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Boss being awkward because I have given in my notice at work

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Clown74 · 12/03/2019 23:07

Basically I have given in my 1 month notice at work and I have until March 22nd there (start new job March 25th).

Since I have given in my notice my Boss has changed towards me as in being really like having no patience around me, telling me I am too slow at my job (she has never in the 7 years I have been there said this to me), looking at me in a rude way, not saying good morning/bye or being chatty and she tells another work colleague to tell me when she wants something done (again she has never done this before).

AIBU to think that she is upset with me for leaving? I only have 1 and a half weeks left but to me it seems like she is micro managing me and watching my every move (not my imagination others have noticed this too)

What is the best way to handle this situation as obviously I don't want to cause any bad feelings before I leave?

Also must add the person before me that left my Boss wasn't in on his last day and got him nothing or wished him well for the future.

OP posts:
ThanosSavedMe · 14/03/2019 19:36

Well op at least you know you’ve made the right decision.

I’ve handed in my notice and my boss hasn’t spoken to me yet!

Clown77 · 18/03/2019 23:02

Hi everyone again just to update

Today my Boss said to me that I have basically calculated my 1 month notice wrong (just to remind everyone I gave my notice Monday 25 February and my last day is Friday 22 March - start new job Monday 25 March).

According to my Boss that doesn't work out to 4 weeks and my last week should be end of March (taking it to 5 weeks).

I said to my Boss I have put it in writing that my last day is Friday 22 March and I have also told HR so they know too that's my last day and that I start a new job Monday 25 March.

She then said to me well if you have already told HR nothing I can do about it is there? I said no there isn't and HR have that in writing.

AIBU to think that as they will be short staffed my Boss is trying to get another week out of me?

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 18/03/2019 23:08

If that was a genuine concern of hers, and not just some shit that she has made up, then why didn't she mention it at the time that you handed in your notice instead of waiting until your final week? Just keep saying to yourself (or out loud if you want) 'four more days to go'.

Clown77 · 18/03/2019 23:10

Yes thank you that is what I thought.

Had a log in problem with mumsnet which made me have to change my Username so sorry about that everyone

viques · 18/03/2019 23:28

I feel for you OP, one job I resigned from I found I became invisible, to the extent that my boss sat next to me at the lunch table but only spoke to the person on the other side telling them " we're interviewing three people for Viques job on Monday" . Did I care? Not too much, it only confirmed my suspicions that we would never get on. Another one asked me when I would be vacating my room as someone else wanted it. I told her it would be available for occupation on the Thursday pm which was my last day, and did she want me to leave the windows open so the chairs had a chance to cool down for their new owner?

Clown77 · 18/03/2019 23:35

Also my Boss said its in my contract that notice period of 1 month is a Calendar month but my husband said well HR and your Boss both knew that you were leaving this Friday (22 March) they never said anything and 1 month is 1 month and it's actually your Boss being difficult with you because it's your last week at work.

Surely HR would have told me wouldn't they?
(contract just says 1 month notice period required - person who left before me didn't have any hassle about leaving like I am)

YellowFish123 · 18/03/2019 23:41

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Clown77 · 18/03/2019 23:50

YellowFish123
I am in no way saying my Boss owes me a favour at all and I have not "abandoned"her at all.

I have been working there for 7 years and people and circumstances change.

Your attitude towards me since the day I have posted hasn't been very good at all so please if you have nothing constructive to say please say nothing at all and keep your opinions to yourself.

Lizzie48 · 18/03/2019 23:54

@YellowFish123

People change jobs for all sorts of reasons. Are they not supposed to relocate when they move in with a partner, when a relationship breaks up? Sometimes there are very good reasons for leaving a job.

Newsflash: employees are not slaves.

Lizzie48 · 19/03/2019 00:00

I've just shown this thread to my DH, who is a union rep and works for the Local Council. They do exit interviews there. It's illegal, he says, to treat employees the way YellowFish describes. An employee remains an employee until the day they leave.

YellowFish123 · 19/03/2019 00:23

@Lizzie48

It's not illegal if the contract terms allow it. As I said previously, departing staff at our place are usually redeployed to the photocopying room. They can be sent anywhere we choose within the company.

