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AIBU to ask family to bring their own food?

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borntobequiet · 28/02/2019 09:36

I have family visiting for Easter. I know they have been "forward purchasing" in case of shortages caused by any no-deal Brexit, as have I. Would I be unreasonable to ask then to bring their own food to avoid depleting my store? The children will eat up all my pasta and pesto in next to no time. And I don't want to waste freezer space on fish fingers, which I never eat.

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Singlenotsingle · 28/02/2019 09:38

How many in the family and for how long? Pasta is cheap as chips and fish fingers cost next to nothing, but it could mount up if it's a Friday to Monday stay.

Joopy · 28/02/2019 09:38

Yabu, don't invite them if you don't want to cook for them.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 28/02/2019 09:39

I don't get why you would be eating your 'stash'? Wouldn't you normally get more food in for visitors?

Notthatsimple · 28/02/2019 09:42

I suggest you could all eat pombears Bear

PinkHeart5914 · 28/02/2019 09:42

I can’t ever imagine asking family to bring their own food to be honest.

So family travel to see you but must bring pasta and pesto, sounds like a blast for all at yours

Thesearmsofmine · 28/02/2019 09:44

It depends. If you are hosting you should provide some food but if they re staying several days you could maybe suggest going out/getting a takeaway.

FineWordsForAPorcupine · 28/02/2019 09:45

If your stash is so small that a few kids could eat through it in a weekend, then I'm not sure you're really taking the coming breakdown of civilisation seriously enough.

Come on, guys. We need at least six months of dry goods plus water purification systems, solar panelling weaponry and a basic field hospital - a few jars of pesto ain't going to cut it.

MrsJayy · 28/02/2019 09:47

I think you should uninvite them it is ridiculous what you ar asking leave food in the shops and stop stashing food then there will be no painic and enough for everybody stockpiling food is selfish

KMoKMo · 28/02/2019 09:48

@FineWordsForAPorcupine
GrinGrin

XiCi · 28/02/2019 09:48

Is this a joke? If not then you are definitely BU.

Birdsgottafly · 28/02/2019 09:48

Wait until 29th March, let's see what happens.

Luckily Easter is late this year.

As asked, how many of them and how long a stay.

JayDot500 · 28/02/2019 09:49

Grin this is hilarious!

Hahaha88 · 28/02/2019 09:51

Are you actually for real? You've been stockpiling food Hmm and you're worried about wasting your supplies on your own family? Lol it's Brexit, not an Armageddon, I don't think you need to decide which family member you want to survive more than another and feed them first lol

FiveShelties · 28/02/2019 09:53

Fantastic idea, I would ask them to bring toilet rolls, bottled water plus enough food for the stay.Grin

BiddyPop · 28/02/2019 09:55

There will be actual food in the shops, particularly by Easter as that is 3 weeks after Brexit Day.

The only thing you may need to worry about it the choice of foods may be somewhat limited.

But there will be actual nutritionally sound foodstuffs available on the shelves.

Brexit is not Armageddon!!

FiveLittlePigs · 28/02/2019 09:56

Come on, guys. We need at least six months of dry goods plus water purification systems, solar panelling weaponry and a basic field hospital - a few jars of pesto ain't going to cut it

This.

Grin
BiddyPop · 28/02/2019 09:57

I suggest adding naice ham to the pom bears!! Grin

Xpost on the Armageddon - my pc wouldn't post....grrrr...I'm ringing IT again (although I can't really admit I was messing on MN, any ideas?)

RiverTam · 28/02/2019 09:57

Dear God. No, don't do that.

Stopyourhavering64 · 28/02/2019 10:01

Remember on mumsnet a chicken can feed the world....for weeks

PregnantSea · 28/02/2019 10:01

I think it's really cheeky to ask family to bring their own food when you've invited them to stay for the weekend. I'm sure if they're polite they'll pay for a take away, or offer to do some chores around the house or something.

I had a friend who used to ask me to chip in for gas, electric and food when I went to stay for one night. I'm not friends with her anymore.

RelaisBlu · 28/02/2019 10:02

This is a joke, right??

ILoveHumanity · 28/02/2019 10:02

I think tell everyone to cook a dish and bring it with them so you can have “variety” and it will be nice. Don’t make it about ur stock as that sounds awkward.

Just say you are really overwhelmed and don’t think can have time to make enough food for everyone. So if they all bring a dish you can eat it over several days with them and then you can all focus on enjoying the meet up. It’s fine just how u present it

7yo7yo · 28/02/2019 10:06

Eat them.

SparklySneakers · 28/02/2019 10:09

I think it depends if we crash out on the 29th and therefore are subjected to shortages. I'd continue to build your stash as much as possible then see what happens. If there are shortages then if you have LO
It's supplies and your family are reasonable people then just explain that you have limited food and maybe ask them to bring treats if you supply the main food. Kids each so many snacks! Cook cheap and cheerful meals that go a long way like pasta and shepherds pie.
How many are coming and how long for?

It's a real worry if there's extra mouths to feed and you are on a budget and subjected to food shortages.

I'd be getting in extra now for when they come if you can.

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borntobequiet · 28/02/2019 10:10

Well perhaps, on reflection, I am being unreasonable. And if there are fuel shortages, they might not be able to get here anyway, so I'll stop worrying.

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