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Netflix Madeleine McCann

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mumineedawee · 16/03/2019 17:57

AIBU to think that any coverage of her disappearance is a good thing. I watched two episodes of the Netflix programme and think that if it were to bring her back into the spotlight, then surely it’s worthwhile? I’m on my own in that opinion here in our house.

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itwaseverthus · 17/03/2019 13:38

GreatDuckCookery my answer you have highlighted was me imagining being asked that very question, in that very setting. I would give interviews just as the McCanns did. I would answer all the questions every police officer asked of me. I would sing like a canary, investigate every sighting myself and never stop walking the streets searching for my child. But what I would never do is leave three kids under four in an unlocked holiday apartment backing onto a road. That's not an expectation, that's a fact.

acciocat · 17/03/2019 13:39

There are so many inconsistencies around the timeline of events. And yet... the Macanns continue to insist that there is one specific explanation for the disappearance.

Desperateforspring · 17/03/2019 13:41

I would probably be arsey by that point yes. Sarcastic, angry .

I wonder if British team shouldn't have gone out straight away....

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 17/03/2019 13:42

Do you mean to across as sanctimonious itwaseverthus? Because you really do.

caughtinanet · 17/03/2019 13:43

I judge people on here for doing things that I would never do. I would never let my children have a trampoline at home, I would never let my child play out on the street unsupervised, I would never give my child grapes without them being cut up, I would never go to bed at night and leave a knife on the side in the kitchen, I would never leave my child in the house alone. I consider the parents that do to be neglectful because if anything happened to their child in any of the above circumstances it would be their fault for putting them in that position in the first place

You don't say what age your children are but imo that's well outside normal parenting, I do and have done everything on your list, judge away, my children have grown up with a normal view of risk and know how to keep themselves safe, you are denying your children the opportunity to learn vital life skills.

Do you allow them to go in cars? That would be pretty irresponsible

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 17/03/2019 13:43

I recall Joanne Lees - an entirely innocent party and a victim of a vile crime whose perpetrator is now thankfully behind bars - being asked directly on camera whether she killed her boyfriend Peter Falconio. The camera paused on her incredulous face before cut to ad break - she was shown half-laughing in her response in incredulous disbelief that anyone could possibly have asked her that. This was later seen practically as an admission of her 'guilt'. Or at best, 'how could she think that was funny?' Never overestimate the intelligence of interpreters who really are of the most literal kind.

The poor woman got as rough a ride as the McCanns are getting from the press. How can anyone possibly know how they would respond, had they suffered the ultimate human tragedy and then been blindsided by a question like this?

makemineapinacolada · 17/03/2019 13:44

if my child went missing and I believed her to be alive my answers would be along the lines "whatever happened I just want her back", make appeals for her return etc etc...they just talk of abduction but no real expectation she may be dead but they've supposedly no idea?

itwaseverthus · 17/03/2019 13:44

Do you mean to across as sanctimonious itwaseverthus? Because you really do. No, I really don't mean to come across as such but if holding a differing opinion to you makes me such, so be it Smile

sweeneytoddsrazor · 17/03/2019 13:45

There is no concrete proof of anything. It is all speculation and theory.
I have plenty of questions regarding an alleged abduction. I don't think we will ever know what happened. I think the best outcome for the child is she was stolen to order and is somewhere happy and loved and blissfully ignorant and remains that way throughout her life.

makemineapinacolada · 17/03/2019 13:46

Did they ever explain why they weren't looking the apartment? Did they have a key? Was the lock broken? Like someone mentioned did they leave their valuables and passports there whilst out?

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 17/03/2019 13:48

That’s a shame- I thought this thread was specifically about the documentary Confused

SchadenfreudePersonified · 17/03/2019 13:49

I must be really anally retentive because the idea of anyone sharing a toothbrush with anyone just makes me heave.

Same here Bundy !

I am quite happy to snog DH, but NO WAY would I use his toothbrush!

I can't even stand the thought of drinking out of a cup that someone else has used. Turns my stomach.

