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Netflix Madeleine McCann

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mumineedawee · 16/03/2019 17:57

AIBU to think that any coverage of her disappearance is a good thing. I watched two episodes of the Netflix programme and think that if it were to bring her back into the spotlight, then surely it’s worthwhile? I’m on my own in that opinion here in our house.

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Fresta · 17/03/2019 12:37

I don't for one minute think the McCanns were involved in her disappearance. What would their motive be?

acciocat · 17/03/2019 12:37

The mccanns aren’t silent though are they? They have repeated in interviews and in writing (the book) that MM was abducted from her bed. This is not an established fact. It seems they are quite happy to speak up when they want us to buy into one particular theory.

And I agree, this thread will disappear soon. I’m amazed it’s still here tbh

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Peopleshouldread · 17/03/2019 12:38

@sleepingsloth that is only one theory out of many that the police report to have worked on during the course of the investigation, and surely if that were the predominant one being focused on you would hear about an International task force working on it funded by multiple agencies and Interpol, not just the British. Maybe there is one, but you would suspect that other missing persons would be publicly linked to it as well.

Querying the resources being spent by the British alone is not depraved especially given the huge sums spent with tragically no results. It would be fabulous if similar funds could be spent on all children who are also missing. But they aren't, funds are limited. Nor are many other missing children given the kind of publicity this case has been.
Obviously smashing any kind of pedophile ring would be fabulous but how many other children might have been found over the past 12 years if the police had been given a portion of these funds spent on one tragic little girl?

Jellyonawonkyplate · 17/03/2019 12:40

accio

but a 3 year old wouldn't be able to open shutters and a window surely?! None of mine ever bothered with windows at that age. People are desperate to blame or suspect the parents, even discounting facts to do that.

DecayingOrbit · 17/03/2019 12:40

The motive for claiming abduction would be to counteract the neglect charges and the possible involvement/removal of the other children re: Social Services. Loss of jobs, etc

YogaWannabe · 17/03/2019 12:41

Thanks @Puzzledandpissedoff
The weird thing is MN are usually fairly brave in what they allow even if it’s about a litigious person. As you say, Reddit are pretty no holes barred about MM (and everything!) and they’re fine.

They have very strong media links apparently, I wonder is it something to do with that.

SleepingSloth · 17/03/2019 12:42

I don't see how the documentary claims hold up anyway, the timings of people coming and going, with wine having been consumed, are not likely to be precise enough to rule out anything.

I think it said there were other witnesses from the restaurant not just within the McCanns group. I'm pretty sure Gerry has been ruled out by Police.

runandbehappy50 · 17/03/2019 12:43

Don't forget cuddlecat!! Not sure if already mentioned....but a young child ( certainly all 5 of mine) would usually get cautiously out of bed with a soft toy/blanket of some sort before stepping out into a dark room

Madeleine took nothing,indicating she was asleep or had no chance to pick her cat up

Desperateforspring · 17/03/2019 12:43

Decaying it was all explained in documentary re blood etc.

runandbehappy50 · 17/03/2019 12:44

decaying what a load of rubbish!!

itwaseverthus · 17/03/2019 12:45

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acciocat · 17/03/2019 12:47

Jellyonawonkyplate

You’re falling for the line that anyone who questions anything is blaming. We’re not. We’re simply questioning the things which don’t add up and which make this case so different to all others.

KM says in her book that soon after MM’s disappearance, they discovered the shutters were easily openable from the road.

It’s not beyond the realms of possibility that some tipsy holiday maker might have pulled the shutter up on passing. It might be completely unconnected to the disappearance.

That’s my point. Very little is actually known. Which is why it sits uneasily that the parents are determined to make the public but into one specific theory... arguably one which may enable them to feel less culpable than if she wandered out.

Fact is, none of us know. And I can’t think of any other missing child case where the parents have absolutely insisted that there is only one possible explanation. Surely most parents would want any possible avenue explored; the last thing on their mind would be deciding that only one theory is possible, and keeping the whole PR machine going to that end.

My view is that I just don’t know. She may have been abducted from her bed. She may have been abducted from outside. She may have been involved in an accident outside. I don’t know. None of us know.

acciocat · 17/03/2019 12:48

buy into

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 17/03/2019 12:49

Imagine being asked if you’d killed your daughter? How would expect someone to reply?

