Aibu about this money?

[Tearsandfears]

Im going on a short break with friends later this year. I arranged it with their agreement, and booked and paid the deposit.

That was 2 months ago. I sent all the info through and asked them to reimburse me but I've had no offers of payment since then. I sent an email this week as a reminder, heard nothing so then text them to advise of email. Get reply from friend 1 saying she will give me cash when she sees me (this might not be until the holiday) because she cant do a bank transfer or get the mpney to me any other way! Nothing from other friend yet.

I am currently £400 out of pocket. I'm not going to starve but it is pretty annoying- aibu to feel like that?

I know someone already aske how they paid for passports, but I have to ask.

DO YOU KNOW IF THEY ACTUALLY HAVE THEM? 😂

They sound like that type of people who turns up at the airport and gets turned away because they didn't think they would need a passport...

Haven't read the whole thread but I have a cash card only Santander account and can do bank transfers.

Group whattsapp and keep asking. Basically shame them into transferring in from of the others.

She said they don't do WhatsApp. They don't have smartphones.

They sound a bit pathetic.

My mom is 90 and can do bank transfers with a phone call to her bank. She doesn’t fancy online banking but is ok with phone banking 🙂

Sausage, if car written off you would cancel insurance.

How does that work, then? Surely, if you buy a policy for a year and agree to pay for it in instalments, you've committed to paying the whole cost of the policy, haven't you?

If you sell the car and don't replace it during the year, you can get a refund for the unused months (less an admin fee), but not if you've already made a claim - can you?

Your "friends" sound useless. Even my 80 yr old DM has managed to make a bank transfer when I gave her the details by going into a bank.

Horrible when friends don't respect you. Had similar last year where everyone else was paid up ( because they'd been putting in the monthly amount we'd agreed on) and other friend only paid her share the final day the balance was due. This time I think we'll be booking flights and hotels separately so I'll tell her to book her own.

Hope it works out for you OP.

With friends like these you need a holiday with just you.

They’re not showing you any respect at all. Text them again and say you are going to alter the booking to take your DP and DC. A friend would have offered you the money back long before now without you needing to chase.

So hopefully they will take enough money to spend on holiday ??? What happens if they run out of money and can't get more as they only have cash cards....

I would be making sure you have plenty of spare cash to subsidise them while away

Just call and change the booking to your Dh and Ds, they are not going to pay. Chances are there will be a small charge for each name change.

It might be worth offering the skint mate an installment option if feasible.

Yanbu! They can get the money to you if they want to. As for the friend that says she can’t transfer it, that is bullshit. A friend did this to me once and said she’d “pay me I. Cash at the time” I just replied “sorry that doesn’t suit me. Money is tight and I’ll be paying interest in my credit card, can you deposit into bank Acct please. And wala it was there the next day. They are being CFS.

It might be worth offering the skint mate an installment option if feasible.

So facilitating her pathetic helplessness even more? 🙄

An install me to plan won't help when the person clearly doesn't want to pay other than in cash when she sees the OP.

Yep. I’d be seeing how I can change the holiday to your DP & DC. These people can’t function in real life, can they? Even my 70 year old parents can do online banking, DDs & PayPal. This is the action of people who simply don’t want to, and don’t intend to, pay you for this. They think that you’ll just let it ride, and pay for it, and they’ll continue to forget to pay you back.
Get rid of them from your life.

An update for anyone interested...

Friend 2 has paid now (came through before I sent the reminder) so despute my misgivings has clearly mastered the art of internet banking. Or went into a branch...either way she's paid me so that's great.

Friend 1 has now asked 2 to pay for her as she can't manage to do a bank transfer....!

Friend1's inability to get to grips with access to her money seems to be a bit of a cover to avoid paying her debts. I bet she manages to access it when she wants to buy something or needs to pay a bill before the bailiffs turn up. Online banking is so easy this really is ridiculous.

She really doesn't do it. Her limited internet access has allowed her to basically opt out of learning how to do stuff like paying bills online. It's frustrating but doesn't normally affect me thankfully.

I really don't understand such thinking. It doesn't sound like she's skint skint, as she's going on holiday, so the minimal cost of basic internet is usually offset by the savings it brings - cheaper online bills etc, as well as the obvious benefit of massively more convenient.

As an example yesterday, DP sold his car and the buyer paid there and then online with his phone and DP just logged into his account on his own phone to see that the money had moved over. No-one had to go to the bank to withdraw thousands that they then had to worry about losing and DP didn't have to worry about it being fake money and he didn't have to trek to the bank to deposit the money. Just a few clicks on a phone at it was all done just about instantly.

The thing is, even if she doesn't do online banking, she can write a cheque or send a postal order. It really isn't acceptable not to reimburse a friend who has shelled out hundreds of pounds until it's convenient for her.

F2 has said no to F1. F1 has asked if I am annoyed with her...with her lack of capability, yes. I think most people would be!

I hope you said “Yes, I am, to be honest!”