this the sort of card you would like sent to your daughter in the future.

Hopefully, it won't be long before these cards are made illegal and selling them carries a punitive sentence: a gaol sentence would concentrate the mind of those who want to be slyly aggressive to women. After all, as another poster said, we wouldn't laugh at racism, why sexism?

I don’t like it.
I didn’t understand it at first as I was looking for the sexual punchline (her coming).

I was once told a “joke”: “what do you say to a woman with two black eyes? Nothing - you’ve already told her twice”.

I was horrified by that. This is more of an eye roll, but for me it’s on the same continuum. There’s just nothing funny about someone being in a nasty relationship - even if you draw it in a cartoon.

I haven’t seen the Royle family with it... but I can imagine that playing OK, because isn’t there genuine love between them? So it would be teasing - and I’d imagine followed up instantly with “course you’re coming!”

If you are hostile to each other, you don't have a strong marriage.

It's similar in nature to the "make sure he's dead"
Bang bang
"he is now"
Joke, in that it's poking fun at a misunderstanding and the other person acting awfully.