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SleepingSloth · 17/03/2019 12:52

Querying the resources being spent by the British alone is not depraved especially given the huge sums spent with tragically no results.

I meant the people involved are depraved not querying the money spent.

and surely if that were the predominant one being focused on you would hear about an International task force working on it funded by multiple agencies and Interpol, not just the British.

We don't really hear of anyone's involvement. It's only when the investigation is granted more money that we hear about it. I'm sure there is a lot we don't know and most of us are happy to bury our heads in the sand and not acknowlege that human trafficking and paedophiles are more common than we want to believe.

Obviously smashing any kind of pedophile ring would be fabulous but how many other children might have been found over the past 12 years if the police had been given a portion of these funds spent on one tragic little girl?

Again, this money isn't going on just one child. I think this thing is huge with possibly tens of thousands of criminals and victims involved. In my opinion, this is why it is being funded still. I believe this is money worth spending. You are of course entitled to your opinion but this is mine.

IdaIdes · 17/03/2019 12:52

Do they cover Clement Freud? Surely it has to be seen as at least a little odd that a known reclusive pedophile living down the road from the hotel decided to become good friends of the parents after her disappearance. I think that would haunt me more than anything now that he's dead.

ILoveBray · 17/03/2019 12:53

I'm very glad Mumsnet HQ have kept this thread up. People should be allowed to talk about this.

nokidshere · 17/03/2019 12:53

So often on mn there are people who berate others for their parenting choices. The people who ask would it be ok if I nip to the shop and leave my child asleep, should I let my child go on the underground alone, is it ok if I go on holiday and leave my dc with their father/grandparents. And inevitably the replies range from "omg you can't do that" to "stop being a helicopter parent" or "my child was walking 2 miles to school alone at 5 yrs old".

There are always children missing. Someone will always say "I would never do that", others will say "I did that but I will never do it again".

I judge people on here for doing things that I would never do. I would never let my children have a trampoline at home, I would never let my child play out on the street unsupervised, I would never give my child grapes without them being cut up, I would never go to bed at night and leave a knife on the side in the kitchen, I would never leave my child in the house alone. I consider the parents that do to be neglectful because if anything happened to their child in any of the above circumstances it would be their fault for putting them in that position in the first place.

I would be told by hundreds of people that I was unreasonable, that people use trampolines everyday without incident, that they were left home without any issues, that a child of 7 doesn't need grapes cutting up, that I was being neurotic and stupid for thinking that a child might get up before me and hurt themselves because I left a knife on the side in the kitchen. But the fact is that children have died in all of the scenarios above and that's because their parents didn't foresee the consequences of their actions, because there was no need to see, because they have done it hundreds of times before and all was well.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. It helps us learn from other people's mistakes or bad judgements. It helps us feel,good about ourselves that we didn't or don't do those things.

There is no evidence that the McCanns had anything to do with her disappearance, the waters are very muddied from all the reporting. There is not one person on this thread who wouldn't use every penny, every resource offered to them if their child went missing. Not one person on this thread who would say "it's been 11 years and no sign, that's ok you can stop looking for her now". Not one person who would say to the media "no I won't do more interviews/articles/books because it hasn't worked already" and to imply that they should just stop is utterly ridiculous. It's not the McCanns call that the police are still investigating, still funding it and not one person here would say "it's ok we've used enough of your funding just stop looking".

They don't care what you think, and why should they? Because if your child were missing you would be doing exactly what they are. Looking for them, forever.

cheeseypizza · 17/03/2019 12:53

@itwaseverthus he sounds like shamima begun when she said they had no proof against her.

Desperateforspring · 17/03/2019 12:55

I don't buy theory she was accidentally killed at all, wandering from apartment.

Child would be crying .. walking crying... wailing mummy Etc.

Scared of the dark.

hopelessatthinkingupusernames · 17/03/2019 12:56

Runandbehappy my 3yo wakes in the night sometimes cos he has lost a toy under his covers. It’s possible Madeleine woke up and cried because she couldn’t find cuddlecat then went looking for her parents to ask them to help her find it

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 17/03/2019 12:57

Mnhq have no problem with this case being discussed, the problem arises when people start accusing the McCannns of having something to do with her disappearance.

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