Is a teacher sending a personal thank letter to a child's home over stepping a boundary?

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Or normal?

I was surprised when DS got a thank you card through the post today, hand written from one of his school teachers.

Probably totally normal, I was just wondering really.

Anyone who has issues with this is actually flipping bonkers..Quite literally batshit lmao

Yet again mumsnet has left me convinced that no matter what teachers do, someone will take offence.

Our Head Teacher sent my children a thank you card for a Christmas present, I thought it was a lovely thing to do and the kids love it

I've got a hand written thank you card before. I was impressed the teacher went to the trouble (almost everyone gave her a present so she must have had loads of thank you cards). I think you'd have to be going out of your way to find this offensive in any way. Showing up at your house on Christmas day expecting dinner would be over stepping boundaries, a simple thank you card is a nice thought.

You are definitely, absolutely, totally unreasonable. We have one thread with a parent losing it over her disruptive child being mildly admonished, and here's one where another is losing it because her child was praised!!! Poor teacher, how dare they assume that pupils actually respond to positive, personal feedback. And for all the teachers on this thread and on the other I think you're bloody marvellous, my teachers were brilliant and I remember them well. As for those who are leaving I don't blame you, every single friend who has gone into teaching has now left, totally burnt-out, and the absolutely ridiculous level of carping and moaning that they put up with, over teeny-tiny things like this is one of the reasons why. This kind of positive incentivising is a tried/tested educational technique but it seems that these days parents know better about everything. Which I suppose is a good thing as soon there'll be no teachers left and you'll be home schooling. I imagine that cards are sent to personal addresses as that means that children who don't receive cards at the same time do not feel excluded which would be the case if they were given out on the premises. It's also nice to get friendly mail or at least I thought so, but next time someone sends me a card I'll seems I should be making sure they vetted in case they're a weirdo or a home invader.

And 'overstepping' seriously? Teachers are highly trained professionals not your bloody servants, think you've been watching far too much 'Downton Abbey' and similar.

Heard it all now. Next time I want to send a praise postcard I will phone ahead 🤣

I bet it’s a generic one that’s send sporadically to all the class. DS got one from his french teacher, it’s just a bit of a boost.

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As a teacher I have sent them - pupils and parents both loved them.
As a parent my children get them every so often from the Head. It's lovely.

I'm now rethinking my policy of a handwritten note to each child at the end of the year, as they are year six and leaving I thought it'd be appreciated but perhaps not.

Several of my son's teachers did this. I thought it set such a good example of good manners. They're all enhanced DBS checked and a polite thank you note isn't a safeguarding threat - if a teacher wants to groom a child they'd so so quietly and in person, surely?

It's a really nice thing for them to do, in a career where they already work insane hours for little thanks.

Should add that my eldest is home edded, and so I'm hardly a blanket approver of schools/all teachers. One of the teachers doing this I saw as a PITA. But this is a nice thing to do, objectively, IMO. Modelling good manners, and leading by example, too.

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Where is OP to provide context? Flounced because no one agreed with her (or very few!)?
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All the teachers getting defensive on this thread - why? Almost everyone thinks it's a lovely gesture! Don't stop doing what you're doing because of one uptight weirdo.

Jesus.. teachers can't do right for doing wrong these days can they?!

what a lovely thing to do.i think it would help kids so much to receive this.for those who always work hard and for those who perhaps don't do so well/or behave so well in school to receive something like this when they do do well. for lots of kids too who wont get much praise it bringing it into the home for them.

"invading the home through the letter box"... oh my God, I have heard it all now.

What a nice thing for the teacher to do.

If your DS is a teenager and the note said "thank you for the lovely evening snugglebums" then I would suspect a line has been crossed PMSL static-25.sinclairstoryline.com/resources/media/ea830700-1fa9-4d52-adc6-175ddf1eec6d-smallScale_homeinvasion2.JPG?1473292614750

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Agreed.

Its very likely that it is school policy and she's not aware of it. Perhaps the school should make this clear. I suspect OP has an ill-informed idea of what data teachers can access and what they can do with it.

I think it's a delightful gesture and I hope teachers continue to do so. I certainly hope to get one some day

Poor teachers can never win can they?

Context is everything OP.

OP isn’t back... anyone else suspecting that the note NOT said “thank you for the lovely evening snugglebums” ?

Welcome to MN, BoobiesToTheRescue.

Oh, the OP hasn't returned. Quelle surprise,

I get postcards home from my kids high school teachers congratulating them on their efforts at school, my youngest DS was sick at school before Christmas one year & couldn’t go in for the rest of the few days left of term, his teachers actually made the time to deliver items to him personally one Saturday afternoon before Christmas which I thought was lovely!

8 pages of comments and no op. I suspect we will never know what dc was thanked for

Ah I think it is really nice. Why not see it for what it is?