Men playing hard to get

[OnTheAvenue]

I wonder if anyone else has been in this situation before or can offer any wisdom?

I’m very attracted to a guy who gives an outward impression of being cocky but I think he’s really shy. He’s attractive. If we were going purely on looks I would say he’s an 8/10 but he always goes for women who are far less physically attractive (5-6/10). I’m not sure why. I have only met one of his ex-girlfriends and she was very quiet, passive, didn’t have much to say. I’m saying this because it’s not just that he goes for women with amazing personalities instead of looks.

Anyway, we have been flirting for months. I have left our company to take a promotion elsewhere and at my leaving drinks he opened up to me a bit. He showed me his heart a bit and said he wants to keep in touch. However, he also confided to me that he’s a coward and won’t initiate anything.

I know you’re probably wondering why on earth I am interested in this guy!!

So since I left we have chatted about every 3 days. He NEVER initiates contact with me but he always responds eagerly when I text him and he calls me straightaway.

So my question is, has anyone ever met a guy like this before? Do I keep on initiating things until he’s more comfortable and opens up more?

Or is he just not interested? If he’s so shy that I have to keep initiating contact then that’s absolutely fine but sometimes I wonder whether he just wants me to go away??!!

I should add that he’s been very complimentary about my looks and personality in the past.

Whether this true or not. My dp said men have it 'built in' to do the chasing, and that a guy will always let u know how he feels about u, either subtly (shy guys) or not so subtly (bold guys).

Either

1. Realise he hasn't asked u out because he doesn't want to - sorry.
2. Ask him out and then you'll know where U stand - No one would turn down a date with some they fancy.

As pp said, my dp also said men aren't complicated characters.

I agree with laceypants. Don't waste your time

Just ask him to go for a drink after work this week and see how it goes. Don't overthink. If he still farts around then move on.

The phrase you can't put an older person's head on a younger person's shoulders rings true. If only I had known what I know now about love and relationships when I was younger. There is a book called He's Just Not Into You I think.

Hi was there an outcome to this? I’ve read your thread and am in a similar mindset / situation.. I just have a gut feeling this guy I like has more to him but is being reserved and I’m scared to make the first move.
others think I’m delusional but my gut thinks there is more to it!