Friend slept with a stag on night out

[HopeDog]

On a night out recently and a friend starting chatting to a group of men on a stag night. She ended up going back to a hotel with, and had sex with the stag.

She thinks she is bu as she is single.

Aibu to think she is wrong?

Women like her give women like me anxiety

No love,men like him give women like you anxiety.

Interesting how so many posters going on about ‘girl code’ are the ones being really bitchy about the woman in question.

Meow that's because she BROKE the CODE!! How very dare she? So now she deserves whatever they can dish out.

... well there is a poor bride to be who has unbeknownst to her, her fiancé and a woman sleep together before she walks up the aisle.

I would stick up for that bride to be any day. She’s the only one who’s not done anything wrong.

@sarcasm and meow I think it’s fair to call out bad behaviour on anyone, Male or female.

Both filthy and rough as dogs. HTH.

So because she's female she's not allowed to be called out?

They should both be called out. Yes he's worse but I don't know how anyone can knowingly sleep with anyone who has a partner. So what if you don't know them, you are deliberately hurting another human being.

I can't believe that so many people have said it's okay, fortunately having RTFT it seems like the majority think it's revolting to sleep with someone with a partner whether they're male or female.

Meow what are you on about?women expressing opinions isn’t bitchy
Let’s be clear demeaning women opinions as bitchy is unhelpful

Call out all you wish,just don’t expect universal approbation on it

Got it in one @Pina.

What I have an issue is the language used and the premise that she is responsible for HIS behaviour. He didn't suddenly turned into a cheater because she said yes, and if she said no he wouldn't suddenly become a faithful,loving husband that would never even look at another woman again.
More likely if she said no, he'd find someone drunker, or more vulnerable
,or just lied to the next woman(either that night or in the future).

If I were to sum up most of this thread it would be "make sure he shags someone else" and then we'll turn and judge and name call and slut shame that someone.

Completely agree with yoursarcasm.donethung about him is made a thing about her

Sloppy seconds
Old slag
Skank
Bitch
Skanky
Sperm hole
Warm hole
Cheap thing
Easy
Desperate
Scummy
Dog

Fuck me over sideways, if this doesn't qualify as bitchy(I don't really like that term mind) I don't know what does.

Well maybe some other woman will 'return the favour' when she gets married.

Again,wholeheartedly agree yoursarcasm

Thanks @also There is a victim here who has been hurt. Who’s about to base her whole life on a lie

Agree with no need for name calling though.

I don’t think she’s responsible for the stag. I do think she’s responsible for having sex with a man who is in a monogamous relationship though. Not nice.

Not sure tbh. If she knowingly hit on a stag then that’s pretty vile. If she was out on a night out & just happened to hit it off with a bloke she fancied & had casual sex with...then it’s still unpleasant to go through with it knowing - but not quite as bad (??)
He’s still the worst behaved here by a mile - I’m surprised by people saying they’re as bad as each other. She’s never met him & won’t be deceiving the woman or pledging to be her one and only for life

Just because he’s getting married how comes we assume it’s a monogamous relationship?

For me OPs friends behaviour is nothing to do with having a ONS but everything do to with knowing this guy is with someone (possibly days away from making a lifetime commitment) and choosing to have sex with them and actively doing your bit to create pain for another woman and possibly kids.

It's a dick move and I would totally judge someone who did this.

If the sex roles were reversed it's equally disgusting so we 100% should not use names listed below until language like this is used routinely and as regularly towards men. So clearly that time will not come

Lipstick - I wouldn’t take the 1% chance a stag was in a polygamous marriage -would you?

Well at least most women I think wouldn’t sleep with someone else’s bf/DH. I’m glad of that. I think we are socially responsible for our actions even towards strangers. We are a kinder and more compassionate society for this.

@LipstickHandbagCoffee QED

He's the one to carry the responsibility of this, but 'do unto others as you would have them to unto you' is a pretty solid principle to live by.

So if you wouldn't like this done to you (and let's be 100% honest - who would?), then don't do it yourself.

This doesn't in any way take away the fact that he is the first class shit in this scenario.

Thanks @also There is a victim here who has been hurt. Who’s about to base her whole life on a lie 

And hopefully she'll find out about it(as much as it sucks) and dump his cheating arse.

And just an observation ,not aimed at you in particular, the type of language used in this thread and the blaming is playing right into the hands of the cheater by splitting the blame and they tend to use the same excuses "she threw herself at me" ,"she knew I was married but came after me", "it was a moment of madness I wasn't thinking straight". . It also keeps a lot of women in shitty,cheating relationships because they focus all their anger on the OW .

I'm not saying her behaviour was great or admirable or something to strive for, but the blame should always be put where it actually lies, the person that has the relationship,and connection and promises. The person that knows exactly what they're risking and how much hurt they'll cause. The person that will go home and kiss their partner and look them in the eyes and promise to love them and honour them forever. The person who puts their genitals above their partner. The cheater.

Good post your