MIL makes comments about my weight 😡

[Noyourenot]

I’m not overly large (UK size 14 and 5ft 8in) but compared to the ILs I am. They are all short and tiny apart from SIL who is my height and about a size 10.

I am sick of the comments. MIL always compares me to SIL but she has a completely different figure, no bust or hips. I don’t want to say anything because MIL is the type if she knows she’s got to you she’ll do it even more, but I want her to stop. (I’ve told DH not to say anything for this reason, though she tends not to do it in front of him or in a way it goes over his head. One of the first times she ever did it was in front of DH and he said something so she’s more sneaky now).

It’s got to the stage where I don’t like to eat anything in front of her because she’ll make comments.

AIBU if I just stop seeing her? It would mean DH wouldn’t see his parents as much as I am the one that makes arrangements and I’m certainly not setting up play dates for him and his mother! So he just wouldn’t bother.

And by the way I'm a fraction overweight st present, but this was mainly done when I was a healthy slim bmi 😂

Judgy old bat !!!! ... how bloody rude .. don't fester and stress OP .. politely tell her it upsets you . My old auntie used to be like this ... her parting shot to everyone was always "stay slim girls" !!!! ..

What a rude woman YANBU. It's a difficult one as she might twist this to make you look bad for being the one to stop her seeing her son. Of course that's not the case at all but watch out for those comments too.

Make her repeat it, not so cutting when you have to say something spiteful twice.
This, you can do this very subtly without anyone knowing it's got to you and it highlights to everyone how awful she is

Don't see her. Tell her why.

This may be a controversial tactic but here goes ....
My MIL (and FIL) undermined my confidence for years with remarks about my skin (bad acne in my twenties), body (apple shaped so bit of a tummy) etc. I realised the best way to deal with it was to make little digs about her weak points. Eg if she asks what colour lipstick I'm wearing, I will say 'oh I don't think it will work on your thin lips'.
It sounds awful but this is the woman who bought me an ab cruncher because she thought my fat tummy would spoil my wedding dress.