To give dd a bottle of Prosecco

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DD is 15 tmrw and has a friend coming round tonight to celebrate before we go away for a few days tomorrow.

She's asked for a bottle of Prosecco for them to share, to celebrate.

Would you let her?

Do you want your just turned 15 year old to be smashed? Because she will on a half bottle of Prosecco

DavetheCat2001 made m laugh! My first reaction was yes why not. My parents used to send me and my friends up with a bottle of blue nun or some other sickly wine at that age. However I'm very much a binge drinker now so can't attest to this leading to a healthy attitude to alcohol.

A small glass each if other mum agrees

I'd have it for myself and give them a few special glasses, topped up with lemonade if you're worried. The other girl's mum is fine with it so that should be grand!

Agree with PP - getting used to alcohol in the home in quantities you can control is far better for when they actually start going out and drinking with mates, as they have a better idea of what they like and what they can handle... in theory anyway

nope.why ar the already associated needing a whole bottle of alchohol to celebrate a birthday

I would, sort of. I would pop it open with them, take a big glass yourself and let them have the rest. Make sure there are some nibbles around too. At 15 most of my friends were drinking much more than that at house parties/in parks. I think she'll respect you and your rules if you trust her.

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No

I assumed you meant a mini bottle between them which would be under a glass each. I would be ok with that but a full size bottle absolutely not. Best thing IMO would be to open a bottle for the family to share and they have a small glass each.

I don't see anything wrong with it, seeing as the other mums are on board too.

Get a bottle of Nosecco (I get it in Sainsburys) - tastes like the real thing and has (funnily enough) no alcohol. If its the alcohol not the fizz she is after (really? lol) get one of the low alcohol versions. Or as others have said a couple of those little bottles, one each - they look cute and cool. She will get alcohol one way or the other, we all did - which I agree does not mean we should capitulate!

Get a bottle and share it - one bottle between two at just 15 is too much

No. Absolutely not, 3 years under agar that’s a huge amount of alcohol.

Sainsbury's do Nosecco which is alcohol free and a very good imitation. I hate non alcoholic wine normally but this was very close to the real thing!

It’s a no because if you allow this now then where do you go from here? How will you argue against her drinking with friends? In the park? At parties? Where you aren’t there to make sure she doesn’t come to harm?

www.drinkaware.co.uk/advice/underage-drinking/know-the-risks-of-drinking-alcohol-underage/

Maybe a mini bottle each with a pizza to mitigate the effects. Maybe a fancy patisserie cake each to go with it, too.

No way.
At 16, when thy gathered at our house before going to their prom, I offered dd and her friends a glass of Pimms. Note a glass, and well proportioned with lemonade and fruit. At 16

Why do you think it is a good idea to give a ('just') 15 yr old an potentially a 14 yr old 1/2 a bottle or prosecco each ??

The idea that a 15 year old should have alcohol to celebrate and that it’s alright shows just how messed up our relationship is with alcohol in this country
And how ingrained.

I would, but then I was out drinking at 14 and my family has always had a relaxed attitude to alcohol, no problem binge drinkers either.

Mini bottle is a good idea.

No way. She is 14 now and about to turn 15 and you think she can share a bottle of prosecco with another 15/14.5 year old. I can't even imagine thinking this was ok.

I also find it funny that people assume you are uptight about sex and all sorts of other irrelevant things if you don't think a 15 year old should have 3 glasses of cheap alcohol as a celebration. Why on earth is a healthy attitude to alcohol regarded as puritan bollocks?

I also find it very amusing that people say things like "well it depends on how mature she is" like only the mature kids can drink. The immature slow to grown up ones just aren't able for it. No kid should be drinking half a bottle of wine. Maybe the mature kids aren't thinking that the only celebration worth having for your 15th birthday involves alcohol. that in itself is kind of sad - like pp said, messed up and ingrained.

Nope, no way. Plenty of non alcoholic champagne/processo out there and your dd and her friend will not know the difference.
Non alcoholic fizz and a couple of champagne flutes and they will be happy

Because alcohol has never been banned and they are trusted but encouraged to drink safely, my 16 yr old is the one who has phoned parents for drunk friends or ensured they get home safely. He has a drink but is careful to not go too far. I'm sure that trusting him is the reason combined with open discussion about dangers.
DD has never really been bothered either. It's not a big deal as they know they are trusted to do whatever safely or not at all if dangerous.

Absolutely not from me. I'd take her shopping to buy a fancy schloer, appletize or whatever floats her nom-alcoholic boat, and IF they were lucky AND she didn't whine too much AND the other mum agreed to it, I might give them a glass each of prosecco with a meal.

Yes I would. Would rather she was safe at home drinking Prosecco than down the park with her mates and a bottle of cheap vodka or cider.

My DD is 21 now and I allowed her to drink when she wanted to in her teens - at home or when I was around. She's never been really pissed. Some of her mates on the other hand, who's parents didn't let them drink, would often have to be carried home!