Man doing my pedicure

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I'm having a rubbish day so maybe am being super sensitive but not sure. There is a nail bar I regularly go to. A few men work there but it's mainly women. Usually one of the women does my pedicure. I have had one or two of the men do it in the past too.

Anyway, am currently getting one done by a man and I'm feeling really uncomfortable. I can't explain why. Maybe because he is slow and so every touch feels like it's lasting ages but I'm not enjoying it.

Is it unreasonable to specify a woman does it in future?

If OP comes back and says she’s Muslim, does this change anyone’s opinion?

YANBU OP. If it bothers you, it bothers you. You have a right to bodily autonomy.

YABU - you're unhappy with HIS technique, that's fine don't have him again. But does this exclude all men? Would you exclude all women because of the technique of one?

I've had pedicures from men before. I never thought of it as weird at all

youknowmedontyou

It’s not unreasonable and it’s not uncommon for women to prefer other women touching them for services like this, or healthcare. Women telling other women that their personal boundaries are unacceptable is really disappointing behaviour.

@SurgeHopper

One of the best pedicures I ever had was by a guy.

He really put the effort into the foot massage bit
Maybe OP doesn’t like having a man she’s just met puting extra effort into a foot massage.

@JessicaWakefieldSVH OP asked AIBU? I responded, so who are you to tell me my behaviour is disappointing?

I find the level of misandry of MN and all men are the devil frankly ridiculous!

It's a professional doing his job!

I find your behaviour ridiculous.

Sorry, can we just revisit peeling the potato for a minute? What did he do with it?

youknowmedontyou

Who am I? Another member responding, not just to the OP, but to others. It’s common behaviour on a forum and I don’t need your permission. You’re doing a NAMALT and I absolutely find that disappointing. Deal with it.

It's a professional doing his job

Right because professionals never ever take advantage of their position, professionals can never ever be threatening or intimidating. I mean, the naivety...

Right because professionals never ever take advantage of their position, professionals can never ever be threatening or intimidating. I mean, the naivety...*

And hundreds of thousands don't.... the drama.....

People have the right to decide who touches them youknowmedontyou, even women.

Who am I? Another member responding, not just to the OP, but to others. It’s common behaviour on a forum and I don’t need your permission. You’re doing a NAMALT and I absolutely find that disappointing. Deal with it.*

Your showing misandry and drama ... deal with it!

Maybe not, Ghana girl

But I did

@Bluestitch yeah that's right, male or female but my opinion is that because you don't like the technique of one male is not a reason to discount all men. If OP didn't want a man at all, why not just say that .....

Love having my feet done, blissful experience for me. It could be done by little green men for all I care.

Women exercising their right to decide who touches them, is not ‘misandry’. The problem is men’s behaviour and it’s common and has had enormous affects on many women who then take precautions when it comes to who touches them. This is a result of men’s behaviour, and blaming women is disturbing victim blaming crap. I will call that out when I see it, even if misogynistic people call me a misandrist for doing so. In the wake of metoo, behaviour like yours should be challenged and women such as the OP, supported. You can carry on calling women dramatic if that’s what you want, but this is a supportive forum, that’s the intention anyway.

@JessicaWakefieldSVH ok all men should be drowned at birth....

And no woman ever did a thing wrong?

Some people REALLY don't like women having boundaries do they?

@youknowmedontyou
So a man has the right to put his hands on a woman just because it’s his job how about male midwives?

Nobody said anything remotely like that. This is about a woman’s preference on who touches her. I’m not sure why you have such a reaction to that. But your last comment is extremely childish.

Some people REALLY don't like women having boundaries do they?

Indeed. Such an extreme reaction is very odd indeed, why the push to have women accept a man touching her when she doesn’t like it? Creepy.

If you don't want a man to touch you then it follows that you must want him dead. What a load of manipulative bollocks.

@JessicaWakefieldSVH I will support justifiable situations, I will not back a woman due to her being female! I will back right over wrong not matter what the sex.

OP is perfectly entitled to her boundaries and to decide who she wants touching her feet, but given that she presumably realised his gender when he walked over to start the pedicure it's a bit late to be complaining about it after the fact
Anyway, if it's the type of nail bar I'm thinking of I'd be more concerned that everyone there was trafficked into the country and isn't getting paid.

You don't get to decide what is justifiable when it comes to other people's bodies though.