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Netflix Madeleine McCann

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mumineedawee · 16/03/2019 17:57

AIBU to think that any coverage of her disappearance is a good thing. I watched two episodes of the Netflix programme and think that if it were to bring her back into the spotlight, then surely it’s worthwhile? I’m on my own in that opinion here in our house.

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pineapplebryanbrown · 16/03/2019 20:21

The Jane Tanner sighting was dismissed as another holiday family carrying their own sleeping child back from the night creche.

It's thought someone was in the room when Matthew Oldfield checked at 9.30.

That's what i understood from the documentary.

I admire how the McCanns have dealt with this. They've stayed together and they've been tireless in their search. I doubt i would have had the strength or intelligence to be so resourceful.

DanglyBangly · 16/03/2019 20:22

Meh. Holiday mode. Several other couples doing the same. Baby listening service offered by holiday company at other resorts (but not this one). Not a massive leap to make the decision they did about leaving them, and they’ve more than paid the price.

SilverySurfer · 16/03/2019 20:22

I am not a parent and have never understood this. As a child when we went on family holidays my parents, sibling and I would spend time on the beach, visiting local places of interest, go to playgrounds, etc and then in the evening we would all eat together, my sister and I would go to bed and my parents would spend the evening chatting, watching tv etc.

It appears that the McCann children were placed in the kids club every day and left alone every evening while the parents went out to dinner. So during the course of the holiday the only time adults and children spent any time together was breakfast, lunch and presumably tea for the children.

Is this a common thing? When you go on holiday do you offload your children at the kids club all day and leave them alone all evening?

MadMillie · 16/03/2019 20:26

I wondered where the 3Augidos forum went! It's on the list in the libel cases. I used to read the transcripts from the Portuguese papers that a lady posted on there.

Chocolate50 · 16/03/2019 20:26

goldengummybear
'Its a strange story and I must admit that I felt even worse for the missing children who were forgotten as a result of the focus on MM being so intense.'
you have thos wrong - the focus on MM's disappearance highlights the plight of other children who have been snatched - many of these go without publicity anyway. A lot of eyes will be opened by this information

notacooldad · 16/03/2019 20:27

I'm curious, are the so called Tapas 7 still friends with the McCanns and being supportive. Something like this would surely test friendships!

If anyone likes podcasts there is a good one called 'Maddie' if anyone is interested

AlecTrevelyan006 · 16/03/2019 20:27
ILoveBray · 16/03/2019 20:28

Lamplight5

There are things that newspapers legally can't print, but why would that mean that your friend can't tell you?

Because if he's caught discussing it he could lose his job or be sued, it's that serious. There are things he's just not allowed to say, even to friends. He says it's incredibly frustrating to know what they know and basically be gagged.

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Biancadelrioisback · 16/03/2019 20:28

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Ivgotasecretcanyoukeepit · 16/03/2019 20:29

The 48 questions that were never answered are interesting.

Does anyone know if this is true

Is it true that in England you even considered handing over Madeleine’s custody to a relative?

Pinkbells · 16/03/2019 20:31

It is very sloooow so I can see how 8 episodes could probably easily been halved at least, but it might help. Depends on how much the parents are being slighted in it. I've only seen one episode but if it leaves people feeling the parents had some involvement then there will be less of an impetus to get out there searching. Poor little girl.

notacooldad · 16/03/2019 20:33

*Is this a common thing? When you go on holiday do you offload your children at the kids club all day and leave them alone all evening?
Is it heck a common thing to leave your kids like that.
Mine are adults now so this is pre Maddie but we would go on holiday. The boys would go into the kids some mornings if they wanted to. They would usually bring their new friends round to meet us! After lunch we would go out to the beach and in the afternoons the kids liked being in the swimming pools or sea.
We would go to the club house for the kids entertainment. After which they were knocked. We would head back to the apartment, vcaravan, tent ( depending how well off we we're that year) and just relax until our bed times.
Great days and I'd love to be able to do them all over again!

