Boss being awkward because I have given in my notice at work

[Clown74]

Basically I have given in my 1 month notice at work and I have until March 22nd there (start new job March 25th).

Since I have given in my notice my Boss has changed towards me as in being really like having no patience around me, telling me I am too slow at my job (she has never in the 7 years I have been there said this to me), looking at me in a rude way, not saying good morning/bye or being chatty and she tells another work colleague to tell me when she wants something done (again she has never done this before).

AIBU to think that she is upset with me for leaving? I only have 1 and a half weeks left but to me it seems like she is micro managing me and watching my every move (not my imagination others have noticed this too)

What is the best way to handle this situation as obviously I don't want to cause any bad feelings before I leave?

Also must add the person before me that left my Boss wasn't in on his last day and got him nothing or wished him well for the future.

In fact I wouldn’t go to HR unless she brings it up again then I would suggest to her that you both go down together to HR and discuss it (and that you have your leaving date in writing means she has nothing) - bet she backs off smartish! She’ll be hoping you have a week off in between jobs and will be trying to screw it up, or be trying to get you to turn up when you have finished so she can try and make you look foolish.
Definitely report her to HR

Pressed too soon in the last day and detail everything she has said/done.

Seriously wish I could take a day off or two this week as I can’t be bothered to put up with my Boss no more

Blimey, if you change the details in the OP to the boss being a "him" not a her, I'd wonder if you were at my old place.

It's a long story and it still upsets me now - it was the job I'd always wanted, and I really enjoyed it. I was the favourite when I got there, and was for a long time.

Anyway, the boss - who treated me like his cleverest friend and confidante for ages - eventually turned on me and made life intolerable. I went from loving my job to crying all the way home every night because he'd been such a massive arsehole over nothing, and I couldn't do right for doing wrong. It was as though he'd built me up to enjoy breaking me down again. All my self-confidence withered and died, I was second guessing my own decisions and then he'd berate me for being spineless.

It wasn't until I was forced to take up a second role alongside my own, that I could barely keep up with already, that I cracked. I handed my notice in and things became a bit like what Yellowfish describes in their fantasy company. I brazened it out until the last day, when he turned up grumpy and late to my leaving drinks, stood up in his coat for the standard "Wish you well for the future" and instead said he wasn't signing my card on principle, had not contributed to my leaving gift, and said I was very disappointing. In front of the team I managed.

Absolute dick to the end, I sobbed all the way home for the loss of what I'd hoped would've been my last ever job, the loss of my confidence, and for ever having been taken in by that utter wanker in the first place.

But there is a happy ending. About 2 years later he contacted me on LinkedIn to ask if I would be interested in a new role (it was PERFECT for me, exactly what I wanted to do). I said yes I would, and who would it be reporting to? He said, "Me".

So I got the opportunity to say "You? Ok, in that case no thanks."

I would hope that someone who'd made it to such a senior level would be able to act professionally and not like an actual child throwing their toys out.

All this 'they've invested in you for 7 years' nonsense is just a load of crap really. It's life. It should be no secret to businesses that sometimes staff move on and I'd expect them to be able to handle it maturely. Giving someone a job is not a favour, it benefits the company just as much as the OP.

My old firm invested in me for just as many years. When I left they were all lovely and my manager took me out for lunch on my last day. She still talks to me now and asks me how the new role is going etc...

It doesn't have to be seen as a personal attack!

And Yellowfishs woeful tales about her employer are clearly absolute bull shit.

As I said before my boss/HR have had it in writing from me that Friday 22 March is my last day so if I got that wrong then surely my boss and most importantly HR would have contacted me to let me know

To be fair, they should have noticed that your month's notice fell too early, the notice begins the day after you hand it in so it should have been the 26th to the 25th that you worked the notice.

Have you got any days leave accrued that you could tag onto the end?

I’m imagining yellowfish in a grey KGB office somewhere in Siberia, unaware the Cold War’s moved into a more touchy-feely era.

Or not. She'd be one of the most brutal KGB offensive.

