To think being slim should be normal for most people.

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By slim i mean sizes 8 to 12.

Obviously you get a minority who are not in this range naturally but for 80% of people this size should be natural, say they eat a reasonable diet of between 2000-3000 calories.

Im so sick of people at work making out i am abnormally thin for being a size 10. I watch what I eat but dont deprive myself. The same people making me out to be lucky to be slim eat fried chicken or pizza for lunch and seem to be able to demolish a whole pack of biscuits at 3 o clock.

Aibu to think that the normal human man/woman should be a size 8-12 and that to attain or maintain this does not require super human discipline or strength.

Jesus... perhaps I should of read the other comments before posting..

The OP is however talking about adults in the workplace, although eating disorders can start at any age the post isn’t about vulnerable pre-teens.

"What an odd comment. hmm"

which part are you having trouble with? 🙄

There has been plenty of talk about fat children in the thread.

The thinnest people in my office, were the ones who stuffed chocolate all day long, the injustice !

Also hearing adults talk about weight negatively gets taken on, absorbed by young people. There needs to be much less enphasis on fat being bad, a drain on the nhs, a Fear Factor.

Giving children a healthy diet so that they are HEALTHY and yes, not overweight, isn't insinuating that thin is perfection. What a warped view.

Its a misnomer that anorexics eat healthily. They are quite often prone to nibbling small quantities of high sugar foods, like chocolate.

Chocolate isnt bad. Food isnt fucking BAD.

Buffalo. I'm doing ok but still have a lot of problems eating, got rid of the main cause of my illness but still can't eat out as too scared someone will say I'm having too much. I do hope your daughter is getting the help she needs and is progressing with treatment, it's a terrible illness I know so I do understand what she is going through and wish you and her all the best

No, a view instructed by experience.

No unhealthy foods, no mcd's, cautions to 'be careful' of snacks led directly to anorexia. She was overweight due to steriods for a chronic health issue. Doctors, school pushing for weight loss in the nane of health.

How healthy is she now, eh. But at least not offending people with her chibbiness.

I agree OP, the health implications of being overweight are scary and yes views on what is a “normal” weight have shifted. I can remember the first time I went to the USA (about 30 years ago) being shocked at the number of very overweight people I saw because they would have been a rare sight over here. You wouldn’t bat an eyelid nowadays. Of course weight doesn’t determine a person’s worth I doubt anyone is saying that, but the health implications of a fatter population are borne by society as a whole in terms of healthcare costs, life expectancy etc and it’s scary.

Thank you. She is in treatment, but going through the inpatient tube feeding merrygoround. She is not willing to get better despite treatment, psych, counselling, begging, pleading, and rapidly aging out of options.

Portia, who cares if they think you are eating too much. If they do, they are mean, dumb and wrong. Let your body tell you what you need.

Being overweight is unhealthy and so is being too thin.
Surely being strong is more important than being skinny, you don't need to be anorexic to be thin and unhealthy. And being a size 18 doesn't necessarily mean you are obese and unhealthy either.

So sorry to hear your daughter is unwell @BuffaloSpringfield

I do think children should be provided with and encouraged to eat a healthy diet. I don't think that banning McDonald's is part of a healthy diet which promotes both physical and mental health to be honest. My children love happy meals and they love kale, I would never paint one as bad and the other good because I agree this leads to an unhealthy attitude to food. I do explain things are healthy/unhealthy when eaten regularly but I never include weight in this, more the way different food can keep your body strong and feeling well.

I've seen within my own family the pain of anorexia, so wishing you and your DD all the best.

I was one of those, until I had my first child at 30 then, wham 🙄
Takes a lot of effort now.

Sorry, that was to Accountant 222

Hope she gets better buffalo As a teenager my sister had it too and my poor mum really struggled with it all.
My sister did reach 60 but I wouldn't say she is cured. She is still a feeder and has an abnormal interest in what others are eating. She isn't the strongest person as her bones and teeth from the purging have taken a bit of a hammering.
My weight was average as a young adult but since than I have to yoed lots. Strangely I am now still obese but I am eating really well, exercising and losing weight.
My diet is far healthier than my average weight husband but I am clearly a scourge on the NHS.

Fast food was not offered on medical recommendation, she was overweight from steroids from birth, which she was weaned off. And I was sick of people judging me and her.
We moved to a healthy diet and exercise classes together.
She was a 'healthy' weight for a few years, but fell into restriction.

Obesity is an international health crisis.
Acceptance of obesity is breaking healthcare systems around the world.

More people should focus on getting their weight within a healthy range

The numbers of anorexics are outnumbered 100 to 1 by the obese

Treatment for eating disorders is also a scourge on the nhs.

Buffalo. Sorry your dd is not improving, yuk the feeding tube is awful especially when you don't want to eat. I don't have any answers I just had to get better because of dd so she was an incentive and my Mum was great as she looked after dd while I was in the treatment centre. You're clearly your dds strength so keep going and I hope she can find a way to get well, I know I couldn't have progressed without my Mum so hope that that's the case for your dd in time.

@BuffaloSpringfield im so sorry to hear about your DD I hope she recovers. People invest far too much time into looking into other peoples business especially in what other people look like.

Young people should be enjoying life while free of responsibilities not going through something like this.

I doubt those numbers are any consolation to Buffalo when her daughter is struggling and suffering.

Regardless of your views some consideration to some of the posters that have laid their heart out and are really struggling would not go amiss.

Yes it does rather sound as if some of the posters view those like Buffalos DD as collateral damage, in the pursuit of their concern trolling!

@HelenaDove. What a silly comment. Not one person has said anything remotely resembling that.

ED’s are terrible and I can’t see anyone on here saying anything other than that but it also doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t still be concerned about the increasing obesity problem in this country and trying to do something about it.