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To give dd a bottle of Prosecco

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pasanda · 17/02/2019 18:28

DD is 15 tmrw and has a friend coming round tonight to celebrate before we go away for a few days tomorrow.

She's asked for a bottle of Prosecco for them to share, to celebrate.

Would you let her?

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TomHardysCardy · 17/02/2019 21:17

I would get a small bottle and let her and her friend have it, obviously check with her friends parents that they are ok with it.

I am happy for 13 and 14 year old to have a drink, not daily but with their Sunday meal and special occasions, if they want, we had friends round last night 14 year old had a small glass of cider. We live in France and it is normal here, probably why there is not the binge drinking culture there is in the UK.

I want them to have a responsible attitude to alcohol and drinking, I would rather they started at home

HettieBettie · 17/02/2019 21:18

Mini bottle each x

Hairyporker · 17/02/2019 21:19

Maybe you could jazz up her tap water with a lemon wedge.

pallisers · 17/02/2019 21:20

Yes I would. Would rather she was safe at home drinking Prosecco than down the park with her mates and a bottle of cheap vodka or cider.

There are more choices than that. And it is remarkably naive to think that because someone serves prosecco in their home, their children will politely refuse all offers to go down the park with their mates to knock back vodka. What do you think they will say "oh no, you go ahead, I'll go home and have a glass of chianti with my mum - that hits the spot"?

JasperKarat · 17/02/2019 21:20

Yes but make sure you have several large glasses of it so they're not having too much. Bonus prosecco for you

hellenbackagen · 17/02/2019 21:20

I think teaching sensible drinking is fine in their teens.

thesnapandfartisinfallible · 17/02/2019 21:22

1 bottle between them and drank over the course of a whole day/evening, with a meal I would probably allow. But just sitting there drinking it for the sake of drinking? No I don't think I would. Not sure why one scenario feels different from the other, it just does.

3in4years · 17/02/2019 21:24

Yes but I would share it.

poppymatilda · 17/02/2019 21:25

Yes I would but as other PP have said I'd probably have a generous glass of it myself first and try to kerp an eye on how much theyre drinking, how quickly. Far better to do it at home with you than out somewhere getting legless and then needing to get home x

FrancisCrawford · 17/02/2019 21:26

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ZenNudist · 17/02/2019 21:26

Asti or lambrini lower alcohol i suggest. They can have more glasses over the course of a night. Id have thought just a glass of prosecco would go to their heads. I did dry January and really felt the first glass of prosecco after the break and im an old lush! So you sharing the bottle wont help.

ChakiraChakra · 17/02/2019 21:35

A prosecco (champagne) glass is 125ml - so yes, a glass of prosecco is considerably less than half a bottle.

Haggisfish · 17/02/2019 22:35

A standard glass is 125ml-there are six of those in a bottle. There are only four large glasses (175ml).

Glitterbugle · 17/02/2019 22:36

@Franciscrawford have you been drinking? 6 x 175ml is 1050. A bottle of wine is 750ml. Half a bottle of wine is around 4.5-5 units

A bottle of wine is six standard glasses (175 ml) at two units of alcohol per glass.
That’s almost half the recommended weekly maximum of 14 units for an adult woman.

Haggisfish · 17/02/2019 22:38

I thought there was far more of an issue with binge drinking and alcohol dependence in France than we are generally led to believe? I honestly think we normalise drinking alcohol to a huge degree in this country, and far more than is healthy for the majority of the population. And I say that as someone who grew up with parents who didn’t drink much at all when I was young, yet still have grown up thinking it’s the answer to any of life-good, bad or anything inbetween!

7salmonswimming · 17/02/2019 22:55

Wtf?! She was 14yo yesterday!

Alcohol is totally, totally unnecessary to having a good time when you’re barely into your teens. Seriously, what parent would actually encourage and enable their 14/15yo children to drink alcohol? Will you be rolling her a mini-joint to go with that?

It’s really no wonder that Britain has such a problem with drinking. When you look at it from abroad, it’s shocking how drinking is so normalized. It’s not like in Germany or France where there’s still a perception that alcohol is for adults and an enjoyable accompaniment to good times. In the UK alcohol seems to be the fun. From the way mothers of small children talk about collapsing with a 🍷 as soon as the children are in bed; to work socialization almost always happening at the pub; to nobody batting an eyelid at all night benders and binge drinking.... And now apparently thinking a mini bottle of Prosecco from mum for a just-turned 15yo to celebrate her birthday being totally fine - and no doubt being sneered at for being a sourpuss killjoy to think that’s all manner of shit parenting.

Smh. Fucked up, dude.

dorisdog · 17/02/2019 23:04

I love how a poster on here said: Do you really think letting her get drunk on cheap alcohol is sending a good message?

A £15 bottle of Chateauneuf Du Pape from Waitrose, however...Grin

IncrediblySadToo · 17/02/2019 23:12

...you’re going on holiday the next day...

It really would not be in your best interest to allow her half a bottle of Prosecco the night before 🤮

SpareASquare · 17/02/2019 23:13

I had a baby at 15 (not planned btw) yes I would as long as they are staying in the house

WTF kind of justification is this? Is it a 'better to drink than get pregnant?' statement? I'd think quite often the two will go hand in hand and really, if if someone doesn't know how contraception works, they probably shouldn't be drinking alcohol. Because, you know, it's never 'planned' is it?

It is ok to aim higher you know?

riotlady · 17/02/2019 23:16

I would- my parents let me drink in the house as a teen and I knew my limits at 18 far better than those who hadn’t.

pallisers · 17/02/2019 23:33

I would- my parents let me drink in the house as a teen and I knew my limits at 18 far better than those who hadn’t.

Do you mean you learned your limits at 15 rather than 18? How do you "know your limits" - is it drinking till you puke so you realise that 6 vodkas and a cider isn't a great idea? Why is it better to learn that at 15 rather than 18? If it comes to it, why not learn your limits at 13?

riotlady · 17/02/2019 23:40

@pallisers

I mean I got a feel for how alcohol would affect me, I didn’t need to drink til I puked. It meant that when I got to university and there were free shots all over the place, I would have a couple. A lot of people I knew who’d never really drank before went hog-wild for it and drank everything in sight, they were often the ones puking and spending the night in a and e with alcohol poisoning.

PalmTree101 · 17/02/2019 23:46

A whole bottle? No way!

A glass of Buck’s Fizz each yes. Or even a single glass of Prosecco each.

Putitdownnow · 17/02/2019 23:53

My DH would as he wants to be cool dad.

I wouldn't as I'm the responsible parent.

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