Friend slept with a stag on night out

[HopeDog]

On a night out recently and a friend starting chatting to a group of men on a stag night. She ended up going back to a hotel with, and had sex with the stag.

She thinks she is bu as she is single.

Aibu to think she is wrong?

Stop hanging round with her, you don’t want to get a bad rep by association.
Imo he wanted a last shag with an old slag b4 he gets married and that’s what he got.
She was easy, he didn’t have to try hard or see her even again, works for him.
Personally I hope his fiancée finds out what he did & can make an informed decision of where to go in life.
And your mate needs to take a look at herself and either up her price tag or stay in the bargain bin.

It's not her responsibility to make sure he doesn't cheat. Which he may not be doing anyway. He may be polyamorous, and his fiancee is fine with it. We don't know the details of their relationship.

Technically he is the one cheating but she obviously has no dignity or pride - being someone's sloppy seconds.

Has she no self-respect?

If your friend was the 'hen' to the "stag' how would she feel a female had consented to sex with him. I know it takes two but some situations are definitely avoided.

Yes perhaps he is one of those Mormons with several wives. . I mean, you see them all the time here in London. Or maybe he was a polygamous muslim?

Alternatively he - as well as the OP's friend - should have kept their gonads in their pants and not shagged like dogs.

I'm single and can be as loose as I want. I dont know anyone any explanation. It's not her fault he chose to cheat🙄

Sloppy seconds
Old slag
Skank
Bitch
Skanky
Sperm hole
Warm hole
Cheap thing
Easy
Desperate

How charming...

I'm single and can be as loose as I want. I dont know anyone any explanation. It's not her fault he chose to cheat🙄

Really?

The explanation you owe it to yourself. Why are you without a conscience?

So you would sleep with a married man or one who was in a partnership and not feel it was your responsibility to say 'no'?

You see all men as available , regardless, just because you are?

How odd.

I'm Single and can be as lose as I want.

Yes you can. Its your body, and have a great time too.
However not with other peoples blokes you can't or rather shouldn't.

I think she is within her "right", if you like, as she is not the one cheating. But it's icky and not very kind or noble.

He's the cheat in this. However, I could never like, let alone, trust a so-called friend who behaved like that.

@Boxingmum regardless or not of how you view the women in this scenario I really would urge you to have a think about the origin and purpose of the language you use and the concept of women needed to avoid getting a reputation.

Terms such as "slag" and "easy" provide coercive control of a woman's behaviour, and accepting the everyday use of such words supports the double standards which still exist today.

This piece is an interesting overview into this topic and I would urge anyone who is happy to use terms such as slag to have a read and think if that is really a word they want to support. https://thefword.org.uk/2008/01/howtheewordsl/

He's a cheater. She's a skank.

I'm wondering if the OP is who she claims to be.

Personally I think she’s been really out of order and obviously he has as well, single or not he was out with his mates for his stag night. Hopefully they used a condom because if he’s cheated on his stag night, I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s done it before. His poor fiancé doesn’t deserve this and hopefully she feels disgusted with herself although I somehow doubt it. Both are dirty tramps and frankly deserve each other.

The stag has behaved the worst of the two.

MakeItAmazing you reckon op is the stag shagger ?

They're both as bad as each other and anyone who says they're not is deluded.

@Whyisareallthenamestaken

I think whether the single woman should take some responsibility depends on the thought process.

If your thinking is 'that man is really fit, I'd really quite like to shag him' then ok, go for it. His responsibility.

But if your thinking is 'oh, there's a taken man, if I can get him to shag me that means I'm prettier and better than another woman, and thus for a brief moment, my shitty life will be a bit better', then that's low.

I would assume if the man is a stag (surely the best prize of all), then the thought process is likely to be the latter.

@HopeDog - are you coming back to your own thread to find out what people think of your 'friend'...?

AnyFucker yes.

Sorry but anyone with an ounce of self respect would not sleep with someone in a relationship. if they are willing to cheat with you how do you know where else his dick has been? Just eww

She's clearly desperate - maybe they always had great unrequited chemistry but she's still amoral. Like him. He also is not worth marrying, what a bastard! Both deserve each other

As far as finding 'fault', I look at it like a robbery: he may have robbed the bank, but she drove the getaway car.