Boss being awkward because I have given in my notice at work

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Basically I have given in my 1 month notice at work and I have until March 22nd there (start new job March 25th).

Since I have given in my notice my Boss has changed towards me as in being really like having no patience around me, telling me I am too slow at my job (she has never in the 7 years I have been there said this to me), looking at me in a rude way, not saying good morning/bye or being chatty and she tells another work colleague to tell me when she wants something done (again she has never done this before).

AIBU to think that she is upset with me for leaving? I only have 1 and a half weeks left but to me it seems like she is micro managing me and watching my every move (not my imagination others have noticed this too)

What is the best way to handle this situation as obviously I don't want to cause any bad feelings before I leave?

Also must add the person before me that left my Boss wasn't in on his last day and got him nothing or wished him well for the future.

I would just try to use up all remaining sick leave.

@Fiveredbricks surely the OP has also invested 7 years of her life with the company? Giving someone a job is not a favour....

This happened to me with my head of department in my first teaching job. She refused to talk to me for the last half term when I was leaving,

I just sucked it up until she put a Christmas card in my pigeonhole and I snapped and returned it to her with a note suggesting she sent it to someone she was talking to.

I felt a bit ashamed of myself afterwards, even though I thought her behaviour was terrible. Apparently she'd done it to other people when they left, and she was pretty dreadful generally.

I know there are plenty of people who stay in the same job for many years, but nonetheless leaving after 7 years is hardly running out the door! That’s quite a while to stay in one place so I think she should have at least had it in the back of her mind that you, as well as any other longstanding colleagues, might leave at some point and that point could be sooner rather than later. That’s just sensible management!

Having an attitude is a really odd thing to do too. Not only is it unprofessional, but makes it really unlikely that you’d want to work with them again. Sometimes it’s a small world and you get ‘reunited’ with former colleagues years down the line!

“If someone has invested in you for 7 years then yes she probably pissed off.”

So when is the right time to leave a job? A year is too soon I take it and a boss would be annoyed. 3 years? 4?

Anyone who gets that upset about an employee leaving is very sad. It’s just a job, people move on all the time.

She doesn't have any right to be "pissed off" that the OP is leaving. The investment comes from both sides and a good employer will recognise that people will move on. It's a contact of employment, not an indefinite period of indentured servitude!

The shitty behaviour and remarks are extremely unprofessional. If she was smart, she'd be talking to the OP to find out why she's leaving and seeing if her feedback could be used to better staff retention. If someone leaves after 7 years, it's useful to understand the reasons to see if the firm can do anything to ensure that other valuable staff don't leave - is it lack of flexibility? Progression opportunities? Better pay?

Have you tried smiling sweetly and saying relax, you’ll be rid of me soon :) ?

I would do as AtrociousCircumstance has suggested.

I wonder from what you say if she has form for this with leavers. She is a very poor manager to act this way and needs serious training on how to be a proper manager. Part of being a manger, hard as it can be, is dealing with conflict, difficult decisions and resilience.

Oh definitely a word with hr. The last thing they want is a grievance prior to departure and they need to know for "training" purposes......

She sounds awful and at least you know you made the right decision in getting a new job.

I love the super-professional ways of responding that have been suggested. "When they go low, we go high." All the colleagues around you will see the interactions and draw their own conclusions. And your boss will go home at night and chew nails, and possibly reflect on their own attitude.

Yes, please do report it to HR, so others leaving don't have to deal with this childish behaviour.

the favourite (Is your boss Queen Anne?)

Anyway, the favourite won't be favourite when the time comes for them to hand their notice in!

Ask for an exit interview with HR and mention this. It's incredibly unprofessional.

It would be childish, but I think you'd be perfectly justified to do a deliberate go-slow in response

The more adult thing to do is to ignore it. You're out of there and never have to see her again really soon. Congratulations on your new job - hopefully you'll have a better boss there!

She doesn't have any right to be "pissed off" that the OP is leaving. The investment comes from both sides and a good employer will recognise that people will move on.

This.

I'd start turning up two minutes before my start time with a nice coffee, I'd enjoy my full lunch and I'd drop everything to leave bang on time. You don't owe them a bloody thing and her behaviour is atrocious.

You're thinking about it the wrong way IMO. You think you're owed something after working there for 7 years. In actual fact, you're majorly inconveniencing the company by leaving.

I'm a senior manager in a company and we certainly wouldnt be bowing at the feet of leaving staff. Staff working their notice are no longer treated as part of the organisation at my place- that means they lose access to the IT system and have to ask permission from senior management to access it. They also lose their car park space and are no longer allowed to access our canteen or kitchen. In most cases, we immediately reassign them to the photocopying room and change them to weekend shifts(our office is Monday-Friday).

It's important to discourage others from leaving IMO.

That’s disgusting YellowFish - I’m very glad I don’t work somewhere like that.

Whilst working out notice one is still employed - on what basis can an employer revoke IT access, change working hours and ban them from the kitchen?

Is must be a bundle of laughs working in your company Yellowfish, the staff turnover must be high, it sounds as joyful as a prison camp.

Hi. I agree that she is behaving unprofessionally but as a manager with a couple of team members leaving, I am spending a lot of the time in the finer details of what they do, to ensure a smooth transition. So could part of the new micro management be part of her poor attempt at that?

That's a fucking disgrace, YellowFish123.

It's not "important to discourage people from leaving", it's important to develop staff and support them when they move on to bigger and better things.

You shouldn't be proud of how poorly you treat staff working their notice period. What a shower of bastards.

Grin and bear it. If your company does exit interviews mention it there but in a constructive way. Don't sink to her level but just be glad you are leaving.

Does your HR department offer exit interviews? Well worth bringing this up in the exit interview as your boss is being very unprofessional.

YellowFish’s company sound appalling. On another thread they were saying how people would be disciplined if they were off sick with migraines or flu. And they’d be expected to come in to work.
I just wish they’d say which company it was so we could all agree never to apply for a job there.

Yikes @YellowFish123 - how unprofessional! Your company sounds like an employment tribunal waiting to happen. Do you have a HR department?

Don't rise to Yellow. I don't believe there's an employer in the UK as bad as they claim (see their comments on other threads). It's made up clickbait.