To give dd a bottle of Prosecco

[pasanda]

DD is 15 tmrw and has a friend coming round tonight to celebrate before we go away for a few days tomorrow.

She's asked for a bottle of Prosecco for them to share, to celebrate.

Would you let her?

No.

Too young- and other parents may not be happy.

Personally I think you should buy a bottle, give them a glass each, and finish the rest yourself.

You have a 15 year old, you've bloody earned the rest of that bottle! X

I'd let them have 2 glasses each, but with orange juice so it's the equivilent of 1 glass.

I wouldn't dream of it. The nearest I would go was a small glass in the presence of the family as a toast or with a meal eaten together.

nrpmum

A 750ml bottle contains 6 glasses of wine.

If one of them decides one glass is enough that means the other may potentaily drink the rest of the bottle.

Half a bottle is quite a lot, and if one doesn't really like it then the other stands to have far too much. Also, where do you go from here? Next week, next month etc etc she'll be saying 'but you let me have it before'. How about getting all the ingredients and recipes for some really sophisticated mocktails, iced glasses, lots of ice etc and make a sort of 'bar' for them to shake their own?

A small glass each but I’d not give them more. A bottle between two is way too much.

Haha such OTT reactions here. They are 15 not 11!? I was in clubs at 16 drinking a heck of alot more than 2 glasses of bubbles!

Well, she's not 18, so no.

At that age my DD would get a bottle of alcopop on special occasions and that was it. I would say a glass each would be nice but not a bottle between them.

Op thank you for posting this. It’s an interesting array of answers. For myself, I grew up in small town Scotland where we started drinking at 15 and some of us haven’t stopped, age 40+. I think I might try not to normalise drinking to celebrate things with my dc. Although most of my group of friends don’t have a drink problem, I would say a sizeable portion do, particularly those with addiction/dependence issues in their family history. It’s a really tricky one.

I would let her. If you’re happy with it and the other mum is then why not? By 15 I was getting high in parks with my friends... if my family had ever let my friends come over and have a drink my teenhood would’ve been very different!
Alot of pearl clutchers are probably in deep denial about what their kids are actually getting up too!

Oh come on!
A bottle of Prosecco to 2 15 yr olds?!?
Absolutely not!
Agree with pp that a Buck’s Fizz each would be ok

You’ll be there won’t you, just get a bottle and have some yourself as well

RZNW - that did make me laugh! Not quite 15 but I reckon 15 is going to be worse than 14!

Can't wait for her to be 18 tbh!

I would but check with the other girl's parents and maybe provide some snacks to soak it up a bit

I'd have to have a large glass first to make sure it was all right but then I'd let them have the rest.

No.

Don’t normalize it. She can grow to make her own choices as an adult, but our job as parents is to help them to be as healthy and well balanced as we can. We are their guide. Let’s be parents!

A bottle between two 14/15 year olds?! No way - I wouldn't drink half a bottle as an adult.
A small/medium glass each... possibly (assuming you check that friend's parents are in agreement).

Seas just because you were getting high in parks at the age of 15 doesn’t mean that that is acceptable behaviour and anyone who disagrees is being naive.

Small glass only

So all the 15 year old drinkers on here now - do you wish you hadn’t? Are you concerned now as adults with the benefit of hindsight about the long term damage you may have done to your health?

Not a chance. Why would you even condone your dd drinking at that age?

M&S do alcohol free prosecco. Problem solved.

Didn’t say it was acceptable, certainly wouldn’t want it for my kids but I do think when you become so controlling of your children, it often has the opposite effect on them.
I also think it’s incredibly common for 15 year olds to have a drink - id personally rather it under my roof where I can keep an eye than anywhere else, which is where they’ll likely end up.