OP, I agree with @Foslady you should threaten her with HR.

There are 2 ways in which @YellowFish123 is being very shortsighted in the way she manages her staff.

1. It must surely limit opportunities for career progression? If no one leaves before they retire, then there will be very few opportunities for staff to get promoted; they have to wait for their line manager to retire.

1. It's kind of a case of 'biting off your nose to spite your face'. Surely you need your employee to do the job you pay them to do? If they have no access to their desk how will they do the job? It isn't fair on their work colleagues, who will end up having to do their job as well.

So the strategy is just vindictive and makes no commercial sense whatsoever.

Increasingly staff recognise they have choice.

Yellowfish may get a temporary power rush but employees have the ultimate control. They get to leave, laugh and never look back. A better deal, I'd say

I think I'd come down with a bad case of d&v for the week tbh

Is Yellowfish a name change for the poster that locks employees in until 5pm on the dot?

My bad - locked in until 5.01pm so they don't waste a minute of work time getting their coats on or washing their coffee cups.

I'd love to see the Glassdoor reviews for that company.

I think I’d get a nasty d&v bug and not go back

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I am intrigued by @YellowFish123 exit policies. Do you line them up against the gulag wall and shoot them?

I think I’d get a nasty d&v bug and not go back

Or just phone up my new employer and tell them i can start a month earlier.

See yellow that's how i know you're full of it, because in the real world what you describe would be massively conter productive.

Ok another update

HR has miscalculated dates (their mistake) and Area Manager hasn’t confirmed with my Boss my leaving date either so as it’s been put in writing there’s not much my Boss can do she’s going to have to let me leave and she now has come to realise that whatever she says/does is in effect inaffective.

They won’t pay me for a extra week according to them if I leave earlier but it will balance out when I start my new job Monday.

And?.........

You leave in a fortnight, just call in sick. What’s she gunna do? Sack ya!

Employees can withhold pay if an employee goes off sick just before leaving @NannyRed.

Staff working their notice are no longer treated as part of the organisation at my place- that means they lose access to the IT system and have to ask permission from senior management to access it. They also lose their car park space and are no longer allowed to access our canteen or kitchen. In most cases, we immediately reassign them to the photocopying room and change them to weekend shifts

What an utterly stupid system. Possibly highly paid staff doing the photocopying in superfluous addition to the people who are already paid to photocopy? No handover programme, no system for overlap so leaving staff can train new staff? I bet the clients love that sort of chaos.

When I left my last job it was a completely amicable, sensible arrangement. I provided full notes on my work for my successor, made sure that clients were fully informed and confident in what was going on, and made sure also that junior people were confident with the changeover. That was because my employers didn't act like dickheads but grown up sensible people. To this day I still occasionally refer clients to that company. Win-win.

Think about it- by choosing to leave, the employee is walking out on the person who has literally kept them alive for however many years by paying their salary.

It's not as if the employer has done that out of the goodness of their heart, though, is it? Unless they are very poor managers they will have ensured that they had their money's worth, and if they don't have good staff who are properly paid at the going rate and treated fairly, they will soon have no business.

YellowFish - you never answered the comments on is it okay for companies to make staff redundant or go under and not pay staff!

Companies cannot withdraw statutory sick pay and I’m guessing that is all your company pays. If it exists.

Interesting if you are the same person with the imaginary company that locks the doors on workers. That person said the company was based abroad but other posts by that person discussed them living in the UK with their children being in UK schools.

I love the fact that so-called managers at Yellow's supposed workplace spend their whole time micro-managing whether their staff are properly ill, whether they can be permitted to leave the office just because there's an emergency with their children or family, and now having summit meetings about whether people who have resigned are to be allowed to do the jobs they're paid for. I bet they also monitor their toilet breaks. Anything rather than actually manage the company's business.

Hi another update

My Boss today made a announcement to everyone at work to say that Friday is my last day everyone knows that though from before, why she did that I would never know

why she did that I would never know

Trying to upset you I imagine. Rub your face in it.