Is a teacher sending a personal thank letter to a child's home over stepping a boundary?

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Or normal?

I was surprised when DS got a thank you card through the post today, hand written from one of his school teachers.

Probably totally normal, I was just wondering really.

My childrens secondary school do these, they call them positive postcards and hand written by whatever teacher wants to praise them, i think its great, my fridge is covered in them

I think it's a kind gesture. Our teachers always send a handwritten thank you note for Christmas presents/end of term gifts. Eldest ds used to get the well done postcards from secondary school which were much appreciated too. Teachers have a pretty thankless job at the best of times without worrying if a lovely thought is ott. I'm quite sure they and most parents have bigger concerns in life. Teachers I thank you for all you do for our dcs

Totally normal. All my children got one from their primary teacher at Christmas time through the post.

I think this post is hilarious. We are now at such a state of remove from each other since the introduction of email and social media messaging apps, that someone is horrified by a handwritten letter landing on their doormat!!

Was this the postcard?

Teachers, eh? They'll be invading through the cat flap next!

Lovely to see so many posters saying how much they and their DC appreciate postcards and thank you cards from teachers.

It was always done for my dc and they liked it. Not intrusive, not overstepping.

The note i received telling me not to forget warm outerwear was (would i PURPOSELY let my ds be cold?)

You’ve been watching too much Emmerdale. 😁

To all the teachers on here

I already think you're amazing

Now I think you're utterly fecking amazing. Really, I do. Thank you

What. The. Actual. Fuck.

Thank you for being a teacher!!Y'all are the most under paid and unappreciated professional.But we love all of ours🤗❤

Did the OP ever come back?

DS would love it if he got a card from his teacher. Sounds like a really nice thing to do.

To all you teachers out there.... please carry on doing this stuff. It rocks and the kids love it. As a parent, I also think it’s mint! It’s lovely to receive something other than bills and junk crap through the letterbox. You are all doing a great job and some people are just thieves of joy.

Teachers, eh? They'll be invading through the cat flap next!

It's really heartening to know that most posters appreciate the gesture; I used to do it because:
I was brought up to do my thankyou notes, and I wouldn't ask a child to do something I don't expect of myself.
I can still remember how much I enjoyed getting proper letters in the post as a child (in the days before all I got seems to be bills and circulars).
Sometimes in class, the quiet little workers get overlooked, "the squeaky wheel gets the most oil", and the discipline of sitting down and writing to them goes some way towards reassuring them that they were appreciated.
And I still have letters of thanks from parents from years back; teachers blossom with a bit of praise as well!
It never occurred to me that this was overstepping boundaries, and I feel a bit sad that anybody should feel that way.
We had many entries for the COTY Cup (complaint of the year), but this particular one is a new one on me.

I sent out four handwritten postcards today following my attendance monitoring.

I sent them to pupils who have managed to improve their punctuality. I expect I’ll be visited in the office on Monday by some smiling faces. I won’t be stopping.

Dear Molly,
Thank you for taking 3 days absence this week. We were able to get through a lot of content. However, I am really sorry you are still having these headaches that seem to be of a particular problem every Monday through to Wednesday.
I was able to complete teaching slScatter graphs and we have now moved on to Pie charts as the class is so quiet unlike Thursdays and Fridays.
Take your time and get well fully. Pay no heed to the attendance officer. Your health comes first.
See next Thursday maybe.
KR,

Eh?

I can’t even rtwt... but I have some advice: just home educate and leave teachers alone.
Maybe move somewhere totally isolated from the rest of the world to protect your little cherub from the evils of kind, well meaning teachers. Or should that be to protect teachers from your bizarre behaviour and presumptions?
Weirdo.

No doubt they’ll replace us soon with robots designed by Gove himself, so it’ll be safe to reintegrate your precious dc into the education system.

I've read it all now. For fucking fuck's sake. Your child's teacher has gone out of their way to do something lovely for your child. Just appreciate it. I'm not a teacher but I have a SEN child who is the luckiest boy in the world with his wonderful teachers. I really do get very offended with all the "bash teacher" threads. The nicest thing a teacher did for my boy was a framed picture with his name in the middle with all his achievements around it. I should have reported her shouldn't I?

Why would it not be normal apart from the expense of posting. Think we have lost the art of actually giving thank you cards,other than for wedding gifts. As long as the card was for something appropriate can't see any problem.

Learn by example. A thank you letter is a sign of good manners and always a pleasure, I believe, to receive.

At DCs primary school they have a variety of rewards. DD6 comes home with a gold sticker every day for great handwriting, trying hard at maths, being kind etc. She brought home a handwritten letter from her teacher thanking her for her kindness and thoughtfulness. DD was so proud. It also promotes the art of letter writing.

Star of the week certificates are given to 2 pupils a week and every pupil gets one about twice a year, so don’t really mean much.

DD9 who struggles academically and has very low self esteem really notices everyone else getting recognition for school achievements. She has lovely manners and is very kind and helpful but misses out on any recognition while a small selection of pupils in her class are picked for teams, featured in the weekly newsletter, heads award, lunchtime manners award etc. She notices the same children getting picked for big parts in school plays, solo songs, readings in church, greeting parents for assemblies. The same children are also successful academically and in sports. DD is great with helping YR and Y1 pupils and loves being given jobs to do.

I t It would give her a massive boost to be recognised publicly

I praise all my DC but it is hard work trying to steer DD9 away from being bitter and comparing herself negatively to the other kids. A letter home from her teacher I think would be a big boost for her self esteem. She will soak up the tiniest bit of positive feedback from any member of school staff. I may even suggest it to the SENCO at their school.

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