Lizzie48 · 19/03/2019 00:44

I suspect it could be challenged if employees could be bothered. But of course they're leaving anyway so they would simply put it all behind them. Your company is a disgrace and I hope someone does sue quite frankly. If you're for real.

So do you really think people shouldn't move away? People meet a new partner, go through a relationship breakdown. They have elderly parents to look after. Do you really think their first loyalty should be to your company and to Hell with their other responsibilities? What in your world constitutes a valid reason to change jobs??

YellowFish123 · 19/03/2019 01:11

@Lizzie48

Of course there will always be one or two cases requiring relocation such as divorce or partner relocating, and we will look at those on a case by case basis.

However, I don't see why we as a company should bend over backwards to thank someone leaving for a competitor. Not only are they turning their back on the company and their colleagues, but they're going to be actively working against us in future. They need to be made an example of to discourage others IMO. We have a very low staff turnover partly because of our exit policies.

RosemaryHoight · 19/03/2019 01:15

I had this too op. I moved job within the same company.

Six weeks of hostility. Nasty text messages, people who worked there who I had never spoken to asking me how I could do it to my children.

It wasn't a great time but it let me leave without looking back.

Hadjab · 19/03/2019 01:18

@YellowFish123 you actually sound unhinged. You do realise that when you die, you won’t be remembered for the work you did at your company for however many years? Certainly not by your company anyway.

KylieKoKo · 19/03/2019 01:20

@yellowfish123 are you saying that you treat staff like shit to help with staff retention and reduce turnover? Can you not see a flaw in this plan?

FunkyKingston · 19/03/2019 01:56

You're lucky you still have a desk and chair, which you wouldn't at the office I manage OP!

Luckily in the real world rather than the fantasy world you portray here, the most you actually manage is to walk and chew gum.

Caterina99 · 19/03/2019 02:34

My old boss was like that. He was a knob anyway, and it was like he didn’t have to bother being nice once I was leaving. To be honest there’s not much you can do except ignore them. I heard after I left that he treated his “favourite” absolutely awfully once she put her notice in, and she put in an official complaint against him because of it.

Your notice stuff should presumably be handled by HR. I’d speak to them immediately about it and get it in writing

JenniferJareau · 19/03/2019 06:40

Not only are they turning their back on the company and their colleagues

So you never make anyone redundant? You never sack a member of staff for any reason? If someone is under performing you keep them on indefinitely?

Surely if you expect such devotion from your staff you return that devotion or is it a one way street?

Iggly · 19/03/2019 06:47

Think about it- by choosing to leave, the employee is walking out on the person who has literally kept them alive for however many years by paying their salary

It’s a two way transaction. Employers do not own their staff. They pay them for work. They can leave if they choose. And should, for the good of themselves and their employers. It’s better to have fresh ideas and new blood than a “this is how we’ve always done it” mindset.

Whereareyouspot · 19/03/2019 06:57

Ask for an exit interview with HR.
Use it to ensure you have all your paperwork and a copy of your reference etc.
Check about any equipment that needs returning like phones etc.

Once all that is sorted and agreed you can mention that your boss has behaved very oddly towards you since your notice period and made your last few weeks very unpleasant. Mention you noticed this happened with a previous employee. You can raise it as ‘if there were concerns about my work why wasn’t this raised sooner and only started after I handed in my notice’. Just say you feel it shows the company in a negative light if employers are treated so badly when they move on.

Smile
Leave
Don’t look back

Good luck with the new job btw!

CardiganB · 19/03/2019 07:09

I’m imagining yellowfish in a grey KGB office somewhere in Siberia, unaware the Cold War’s moved into a more touchy-feely era.

Foslady · 19/03/2019 07:18

I’ll be amazed if your contract states 1 calendar month - every contract i have ever had (and I’ve worked for a few places!) has stated all time in weeks, it’s easier for both parties

Clown77 · 19/03/2019 07:23

As I said before my boss/HR have had it in writing from me that Friday 22 March is my last day so if I got that wrong then surely my boss and most importantly HR would have contacted me to let me know

Foslady · 19/03/2019 07:27

Yep - it’s her being a dick, trying to panic you. Definitely speak to HR, they are the ones who deal with that kind of thing. You have a date, they have agreed to it.
And if you don’t turn up, she’s powerless anyway!

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