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To resent how long my OH spends on poo-time?

118 replies

Motherbemused · 27/02/2019 20:14

Honestly, I can have the dishwasher emptied and restacked, kitchen cleaned, a wash on, and most of the living area tidied in the time it takes my OH to emerge from the toilet of a Saturday* morning.

Should I consider this time a 'me-time' privilege that must remain sacred, and accept it (bearing in mind we have a 4 month old, and a house to clean; I don't require extra time for Number 2's), or say something?

*Extra time only used at weekends - he doesn't have it during working week on account of getting up at last possible moment.

OP posts:
BusySnipingOnCallOfDuty · 27/02/2019 20:17

Mine takes his tablet into the loo with him and insists you have to spend a decent time in the loo to make sure its all come out.... Ive explained over and over that women dont do this unless we have severe constipation etc. Every guy I've ever been with has done this.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 27/02/2019 20:17

Really? Why don’t you put your feet up and then start all those chores together once’s hes finished? It’s not rocket science.

Thebookswereherfriends · 27/02/2019 20:18

If he is using it to get out of doing his fair share of things like taking care of the house or children then you should pull him up on it. You could also take the same amount of time and go fora walk, read a book etc.

PinkSquidgyPig · 27/02/2019 20:19

Are you married to my husband?!!

Madein1995 · 27/02/2019 20:20

Possibly tmi but I have constipation issues so possibly am a little similar to your oh. That said I can't imagine doing it for fun! Tbh though I'd take the opportunity to just put my own feet up and do those jobs together. Could it be that he actually has constipation problems etc but just doesn't say?

RednaxelasPony · 27/02/2019 20:23

YANBU it gives me the rage!

Pop baby in a bouncer in the bathroom with him. Cheerily whisk yourself away upstairs for a lie down.

When he comes out merrily do chores together. Yay!

CheshireChat · 27/02/2019 20:26

I've started turning off the WiFi.

And timing him and then saying 'cool, I'm off for (however much), good luck!' I mostly did this because he used to disappear for ages and then had the cheek to complain I was taking too long

Snowoctopus · 27/02/2019 20:26

It’s a bloke thing apparently!
Super common, still annoying at times though.

RangerLady · 27/02/2019 20:26

Why do they all do this?! Honestly if they want to have a sit down the sofa is more comfortable! My husband's idea of being quick is 20 minutes.

SmashedMug · 27/02/2019 20:27

TIL I'm a bloke.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 27/02/2019 20:27

Why not have a coffee and a sit down while you wait for him? I bet he won’t be as long in there then!

SnowyDaze · 27/02/2019 20:28

Next time sit down with a cuppa whilst he’s in there. When he comes out, pass him the baby and get on with the chores. Or take the baby out and leave him to do it.

Enjoy the time out for yourself 😊

needthisthread · 27/02/2019 20:29

But you don't have to do all that while he is in the bathroom.

TeachesOfPeaches · 27/02/2019 20:31

Apparently men just wait for it to fall out of their bums and women push

SnowyDaze · 27/02/2019 20:38

Maybe give him the baby to entertain whilst in there. Toilet time becomes less relaxing and quicker!!

I’m a SAHM. Record speed in the bathroom, because usually I need to sit, poo, breastfeed a baby, whilst also balancing a toddler on the other knee. No one is enjoying the multitasking

fitmamas · 27/02/2019 20:45

@CheshireChat Turn the WiFi off!! Brilliant! Why have I never done this? 🤦‍♀️

mamaslave18 · 27/02/2019 20:47

I’ve rowed with my DH about this very thing tonight! I was trying to cook dinner, clean up a toddler with diarrhoea and wash the soiled clothes all while he decided to have a luxurious dump. He got pissed off that I told him he needed to get off the toilet and help.

Sneakyisbest · 27/02/2019 20:54

@RednaxelasPony

Pop baby in a bouncer in the bathroom with him. Cheerily whisk yourself away upstairs for a lie down.

This is surely classed as child abuse. Grin

CheshireChat · 27/02/2019 21:22

fitmamas I can confirm it works.

MsMustDoBetter · 27/02/2019 21:35

I don't know what the marathon pooing sessions are about, but it is so weird.

Some men do it at work too and I think that's taking the piss. An extra half an hour break every day?!! Can you imagine the outrage of women took such liberties?

Hahaha88 · 27/02/2019 21:42

Omg! My partner is exactly the same. The amount of times I've said to him just dump your load and go is unreal! I let him crack on most of the time tho as he goes after lo is in bed or before los up in the morning. So it's not like I'm left holding the baby whilst he poos faffs on his phone. If I were you I wouldn't say anything but I'd wait til he was done to do anything and I'd start taking toilet breaks the same length

Hahaha88 · 27/02/2019 21:44

MsMustDoBetter I use my tea beaks at work to poo faff on my phone are they doing it in their break time? If I have to go on work time I'm in and out asap. Then I work hard laze about looking like I'm working at my desk instead

MsMustDoBetter · 27/02/2019 21:47

Hahaha they seem to think that going to the loo is a human right. It is, taking all the day and stinking out the place is not!

Gotthetshirt23 · 27/02/2019 21:50

Give him something to do ?

To resent how long my OH spends on poo-time?
Thisnamechanger · 27/02/2019 21:50

Apparently men just wait for it to fall out of their bums and women push

OMG that made me laugh so much.

When I first got a boyfriend and started sleeping over I genuinely thought he had some sort of illness. I have since realised many many blokes do this!

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