To give dd a bottle of Prosecco

[pasanda]

DD is 15 tmrw and has a friend coming round tonight to celebrate before we go away for a few days tomorrow.

She's asked for a bottle of Prosecco for them to share, to celebrate.

Would you let her?

I think a bottle between them is ok. Just take a glass for yourself first
I’d probably get some lemonade or orange juice to dilute it a bit.

I agree @sea.

@Oliversmumsarmy I disagree. I was allowed to drink at home - with Sunday lunch - from a very young age (5 - a bit wine heavily diluted with lemonade, then a small glass of wine on its own from maybe 13/14). I grew up respecting alcohol, never saw it as something forbidden or 'grown up', so there was no massive appeal to drink it in secret as a teen. As an adult, I hardly drink (probably no more than 6 units a month) and even as a uni student I rarely had more than a couple of drinks on a night out.

I would I think. Mine are little but compared to what I got up to at that age I think a bottle of prosecco at your mum's house is the height of sophistication and maturity! You can always "test" a glass first, just to confirm it's of high enough quality. I think it's lovely she's asked and given the option of saying no, surely a lot of kids would just sneak it in.

Sainsbury's alcohol free sparkling wine is really nice as a compromise.

I certainly agree that drinking at home under supervision is better than being so strict that your kids feel they have to be sneaky, which can be dangerous.
Still think it’s unwise to give 2 young teens a whole bottle

I'd let them have a glass or two each at
/with dinner. I'm a bit more French in this respect though. If you completely ban it then it's totally reasonable, but she'll likely get it from somewhere amd drink secretly where you can't supervise. At 15 we would be at the creme de menthe or schnapps from the back of the cupboards making delightful cocktails once our parents were asleep. At 16 I was sneaking into pubs... not ideal but I haven't forgotten what it's like at that age.

@pasanda what about an individual bottle each? So only a glass each

A mini bottle each! Might make her feel more grown up. Oh and maybe some orange juice

I wouldn't Prosecco (is it gets 31yo me shitfaced), would they have Smirnoff ice/wkds?

But do check with her friends parents first...

As long as all parents are ok with it and you're keeping an eye on them then I don't see a problem! Better to be under your roof than out on the streets so you can monitor it, my parents let me have the odd drink for birthdays and christmas etc at around that age and I now don't really drink (mid 20s) because it's something i've been able to do if that makes sense! Also had my first night out in town at that age

Shes 15. No.

I would let them have a glass of Prosecco each.

Shocked how many people are saying no, wondering what these people were up to when they were 15 🤣, I was getting served in the local pub. I was allowed alcohol in small amounts on special occasions and it didn’t turn me into a alcoholic, I have never actually been really drunk ever.

It’s convention in our society to drink alcohol but it is a poison, and has been proven to increase the likelihood of pretty much all diseases.

The advised amount of alcohol, medically, is none at all.

So it depends what you want to give her for her birthday really. Encouraging the use of alcohol, reinforcing the idea that to celebrate you need booze...maybe something else would suit her better.

My niece has been drinking quantities since she was 12 (it's down to her mother who wanted a drinking buddy) who easily downs 3+ bottles of wine every night but is functioning.

When she is with her dad he has never been drunk and has had a hot toddy for flu about 5 times max in his life because he needed to keep working as it was his busiest time, but to stop her sneaking it behind his back or getting dodgy stuff, he has made it that she can drink at his house as long as she funds it herself and he will buy it for her. He goes off with the shopping list and often "forgets" stuff on it and spends the money on nibbles to go with it.

I've bought her a bottle of vodka which I brought to her older sisters wedding as she was determined she was going to drink anyway, she had brought some herself but I disposed of it after a taste as it was like paint stripper, I would far rather her drink proper stuff if she is going to rather than knock off stomach stripper.

I decanted it into 4 x 250ml bottles, I gave her one. I know if she had got the litre bottle she would have downed it, it was a litre bottle of paint stripper like I took off her.

She has a high level of tolerance and is now 16, she can have fun without it but likes the way it makes her feel and her mum offers her a glass of wine a couple of times a night and anything stronger if she has it. She is constantly being exposed to it and it pushed upon her as she is called names by her mum if she won't take any.

I never was exposed to alcohol at home and when I was 17 and moved out of home within 2 months, one night myself and a friend were admitted to hospital - concussion made worse by alcohol poisoning - we were feeling very rough and every member of staff we came into contact with reading us the riot act.

I now consume less than 10 units a year, it's a real treat and friend while she drinks moderately now. It taught us both it wasnt good and did horrible things to us.

If you want to, go ahead a glass or 2 with dinner but despite all above no I wouldn't recommend giving a 15-year-old a full bottle. Fun and good times can be had without alcohol, they are not linked.

No!! Absolutely no way.

In the house under supervision and other parents fine I would yes.

My mum and dad used to buy me wine at that age to drink with friends and I'm.now tee total so I don't think half a bottle of wine at 15 = binge drinker

A bottle of wine is about three glasses, which means a glass and a half each

If you use big wine glasses yes. If you use regular sized champagne glasses youll get 6 glasses out of it.

I didn’t drink at 15 and wouldn’t expect to.

Yes I think so. I’m sure I was given alcohol by my parents at 14/15.

I would. Other parent is ok with it and you will be in the house. DD has asked you rather than trying to do it without permission. I would prob take some myself so they had 2 glasses each.

Not on your nelly.

I think a whole bottle is a bit too much. I would compromise with 2 or 3 1/2 glasses topped up with some sort of mixer. I really like elderflower presse, or lemonade works too.
I drank a fair amount between 15 and 22 (when I had DS). Im late 30s now and have probably less than 20 units a year. It never caused an issue with drink for me, or any of my school friends. My brother was the same and also rarely drinks now.
DS turns 15 in a couple of months and if he asked for a drink I would let him, but he's not at all interested. DSD on the other hand at 12 would have a drink now if allowed. She was allowed a tiny bit of prosecco and a lot of lemonade to top it up at new year.
To those who say absolutely not - did you never drink under 18? I can't remember anyone in my year at school who didn't start going to parties and drinking at around 15 (year 10).

My only reservation would be that prosecco is pretty strong for a 15 y o, I would have definitely been drunk off half a bottle of prosecco at that age!
I would get them something less strong like a 4% Alcopop, like a wkd if they still do things like that hahaha