Pretending that I did it ...

[Glitterzzz]

So.. I am no chef but I can bake.. my OH asked me for a carrot cake sometime soon.. usually I would be happy to run round the supermarket get the ingredients and stand in the kitchen to turn out a half decent baked delight some hours later

But

I’m tired. It’s half term. I’m run crazy with two children with additional needs, no school or nursery breaks and trying to keep the house and I’m on a diet myself ... so I cheated.

I contacted a cake maker ordered the cake and was gutted to see how professional it looked when I collected it today considering how much u paid for it... in the need to make it seem I baked it lovingly for him I brought it home and have roughed it up a little... ( smudges in the Cream cheese frosting, a dent here a dent there and whizzed up some pecans and walnuts and whacked them on top...

Unfortunately the real baker had gone to the effort of making little sugar paste carrot decorations which she seems to have apples with a orange substance so I removed them and will just say I attempted a decoration that failed...

Does this cake look home made but not too fancy/ professional? Why do I even care ? 😂😂 I guess I love him and wanted to give him something he wanted and of course all the thanks of how lovely it is and how hard I must have worked

I'm making a carrot cake now..

I'm surprised to say OP is one of the least insane people on this thread. Sounds like OP and DH are working their asses off with two kids with SN and busy lives. DH wanted a special treat in the form of a cake, she wanted to show him some love and just couldn't find the energy to make it herself. So she had it made and passed it off as her own work.

Then a bunch of sour faced cows on mumsnet set out to try to convince an already tired OP that the situation is incredibly serious and she's somehow a terrible person on par with cheaters and abusers and the solution to it all is clearly that she should hang her head in shame and feel terrible about herself.

This is why I would never post on AIBU. There seem to be a band of posters that absolutely love any excuse to have a go at the posters. No interest in offering help or support, once a group of the get together it's like a pack of blood thirsty dogs.

The lack of perspective is almost comical here.

It’s still a weird thing to do though.

Any normal person would just admit they are a bit busy but will pick one up from the bakers. That’s a normal, loving thing to do. What is the OP did is very odd.

It's a flippin' cake!

She hasn't emptied their bank accounts or gotten them into massive debt or told some kind of black lie that'll make any sane person question anything about their lives together. Are people really claiming the moral high ground over a white, well intentioned lie, about a flippin' CAKE?

Also, I see that it’s not a huge thing, but I have a friend that used to post this kind of stuff on Facebook. Like she’d decide to do baking with her son, so take a photo of him posing with a bowl, then let him go off and play while she baked alone because he hated baking but then post the photos on Facebook as if they’d made it together. I just found it bonkers and it did turn out things weren’t really ok with her.

My issue is that the OP doesn't seem to think she can be honest? Instead of saying she was too worn out this week, she's gone to a hell of a lot of trouble to make her partner think she's superwoman? Why?

I like to do nice things for my DP, if I've had a long week then it's a take away and a blow job . I certainly wouldn't feel the need for all this skullduggery.

Why does the OP feel unable to tell her partner how fucking tired she is and say no cake this week?

Also, the level of deception (not just buying the cake and passing it off as her own but the rest of it.... get rid of cake board, throw utensils in sink, await the praise etc) is a little calculated.

In general - it makes me wonder if someone is willing to be so dishonest about nothing, what lengths would they go to if they actually needed to hide something *this last paragraph isn't aimed at OP but more a general musing.

I think you have to be honest with him and explain your reasons like you have here. Tell him he deserves a lovely cake and you knew yours wouldn't live up to his expectations. You wanted it to be a treat he could enjoy and that's why you've done what you have.

It's not the lie, which is small in theory, it's the extent of the weirdness that's got people's backs up, I think. OP has:

-researched & ordered a professional cake
-spent £20 on it (wildly cheap for a pro cake but mega spendy vs making your own, assuming you have some kit/ingredients already, or getting a bog-standard Sainsbo's one)
-faffed with the icing & decorations to ruin the cake she's paid good money for
-removed the cake board
-faked washing up (?!)
-texted her husband about the cake to big up all her "efforts"

It's a cake! This should have been a 5-minute "I'm in the mood for carrot cake"; "I'll pick one up when I'm doing the shop" non-issue. It's just weird to claim to be too flat out & frazzled to bake but have time to spare for a Watergate cover-up.

She wrecked a lovely £20 carrot cake with walnuts and pecan nuts... and stuck her fingers in the cream cheese. And all for love!

@HaveNoSocks hear hear 👏

And we don’t know if she does actually plan to tell him the truth.

For people who think it is weird, perhaps if you worked in the food business you’d get it more. As someone who had their own catering business the signs of no bowls in the sink, icing sugar on the floor etc would be a massive giveaway and this just adds to the joke.

Also as an ex chef I imagine the OPs partner would be more likely to ask questions "Oh this frosting is great, how did you do it? "How did you get the cake so moist?" - thus leading to more lies!!! Slippery slope and all that.

@over50andfab

Where has the OP said this is a joke????

Hope you have some empty or half empty ingredient packets in the cupboard, or in the bin ( if you supposedly used them). otherwise this could be your downfall. It's normally the small matters that catch us out in a lie.
What if he asks what frosting you used and you cant show him the packet or tell him which brand it is? (Aren't chefs inquisitive about these kind of things?). Would that be something to consider ahead of time? Or am I over thinking here??

@burritofan

This is what I was trying to get at....... it's not the fib, it's all that goes along with it!!!

Anyone else going out to buy carrot cake today after reading this thread?!

If the OP had been laughing about this, I’d get it. Like, wow, I did a totally mad thing today, half term must be getting to me, but she’s oddly defensive about her actions as if she can’t understand why anyone would find this weird or excessive.

The OP isn't an evil b - but yes, she is weird. Very weird.

Even if it is only over a carrot cake.

I am laughing at your front OP! It's a white lie fgs folks! You went to effort anyway, whether your baked it or not. I think it's kinda sweet you want to impress your DH.

I used to do this for PTA cakes (bit of dishevelling went on and decanting to the paper plates) as no one would really want to eat my "biscuit" cakes (which are meant to be proper cakes ..😂) Now I just send them in as bought ones as my DCs squeal on me.

I think he might spot it but .... As long as you chuckle and admit it if he asks too many questions ("I wanted to impress you darling but was too worn out over half term & love you so much and you work so hard, I didn't want to let you down")

You do risk him boasting and volunteering your carrot cake for others' special occasions though! You picked too good a baker!!!

Nah. Nobody would do this. Too many holes - cake was too cheap, school aged kids would know it wasn’t home made, no smell of baking or flour etc scattered around, cake looks too professional, totally different style and recipe to homemade carrot cake. Sorry OP, not buying it.

@ElloBrian it would make me feel so much happier to know no grown adult is referring to their partner as baby bear. I hope you're right.

Good luck OP. I’m sure he will love it.let us know what he says

Ps. If a DP did this for me, I would laugh my head off!! As long as a) they didn't boast about the cake & elaborate too much b) it wasn't a pattern of lying about other things

I suspect OP paid more than £20 for that cake.

What @ihateunclejamie@ said.