How does this birthday card make you feel?

[Fretful]

Without giving any background as I would like some unbiased opinions, please

It's pretty pathetic, a £ shop Bernard Manning type joke

Same Moanna

The joke isn't funny but if someone gave it to me I wouldn't be offended I'd just wish they'd got something a bit more 'me'.

Looks like an ancient Andy Capp misogynistic 'joke' recycled from the 1950s.

Makes me think of the Royal family, they did that joke in one of the episodes.

Oh sorry OP, I didn't read your update. That's really off of that family member. Sorry you are going through that.

Not funny at al,
sexist

not read the full thread in my haste

Sexist shit (& I thought that before I read your update Op).

Hope you get the real life support you need

I think it's a rubbish card and a sexist joke. If a friend gave me a card like that - I'd assume they were doing so as a piss take - as they know I'm a feminist and so are all my friends.

I'm not impressed, it's pretty crap as cards go.

How does the card make you feel @Fretful?

Sorry re above - I didn't realise there were ten pages. I wish you the best for happy days ahead.

It’s a card.

Unless I’m receiving it, it’s doesnt make me feel anything.
If I’m receiving it, I feel old.

Only funny as that's exactly what my ex stepdad would say to my mum - and probably mean it.

apologies, jumped straight to last page and havent rtft xx

it doesnt make me feel anything. ..i dont know anyone whats likely to send me it. its george/mildred esk,but,lesser evolved. why?

I have to say I found it mildly funny, but I can totally see why you are upset by it. Years ago, I came back from a holiday to hear that my neighbour had died. I went to see his widow and said "I'm so sorry, I'd have gone to his funeral if I'd been home." She replied "Oh no dear, nobody went. He said he didn't want anybody there, so I went to the co-op" (He had been a miserable unfriendly man). She was on an absolute high when he died. She told me of physical abuse she'd suffered in her 54 year marriage, and she told me that his routine had been to make her clean out and relay the fire every morning. It was the only form of heating in their prefab. He would go out during the day, coming back early afternoon and shutting himself in his shed. At 8.30pm he would come in and tell her to go to bed, then he would light the fire and sit by it until he went to bed. After he died, she went to look in the shed, and found a comfy armchair, with three heaters pointed at it. Whilst she had suffered in the cold, he had kept himself warm. The sad thing was that she only had 3 months alone before her equally abusive daughter came to convalesce after an operation and refused to leave. Please, don't be like my sweet neighbour. Get yourself out of there.

Abuse? Seriously? It's just a card and I think it's funny. My DH gets so much stick for doing this and I would buy this card for him if I saw it. He turns everything off when he goes out (not to the pub) like it's some kind of second nature to him. He will even turn out the light when he leaves a room regardless of the fact that there is still someone in there. He doesn't do it in some male alpha/abusive kind of way - he genuinely goes into automatic pilot and doesn't realise he is doing it. We (me and our 3 adult DD's) just switch heating/lights back on again. He gets a lot of stick for doing it and there is absolutely no way we are victims of any kind of abuse. No doubt someone will come along and tell me to LTB. 30 years of marriage I still love the man and the silly daft things he does and without doubt he puts up with all my crap for the same reason.

I think it would be seen as funny by my parents because their marrriage is the absolute opposite of that. Dad would never do that and mum would never stand for it if he tried. They genuinely love each other and there is no abuse.

But then there are other marriages where this would be too close to reality for comfort.

Its the sort of thing that a person with no experience of a relationship with that kind of nasty behaviour would buy without really thinking about whether it is appropriate for the receiver as they may not know the true situation. Anyone who does know the truth and buys it is at best a fucking idiot and at worse a cruel bastard.

It’s like a snapshot from my parent’s marriage.

So how does it make me feel. It reminds me of every time I begged her to leave her abuser during the her life.

I don't get it, and I'm usually quite in tune with dirty jokes

Dieu. Try reading the thread. It has been explained countless times. And it’s not a dirty joke. Just read what’s been written, it’s really not complicated.

Sort of funny but not THAT funny as I had to think about it a bit before I understood the joke

It's about as funny as any other humorous card? Ie not very but bless them for trying