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Boss being awkward because I have given in my notice at work

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Clown74 · 12/03/2019 23:07

Basically I have given in my 1 month notice at work and I have until March 22nd there (start new job March 25th).

Since I have given in my notice my Boss has changed towards me as in being really like having no patience around me, telling me I am too slow at my job (she has never in the 7 years I have been there said this to me), looking at me in a rude way, not saying good morning/bye or being chatty and she tells another work colleague to tell me when she wants something done (again she has never done this before).

AIBU to think that she is upset with me for leaving? I only have 1 and a half weeks left but to me it seems like she is micro managing me and watching my every move (not my imagination others have noticed this too)

What is the best way to handle this situation as obviously I don't want to cause any bad feelings before I leave?

Also must add the person before me that left my Boss wasn't in on his last day and got him nothing or wished him well for the future.

OP posts:
Bibijayne · 13/03/2019 14:15

@ButterflyBitch

Yes! Would love to know just so I can avoid like the plague :)

IvanaPee · 13/03/2019 14:17

Don’t believe YellowFish for a second.

Whole posting history is pure attention-seeking. Sad.

YellowFish123 · 13/03/2019 14:20

@Sidge

We have a clause in all staff contracts stating that their duties and hours can be changed without notice "according to the needs of the business, and at the discretion of the senior management team and company directors".

Polarbearflavour · 13/03/2019 14:22

I think Yellow is telling porkie pies!

How dare you leave a company! Seriously mate it’s just a job. An organisation isn’t a sentinent being with thoughts or feelings. Completely bizarre to think that you are majorly inconveniencing them!

DerelictWreck · 13/03/2019 14:23

Playing devils advocate - my direct report could probably make the same claim about me. But really my attitude changed during her notice period because I no longer had to cajole and coax her along to do her work. I could just relax and treat her appropriately for being shit at her job and making my life so hard!

Not saying this is you OP, especially given you were there for 7 years, just showing there are two sides to every story!

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 13/03/2019 14:33

She is being very unprofessional.

However, you need to take the high road and not respond to anything. Being punctual, be professional and finish well.

Her behaviour sounds appealing. But people will remember the way you behaved and the way she behaved. Depending on what industry you work in, you may well cross paths with your current colleagues again in the future.

Do mention it in your exit interview though.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 13/03/2019 14:34

PS: Congrats on the new job!

Bluetrews25 · 13/03/2019 14:34

Your manager is, in effect, bullying you.
Telling HR will achieve nothing, IMHO. When you speak out against someone higher up the food chain they will always prefer to brush it under the rug, especially when you are leaving. HR are there for the company, not the employees.
Keep up your side of the contract, walk out head held high and be gloriously happy in your new job. Their loss.

JenniferJareau · 13/03/2019 14:34

I'd report her to HR as a PP said. Not only will it get her off your back, you'll stop others being treated like dog doo as well when they leave.

She is being very unprofessional. People leave jobs, it happens. Yes it is an inconvenience to have to recruit and train someone else but that's part of being in business. Employees come and go. Sometimes they don't want to leave but have to due to life changes.

PositiveDiscipline · 13/03/2019 14:35

TBH if she was being dead nice to you, you may start questioning if you have made the right decision to leave. She is doing you a favour.

Don't expect a gift. Make peace with that now.

I remember a Regional Manager having a massive huff with me when I resigned. She spent 2 hours trying to make me stay, then told me that my boss preferred the person before me anyway and had never warmed to me. I can't believe how quick I thought on my feet and said "Thanks for telling me that. I was feeling conflicted and guilty about leaving but now that I know that, I can leave with a clear conscience". She was like Shock

Let her crack on with her BS. If it was me, I'd be working to rule, coming in with a new dress and a spring in my step, laughing on the phone to clients and humming happy tunes. Everyone would notice my new lease in life. I'd take any criticism with a smile and a tilt of the head.

Honeyroar · 13/03/2019 14:41

I would pull her up, if you feel like you can. Tell her that you've really enjoyed working for the company and with this team and will miss it, but you feel like something's wrong/different with her this week, and it's a shame for your last week to be like that. If that doesn't work, definitely mention it to HR. And if the snide remarks continue just add "hopefully my replacement will be more to your liking, you've only got a week to wait!"

MadameDD · 13/03/2019 14:41

I'd be torn between keeping quiet and saying nothing or being PA and asking her outright why she hasn't raised issues with your work before now?!

But honestly with 2 weeks to go I'd be extra nice to her, smile sweetly and think of your new job! Congratulations!

