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To give dd a bottle of Prosecco

423 replies

pasanda · 17/02/2019 18:28

DD is 15 tmrw and has a friend coming round tonight to celebrate before we go away for a few days tomorrow.

She's asked for a bottle of Prosecco for them to share, to celebrate.

Would you let her?

OP posts:
AndItStillSaidFourOfTwo · 17/02/2019 20:03

No. Not my place to supply someone else's child with something they're underage for, and too much alcohol at that age anyway. I'd offer a glass of watered-down wine (or a bucks fizz or similar) at dinner with the family, after checking with the parents of the other girl, but no more, and certainly not to drink on their own.

Skirmisher · 17/02/2019 20:03

I used to work hard for my booze at 15. It would involve intricate planning and skullduggery.

lottiegarbanzo · 17/02/2019 20:04

Ha ha, great cross post. It's the 'extreme tolerance' at home that will push the park boundary towards the bottle of vodka.

One glass each OP.

DavetheCat2001 · 17/02/2019 20:06

This thread has made me open a bottle of Prosecco Grin

AlexaAmbidextra · 17/02/2019 20:06

A bottle of wine is about three glasses, which means a glass and a half each. I don't think it is irresponsible to allow that supervised at 15.

nrpmum. A bottle of wine is six glasses. So that would be three glasses each. Far too much for a 15 year old.

CJsGoldfish · 17/02/2019 20:07

No, I wouldn't.
I don't subscribe to the lax MN attitude of "they'll do it anyway" or "everyone does it at that age"
So many have such a sad need to be their kids friend or the 'cool' mum.
Not I. Happy to be a parent. 15, especially just turned 15 seems a ridiculous age to provide alcohol and I'm quite happy and able to say 'no' to my kids. And to set the bar a little higher.

hellenbackagen · 17/02/2019 20:09

Mini bottle each sonthey get the exciting pop of the cork !

Not a full one between them tho. Bit too much I feel

NCjustforthisthread · 17/02/2019 20:10

What the hell!!???!! 15?!! No way. Who does that?! Maybe at a stretch a shandy!

DoingMyBest2010 · 17/02/2019 20:11

Underage drinking? Nope.

SaucyJack · 17/02/2019 20:11

Entirely depends on the size of the glass as to how many you get out of a bottle, Shirley?

Lightofday · 17/02/2019 20:11

At 15? No! Wth?!

I mean a small glass maybe if the other girls mum is OK with it. But do u genuinely think it is OK for a 15 yr old to drink half a bottle of prossecco!? Please tell me you are joking.

Divgirl2 · 17/02/2019 20:13

A bottle between two of them will get them both pissed unless they're seasoned drinkers. Half a bottle of prosecco would have me singing, and I'm definitely old enough to buy it!

Letloose · 17/02/2019 20:17

I had a baby at 15 (not planned btw) yes I would as long as they are staying in the house.

Heismyopendoor · 17/02/2019 20:18

Nope, not something I would do or let my dd do.

spinabifidamom · 17/02/2019 20:19

How old is she? We were at a party yesterday and I had to control the alcohol addicts. Can you afford non alcoholic drinks or not? None of my children are permitted to drink any thing that is obviously alcoholic in nature yet.
Is this for a celebration or not?

aquamarine1 · 17/02/2019 20:20

I think half a bottle at just turned 15 is pretty outrageous - and I spent a few formative years on the continent where everyone assumes children are chucking back red wine at primary age.

thebadplace · 17/02/2019 20:21

Why not make prosecco cocktails with lots of juice and fresh fruit ? Bit of fun less alcohol ?

NCjustforthisthread · 17/02/2019 20:21

Also - isn’t that illegal?!?!?!!!? Confused

Maybe83 · 17/02/2019 20:21

I d order them a chinese and get them a small bottle each.

Letloose · 17/02/2019 20:22

Yes to Prosecco cocktails. Good idea pp

LovingLola · 17/02/2019 20:22

How old is she

It’s to celebrate her 15th birthday.

Yulebealrite · 17/02/2019 20:23

I'm afraid I would as I'd rather build a relationship with trust, however I'd also say that I think drinking all of it would be a bad idea as they are so young and that it would be a good idea to let me have some of it. I wouldn't insist but I would hope that they would take on board my concerns - Plus I get a glass or two of prosecco. Win, win.

This approach has worked for my two. I show that I trust them and so far they've risen to it and respected that trust. They've not let me down and they have nothing to rebel against.

Yulebealrite · 17/02/2019 20:25

Oh and they are 18 and 16 now.

YogaWannabe · 17/02/2019 20:25

Nope, no way.

Most of my friends lost their virginity while drunk to people they barely knew at that age. Ended up in insanely dangerous situations because of drink. Stomachs pumped etc.

“They’ll do it anyway” is such a low bar to set. You wouldn’t rack them up a few lines, roll them joints or give them a few E because they’ll “do it anyway”. I don’t view drink as any different (worse in fact in a lot of cases)

Tryingtoslim · 17/02/2019 20:26

Honestly when I was that age (not that many years ago) I was knocking back bottles of glens and tequila in a field. People who believe their teens don’t and they’re just at “sleepovers” majority are very naive. Much better for you to allow her while she’s supervised and you know where she is. Don’t create sneaky teens by not allowing it because I know from the few people I know who had their stomachs pumped it was the parents who wouldn’t allow it rather than those who oversaw a few drinks!!!

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