DH wants me to eat meat!

[ElizabethForever]

I have been a vegan my entire life. My parents are vegans and my siblings are. My husband is mainly vegan as I do the food shopping and cooking. I have never stopped him eating the food he wants to eat however anything containing animal products in the garage (we have a fridge/freezer out there).
I am in the very very early stages of pregnancy and since we found our DH keeps making hints that I should be eating meat to keep the baby healthy. I have never had any problems with my iron levels etc but I have never been pregnant before. DH has upset me by suggesting I go against something which is obviously a huge part of my life but I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable to be upset or if hormones are making me think more of it? Thanks

Our only fridge freezer is in the garage. I'd never considered five steps through the connecting door to be a trek before...

I'm not veggie or vegan but had heard about Angela Liddon's oh she glows book. I've tried two recipes so far and they are delicious! Especially the tex mex casserole.

Veggie since I was 17, ds is happy and healthy, he eats meat with dh as I want him to choose his path but he was born from a veggie and as he was bf he was veggie till 6mths and no probs at all.

Buy him a book about pregnancy and highlight the bits about diet in pregnancy.. It sounds like he is worried about the baby, without any real grounds and is panicking... set him straight

Sounds like a lot of control issues going on in your mind. Interested to know if you have your husband cook the meat products or do you cook his food? Also hearing a lot about how this affects you. You, you, you. This thread is all about you and your rights. It wasn't about how would this affect my child. You can suck it up for a few months until the baby is born. Your husband has to live with you for life.

I understand... I have been vegan 10 years. My son, Liam, who is now 3 has been vegan his entire life. While pregnant I ate an entirely vegan diet, which I supplemented with vitamins and minerals. Liam is far ahead of the curve and excels not only mentally, but physically.

Anybody who will ridicule you for your thoughts, beliefs, and way has a problem and doesn’t deserve you. And anybody that cannot relate to your wishes is lacking social graces.

It took me many years to realize that narcissism is a real mental disorder and that it is a very real thing that prevails. Please
don’t let yourself and your child suffer because of someone who doesn’t actually respect you.

PLEASE! Take a google search and read just 3 articles about narcissistic behavior. It’s not you - HIM!!! Pinterest has a lot of good hits too!

Get away! It goes far beyond your religious/spiritual beliefs... it’s about control and manipulation on HIS part. NOT what these other guys on here are saying about your selfishness. Please don’t believe that!

I have been through it. I have deep sorrow for your situation, but know you are going to be the strongest of strong because of it!

❤️Courtney

I only ate chicken and fish before pregnancy and decided to add in lean red mince instead of quorn to help my iron levels and as I thought it was good for baby, 2 weeks later I had gout!!! I stopped eating it again and my gout disappeared in a week! Totally agree that if you are healthy and have no nutritional deficits you may do worse by adding new things in.
However I also suspect your DP is trying to help you and baby, rather than control you. Maybe try explaining proper nutrition to him if you haven't already. I stupidly thought iron=red meat without really looking into anything and my poor foot paid the price!

I speak as a meat eater married to a vegetarian who keeps banging on me to keep changing my choices.

In my first trimester of pregnancy, everybody around me was stressing me to eat MORE meat including him (!), but I craved carbohydrates and couldn't swallow a single piece. He ordered me a huge steak for our wedding anniversary dinner, and took me 1hr to finish it.

Results of my first blood test: my iron levels were exceeding the range, that's why my body kept refusing meat. Lesson learned.

Listen to your body (and medical tests of course)

Midwives are not very supportive of vegan I am in my experience. I suggest speaking to a dietician who will be able to ensure you are getting everything you and your growing baby need. Some expert advice might stop your husband from worrying.

Both my midwife & consultant told me that I didn’t need to start eating meat when I was pregnant as my body wasn’t used to not having it. I didn’t have any problems with iron levels either, but lots of meat-eating pregnant women do anyway, so needing extra iron tablets at some point wouldn’t be unusual anyway.

I did pay closer attention to what I was eating & increased the high protein & iron rich foods. Also took multi-vitamins which I don’t normally do.

Congratulations

First and foremost, do what what's best for you and your baby. I'm on a whole food plant-based no oil diet and have been now for 5+ years. I admire that you were raised vegan because I intend to raise my baby (i'm pregnant and due may 5th) this way. It's the best gift a parent can give a child especially today. You can be rest assured that you'll be fine. My blood work has blown away the obgyn that I used to have until recently. I terminated care with him after he exploded on me and my husband for refusing an ultrasound. We are now planning on having out baby at home with a midwife. He was expecting my blood results to be super low but was left with his mouth open. Your parents raised you vegan and that's all your body knows. You'll end up sick by compromising so I'd highly suggest you guard that baby and yourself. This is NOT the era of eating anyhowly. Be encouraged and know that you are not alone. I had MS that's how I ended up living this way.