Spudlet · 13/03/2019 14:42

My old boss was a bit like that, the silly woman. It got her nowhere - all it did was create an unnecessarily unpleasant atmosphere every time anyone moved on. Ignore her and crack on. You'll be out of there soon enough.

On the off-chance that yellow is being honest - you all need to pull yourselves together there. What a ridiculous way to behave!

daisychain01 · 13/03/2019 14:49

Staff working their notice are no longer treated as part of the organisation at my place- that means they lose access to the IT system and have to ask permission from senior management to access it

Sorry, run that by me again....

So staff you need to be productive until they leave are denied access to the systems they need to do their job. Riiiight

And how does the "asking senior management to access it" work. If their access has been revoked, it hardly likely a senior manager is going to be bothered with such a mundane matter esp if the staff member is out the door in a few weeks.

Quite frankly staff on notice are hardly going to be clamouring to work, so you're shooting yourself in the foot. But you know that already.

Mummyoflittledragon · 13/03/2019 14:50

YellowFish it sounds like you were trained in North Korea. Terrible some of the employees defect. 🙄 I don’t believe anyone could be so far up their own arse.

CountessVonBoobs · 13/03/2019 14:51

I'm pretty sure yellow is a troll. That or she works at the UK's most shittily managed and dysfunctional small company (she has form for turning up on threads claiming ridiculous things about how her company manages.) Can be safely ignored anyway.

I'm in the "just ignore her and do the respectable minimum" camp. You can speak to HR if you know them to be generally on the ball and engaged with employee experience, but if they aren't they may be unlikely to do anything. All you have to do is shrug it off for another couple of weeks and fortunately you no longer have to care a pin for her opinion of you.

M4J4 · 13/03/2019 14:51

It sounds like she knows she doesn't have bother being professional or kind anymore as you're leaving so she's letting her real personality com out. You say she did the same thing with another colleague who left so she has form for this.

Don't take it personally, she's an immature, short-sighed unprofessional middle manager who takes herself and the job too seriously.

(Short-sighted because she may be working for YOU one day).

icannotremember · 13/03/2019 14:57

I don't think that would discourage people from leaving yellow- it's more likely to make people think "I don't want to work for these vile idiots any more, I better find another job asap".

MaybeitsMaybelline · 13/03/2019 14:57

What is the best way to handle this situation as obviously I don't want to cause any bad feelings before I leave?

Go off sick.

GabsAlot · 13/03/2019 15:01

just sit there and ignore her what can she do

when the olther person tells u to do something say sorry is that what u want or what youre being told headtilt

RearEnded00 · 13/03/2019 15:03

I agree with those saying smile and gut it out. But at the same time, if she is snapping and snarling at you. Say very calmly "There is no need to snap (shout) at me." or It's not necessary to raise your voice.". What a mean woman she must be.

7Pip · 13/03/2019 15:05

What are you doing that's too slow? Packing boxes or something?
Yes, yellowfish claims to not allow her employees to be off sick either. I have visions of a human dressed as a fish waltzing into ICU and dragging their employee out by the scruff of the neck Grin

lazyarse123 · 13/03/2019 15:15

yellowfish do your staff even give notice or do they just walk out on the last day and not return. Regarding the kitchen and canteen that's possibly not even legal, if it's available it should be available to all. What an appalling attitude to staff, i'm actually shocked you seem quite proud of how you treat people..

Ilove31415926535 · 13/03/2019 15:25

Let me tell you a story OP.
Once upon a time, someone made pie's life a fucking misery at a workplace. Pie was on medication, the bullying and harassment was so bad. One day pie decided she had had enough, and left that fucking horrendous place.
Fast forward 5 years, pie now manages a small company, who were hiring not too long ago. Informal chats with potential employees were encouraged, and as manager, pie was the one to chat to. One day the cunt person from pie's previous job wandered in to reception, asking to speak to the manager. Pie wandered out, and enjoyed every second from there on welcomed the cunt potential employee warmly.
After chatting for a while, the cunt potential employee decided the job wasn't for her after all. Pie had been nothing but professional and polite, as she knows how to conduct herself properly, despite singing with glee inside!
You can call bullshit if you like, but I assure you it happened. It's not often life gives you the opportunity to face your demons, but sometimes the stars align.
Tl;dr - she could have to work for you some day. Be polite, professional, go high, and leave with a clear conscience. But also work to rule Grin
Congrats on the new job Flowers

RussellSprout · 13/03/2019 15:31

Bosses don't own people and a good boss realises that people may want to move on after so many years and would wish their employee good luck, with grace.

Your boss sounds like a fuckwit OP and you are well rid of her.

You could play silly buggers or go off sick, but the best thing to do is to hold your head high and think of your new start! Exciting times for you!