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AIBU to ask if it is normal to call to say you are in front of a McDonalds?

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Flyingfish2019 · 19/02/2019 10:44

My husband really likes us cell phone and he calls people all of the time, calls me all of the time, looks at funny pictures, plays cell phone games and so on...

So he phoned me to tell me he was in front of a McDonalds and he was going to go in. AIBU to think this is odd?

AIBU to ask you if you think there is some deeper sense like he might be sad, stressed, afraid or do people just do this nowadays and is it just normal and I suck at being a millennial because I don’t do this.
(He told me he wasn’t afraid or sad).

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Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 19/02/2019 10:45

Maybe he wanted you to save him /his guts.

McDonald's is manky....

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 19/02/2019 10:45
Hmm
PalmTree101 · 19/02/2019 10:45

Does he just want to chat to you?

IVEgottheDECAF · 19/02/2019 10:47

Was he asking if you wanted a bacon big mac

EverybodysTalkingAtMe · 19/02/2019 10:48

Right.

BellamyBlake · 19/02/2019 10:49

I don't see what being a 'millenial' has got to do with it. Maybe he just likes it. Maybe he likes to talk to you. Maybe he likes to talk to his Friends. Why do you assume that because he wants to use technology to communicate with people that he must have some kind of mental health issues?!

RancidOldHag · 19/02/2019 10:50

You don't suck at being a millennial.

You're over-analysing beautfully

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Flyingfish2019 · 19/02/2019 10:53

@PalmTree. I thought that maybe he was a bit afraid (he struggles with crowds and McDonalds often is so crowded) but he said he Wasn’t. Asked me if me aand the kids wanted something but it was near his work and it would be cold when he had arrived home.
He often phones because of reasons I do not understand, for example to ask which kind of yoghurt I want or to tell me he is in a traffic jam.

I thought maybe I just do not understand because I am on odd millennial. I do not like my cellphone very much. I wanted to ask how other see it.

My personal interpretation: He is scared and needs to talk but maybe others see it different. Wanted to hear other opinions and if your dh does this too.

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PlasticPatty · 19/02/2019 10:53

If it was before 10.30, that's fine. McDonalds breakfast, carefully selected, can be ok.

After that - no. There's something wrong with him.

HedgehogGirl · 19/02/2019 10:55

He often phones because of reasons I do not understand, for example to ask which kind of yoghurt I want or to tell me he is in a traffic jam.

What is not to understand... he wants to know what type of yogurt you want. He wants to let you know he may be late because he is stuck in a traffic jam...

Gomyownway · 19/02/2019 10:57

I don’t think it’s because he’s scared. I think he’s being pretty normal tbh.

Danni91 · 19/02/2019 10:58

Do you not like him?
He just wants to chat to you?
What do you discuss at home together?

Sparklesocks · 19/02/2019 10:58

I think the millennial comparison is quite a big leap. Some people use their phones a lot, some don’t – that’s the case for all generations.
I guess he was just calling you for a chat/to let you know where he was? You say he calls you regularly anyway, so why is this occasion different? Unless you want to say ‘I’m not like other millennials!!1, I’m unique!’ in which case, OK…good for you?

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Flyingfish2019 · 19/02/2019 10:58

@Hedgehog i eat all kinds of yoghurt. Don’t care.
He actually calls several times a day t ask a question like this or give some random info... but maybe it is me who is odd... and it is done like this nowadays.

How often do mumdnetters call their spouses because of things like this? How often do your spouses call because of things like this?

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JasperKarat · 19/02/2019 10:58

He's actually being considerate, he was getting McDonald's and was asking if you and the children would like some. In your other examples he's asking what yoghurt you would like and letting you know he's stuck in traffic, I'm assuming as it would affect what time he'll be home. What is strange about that? He's not calling you to tell you what colour socks he's wearing. I'm also not sure why you're assuming these calls are about him being scared, there perfectly normal communications.

AryaStarkWolf · 19/02/2019 10:59

LTB

JasperKarat · 19/02/2019 10:59

*they're

JasperKarat · 19/02/2019 11:02

Yesterday I whatsapped my husband with a photoshopped image of DSs favourite cuddly toy at a recent large sporting event that DH had recorded and wanted to watch last night, told him I had spoilers because (toy's name) was there. I was bored and the baby was actually sleeping for a change. He thought it was funny, not that I was scared...

NunoGoncalves · 19/02/2019 11:02

These all sound like totally normal reasons to call someone, OP.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 19/02/2019 11:03

I think assuming its because you are millennials is mind boggling.

Some people call or text their loved ones numerous times in a day he prefers calling to texting and enjoys speaking to you. I honestly do not see what's wrong with calling you?

It sounds like you don't like him very much if I am honest, do you never find yourself out and about thinking oww I wonder if DH would like to some of those posh biscuits or his favourite bands playing at x place I must let him know?

explodingkitten · 19/02/2019 11:03

I'd probably just tell him to bring back a big mac for me. I love big macs.

BarbaraofSevillle · 19/02/2019 11:03

You'll get people saying 'don't you like him' or isn't it nice he wants to chat to you, but it can get kind of wearing for him to call several times a day with nothing in particular to say, when you are busy at work or with the kids, housework, errands etc.

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Flyingfish2019 · 19/02/2019 11:04

He is not calling you to tell you what colour of socks he is wearing Grin Cannot stop laughing.... it tbh I think it won’t be long until he is calling me to tell me this.

Actually I am a bit annoyed by him calling me all of the time, for some reason I hate to talk over the cell phone. I do not know why... and sometimes I have things to do... whatever taking a shower, changing a kids clothes, cooking whatever... rush to wash my hand and to the cell phone just to find out he wants to give me some sort of unimportant info again.

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M4J4 · 19/02/2019 11:05

I hate texting so I get your phone hate but there are very few people I want to randomly call and chat to and be randomly called by, DH being one of them.

He feels comfortable with you and that's a good thing.

That said, how often is he calling you? If my DH called me more than twice a day to chat about random stuff it would get annoying.

ChandelierSail · 19/02/2019 11:06

I get it's annoying, OP.

What does he do if you don't answer?

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