How does this birthday card make you feel?

[Fretful]

Without giving any background as I would like some unbiased opinions, please

I tried very hard, but didn't get it at all. Thanks, @Sparklesocks for the clear explanation!

So if someone had sent it to me without me RTFT, I'd have looked at it and thought: "eh?"

It's ok, not rude enough for me though.

just read your update and it is just possible they were trying to wake you up to your situation gently - but in general i would suggest you get out as son as you can if it is abusive

Made me chuckle - retro humour.

I thought it was abusive before I even read the context

I find it deeply unpleasant. My BiL would think it hilarious, I also find his views deeply unpleasant.

It makes me feel the same as a card i got once which said:

Put your feet up and have a great birthday

Then inside

All the housework will still be there for you tomorrow.

If I had recently divorced a selfish, tight-fisted husband, and the card was given to me by my best friend with a comment inside like "aren't you glad this isn't you any more?!" I would find it hilarious. With your context - just awful.

I'm going against the norm, I actually found that really funny!

Very sexist. It would be better if her final response was - "Don't bother taking your key. The locks are being changed".

I think it’s a shit joke that hasn’t ever been funny. I think the person who sent it to you knowing your real life experience of living that shit joke is also not funny or particularly kind.

Hopefully, it won't be long before these cards are made illegal and selling them carries a punitive sentence: a gaol sentence would concentrate the mind of those who want to be slyly aggressive to women. After all, as another poster said, we wouldn't laugh at racism, why sexism?

Bloody hell, please tell me this is a joke in itself?!
Going to prison for telling an (admittedly naff) joke?!
FFS.
Just - wow.
The thread's more funny than the actual joke!

Havent rtft yet but my first thought is coercive control.

It's mildly amusing. The kind of card you give to someone who has a sense of humour and will take it at face value. If my DH sent cards, I can see him sending me this - but it's probably too tame 😂😂😂 and we don't send each other cards

Lame

Bit sexist. Not very funny. No one would buy me this card.

As an in-joke between people who know each other well - whatever works for you.

Otherwise, if I received it, I'd play the humourless feminist: I don't get it. What's the joke? So she's left shivering in the cold alone? Why is that funny? Could you explain again?

I was in an abusive relationship, took me ten years to get out of. I went to a women's refuge it helped me stop being a victim. When I left the refuge I had changed, I knew who I was and what I wanted, having a strange sense of humour helped me. When I was a kid I was one of the class clowns. I much prefer the humour of days past than most of the shite today. When I see a comedian I expect them to make me cry with laughter not cry from boredom. I have been known to proper belly laugh at funerals. Especially the one I went to for a stuffy old uncle, someone did the loudest echoing fart and that was it. Lots of us were laughing even the vicar tittered a bit. I have in my many years of life come to realise you need a sense of humour to get you through most things. A laugh a day is good for the soul.

Love it! It's the sort of card we'd give to each other in my family

This is a scene in the Royale Family.
It’s Jim’s b’day etc and he says this to his wife Barbara. I would just see it for what it is, just a joke card. If it was the only one from my husband, I’d be pissed at the lack of effort.

It's a card. I really couldn't be arsed to be offended at this

Agreed; this is a joke about coercive control, and to be perfectly honest, if I knew anyone who found it funny I'd assume they were either an absolute cunt, or really, really, embarrassingly stupid.

Fortunately, I don't know anyone who would find that funny.

Funny until it hits a nerve

It’s the type of thing my DP would send to me, or vice verse. We’d both laugh... mainly as we’re a couple of 40 something children 🤦🏼‍♀️

And sorry, OP, I pressed send too soon: I am so incredibly sorry you are coping with all you are. Nobody should have to live that way.