PlainVanilla · 16/03/2019 20:35

Nothing more has ever been mentioned about the blood that was found in their hire car. It was, allegedly, Madeleine's.

youarenotkiddingme · 16/03/2019 20:35

Actually it's interesting now someone's bought up MO check.

They seem to be quite happy to post and print he didn't look in room, window appeared open and light, door open more than left and heard a noise.

Yet there is absolutely no vitriol towards him for not reporting his concerns or checking. Surely if you noticed enough for it now become the party line in the groups it's when abduction occurred - you were concerned enough at time?

That's not speculation of what happened just an observation of something that stood out massively to me as a theme throughout the documentary.

I also agree that the documentary highlights many cases. Ones I'd never heard of before.
Plus Netflix has a whole host of "the disappearance of ....." documentaries. They haven't solely chosen this case.

Desperateforspring · 16/03/2019 20:37

I think it's someone from the kids club or that environment.even someone from the cooking side at kid's club. We know now child predators work with children. It's someone known to her,she spent everyday in that clubs without parents .

TheCraicDealer · 16/03/2019 20:37

I'll have to watch this. I was in my teens when MM went missing and was more than a bit "wtf" about leaving your kids whilst you had dinner and drinks with friends. Our parents loved their holidays and drinking- they didn't prioritise DTwin and i's comfort or enjoyment when picking a type of holiday or location and it's caused plenty of rows over the years for various reasons. But they still slung us in a pram and brought us out with them rather than leaving us in a hotel room. DM was horrified when I asked if they'd ever considered leaving us. But being with other families who are all doing the same thing with no apparent consequences, like Lania, must normalise it to the extent you take risks you wouldn't normally.

And aside from anything else I don't understand when these kids are having their own tea if their parents don't want to eat in a restaurant with them!

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 16/03/2019 20:38

We know what happened to Ben needham , it came out a couple of years ago

What do you mean?

SchadenfreudePersonified · 16/03/2019 20:39

Ben Needhams case was solved last year. As far as I can remember, they found his toy at a site which was under construction at the time. A construction worker confessed to a friend before dying of cancer that he killed Ben by accident.

I read that, too. That poor baby, and that poor mother.

All of those years hoping and praying only to learn that her precious child was lying in an unmarked grave - my heart aches for her. But I am glad that at last she knows, and is able to grieve her immeasurable loss properly and with finality.

caroline161 · 16/03/2019 20:40

**Lamplight5
Your friends husband doesn't know anything. Yet more conspiracy theories to whip people into a frenzy. If he did and the press have evidence why have they not taken it to the police and why have the police not acted upon it?

Silkyanduna · 16/03/2019 20:41

I have a 3 year old And 18 month and can’t imsgine what goes through your head to think it’s ok to leave your children in a hotel room and go out for dinner. These are supposed educated people. Only watched the first episode but the bit they said that Madeline/twins woke the night before crying and asked why the parents made my blood boil. Surely if that happened and your child didn’t no where you were you wouldn’t leave them a following night? I actually think leaving the kids worse than leaving your kids a popping to the corner shop quickly because at least in that case the child would be in familiar surroundings not a foreign country. No one should go through the pain of losing a child but I do lack sympathy because of such stupid decisions that they made. It said in the documentary that there was a babysitting service but they chose not to use it. I can’t understand why you wouldn’t. I don’t agree that it was common place to leave you children either. My parents never left me my grandparents never left my parents and none of my friends parents left them; and I certainly wouldn’t leave my children

AlecTrevelyan006 · 16/03/2019 20:42

Caroline61 - are you really that naive?

RunAndBeeHappy · 16/03/2019 20:43

i hope to god Kate doesn't use mumsnet

Lamplight5 · 16/03/2019 20:43

ILoveBray

Because if he's caught discussing it he could lose his job or be sued, it's that serious. There are things he's just not allowed to say, even to friends. He says it's incredibly frustrating to know what they know and basically be gagged.

You can't be sued to speaking the truth in a private conversation.

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