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itwaseverthus · 17/03/2019 13:49

The poor woman got as rough a ride as the McCanns are getting from the press. How can anyone possibly know how they would respond, had they suffered the ultimate human tragedy and then been blindsided by a question like this? I think the McCann's interview questions would likely have been agreed in advance, certainly they had a PR guru guiding them all the way for years. So I am not convinced Gerry McCann was blindsided but that's just opinion. His response just needles something in me, it feels off. But taken alone, I agree, it's not evidence of anything.

Pinkbells · 17/03/2019 13:50

They are very calm, in all their interviews. You can't even detect the anger and absolute helplessness under the surface. Very odd.

ColeHawlins · 17/03/2019 13:51

Did they ever explain why they weren't looking the apartment? Did they have a key? Was the lock broken?

The patio doors were closer to the tapas bar than the "front door" side, but they didn't lock from the outside. Mid week, the McCanns (according to FIona P, decided to switch from going the long way around to the front door and instead started leaving the sliding doors unlocked and checking via the patio.

itwaseverthus · 17/03/2019 13:51

I don't have Netflix so no idea why I am commenting but if anyone has watched it, what does it say about Martin Smith's sighting? Is it as false as the Panorama clip?

nokidshere · 17/03/2019 13:51

You don't say what age your children are but imo that's well outside normal parenting, I do and have done everything on your list, judge away, my children have grown up with a normal view of risk and know how to keep themselves safe, you are denying your children the opportunity to learn vital life skills.

Do you allow them to go in cars? That would be pretty irresponsible

My children are now 17 and 20. They are happy, independent adults. One at Uni and one about to go. They are both perfectly well adjusted and know exactly how to keep themselves safe. They both drive, study and work away from home. They were not mollycoddled, nor overprotected. They both are fully able to look after themselves in terms of domesticity.

I accept that the things I was concerned about when they were young were my own fears and not theirs. Nor do I expect others to share my fears.

However, you have simply judged me for my parenting based on what I wrote. Which is exactly the point isn't it? We all do what we deem responsible or not. We make our judgements based on our own upbringing and fears, what our peers are doing, what our parents did.

My own "I would never" does not closely resemble other people's "I would never". And yours does not resemble mine.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 17/03/2019 13:51

Not sure that having a trampoline at home is anywhere near as bad as leaving 3 kids under 4 alone though. What bizarre thinking.

SilverySurfer · 17/03/2019 13:52

itwaseverthus - gerrymccannsblogs.co.uk/press/5sep7/Express-13-09-07.htm

itwaseverthus · 17/03/2019 13:53

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AnneOfCleanTables · 17/03/2019 13:53

iirc the police said that in an early statement, the family did say they locked the door but then changed that to say the door had been open.

Neither answer is ideal. If the door was locked, it was more difficult for the children to wander off but they were trapped if a fire broke out. If they left the door open, anyone could wander in. Neither scenario is ideal parenting.

youarenotkiddingme · 17/03/2019 13:54

Lania did you do flotilla holidays with a company similar to MW? If so I use to work for them. I was mainland in Ionian islands area. They really did come across as safe (was a MW in the village I was in too). I get what you mean. You do something and then realise it's bloody stupid! Think we are probably all guilty of that - although most can't admit to do something stupid as they don't realise it was - because no consequence occurred!

Well I thought it was safe until the bar wars stayed and gangs appeared with guns Shock

nokidshere · 17/03/2019 13:55

Not sure that having a trampoline at home is anywhere near as bad as leaving 3 kids under 4 alone though. What bizarre thinking.

Hmm it's not about the trampolining or the grapes or the knife, it's about judging others based on your own standards

Desperateforspring · 17/03/2019 13:55

Strange gang going around pretending to be raising money for non existent charity work, one of whom is found in house by 3 year old child....

Sexual predator on loose entering house and physically assaulting 4 young British children!!
But actually getting into the bed of others within 40 miles radius ...

Men seen lurking directly around the apartment.

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