To give dd a bottle of Prosecco

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DD is 15 tmrw and has a friend coming round tonight to celebrate before we go away for a few days tomorrow.

She's asked for a bottle of Prosecco for them to share, to celebrate.

Would you let her?

It's very old fashioned parenting. No, I wouldn't. It's not the 1970s.

No, why do they need Prosecco to celebrate ? That’s ridiculous

i would have gone for something lighter than prosecco personally.

I possibly let them have a couple of glasses each... I think it's better to let them have a glass in the house and you know than them sneaking off without you knowing 😀

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Why do so many on here subscribe to the fallacy that if they let their kids drink at home then they won’t do it outside? ‘I’d rather they did it at home than in the park.’ They can do both you know - and rest assured they will.

Totally agree. My parents allowed me small amounts of alcohol when I was 15 at home under supervision. Only a little wine or cider, never any spirits. I was still going down the park and necking bottles of vodka with my friends.

In parts of the UK at 16 you are allowed beer,cider, wine at dinner with a parent present. Safe introductions to alcohol within the home and not just letting kids run riot at 18 is the best approach. A bottle of prosecco is fine

If she's arsey without alcohol, you have a problem.
It's her birthday today. Hope it goes well.

No way! At a push, a glass of bubbly each with a spritzer, not a bottle. There’s not really a need anyway, if she was really pushing could have made some mocktails or something.

Yep I would

Why do so many on here subscribe to the fallacy that if they let their kids drink at home then they won’t do it outside? ‘I’d rather they did it at home than in the park.’ They can do both you know - and rest assured they will.

This ^

The OP even acknowledges this to be the case:

I know she has sneaked booze before now and has plenty of friends who do the same

Do parents who find their 14 year olds have been smoking also buy fags so they can smoke at home too?

I would have let them share a bottle of something with a lower alcohol content between them with a meal, some reasonably acceptable lower alcohol wines are available in most supermarkets. I wouldn't touch prosecco myself, it's far too dry for my taste, even I would prefer something sweeter & with less alcohol. For the record I've not had any alcohol for over 14 months now, not that I have a problem with it, just totally gone off it.

DD is arsey quite a lot!

Well perhaps she shouldn’t be getting her own way quite so much then.

In parts of the UK at 16 you are allowed beer,cider, wine at dinner with a parent present.

The child in question was just 15. The friend may have been 14.

Safe introductions to alcohol within the home and not just letting kids run riot at 18 is the best approach.

Recent research would suggest this theory is flawed.

A bottle of prosecco is fine

Between two 15 year olds? You have got to be joking. 🙄

What about lambrini/Lambrusco?

I totally take on board lots of comments on this thread. But to say that if I have an arsey teenager I have a problem is just ridiculous.

Have those who think this never clocked the hundreds of teenage help books available for parents to read? Or ever been on the teenagers board? Or ever heard of the notion that a 15 yr old girl can be stroppy?

Really??

If you have an arsey teenager, that's normal. If you have a teenager who is arsey because they don't have alcohol, that's not normal.

Ok those teenagers who are drinking in the park are likely to be doing it regardless of whether they are allowed it at home or not.

Are they more likely to listen to parents about drinking in moderation in the park if they have parents who ban it completely or have parents who allow them alcohol at home in moderation, with advice about drinking sensibly? Imo they are more likely to listen to the parents in the "If you are going to do it, do it sensibly" camp.

No one is advocating just giving it to them, but allowing them alcohol at the same time as they are being educated about the dangers of drinking excessively is different. For some, those words of advice will be ignored, but for many some of it will infiltrate and they are likely to be just that little bit more careful. It's worked for my kids. They are the ones looking after the ill ones.

Oh and they have to find their own limits. Just allowing them " one" glass is still too controlling. You need to teach them they can have more if they want but it's sensible to limit it themselves. Otherwise in the park when you are not there to limit it - they won't either.

Agree with PP, either a mini bottle each or a whole bottle of bucks fizz.

If she's had the respect to ask you for this, it shows she's a sensible girl that's not about to be sneaking off drinking straight spirits in the park (if you let her have a little of what she fancies at home).

That's exactly what the teenage children of parents who said absolutely NOT will be doing.

I’ve never understood why some people are so strongly against kids having alchohol at this age for special occasions. Teach them properly about drinking and the dangers rather than making a big deal out of it

Because it is now been proven that strict no alcohol till 18 or 21 produces people who are far more sensible drinkers.

Agree Auntiepatricia from my own dcs experiences (they were brought up in a no alcohol household. Neither dc drink). It was their friends who had parents who taught them to drink who were having their stomachs pumped.

I remember been 15, I hated it... legally a child but really I thought I was an adult.. plus I think nowadays teenagers are treated more like adults than ever yet they are told your only 15, 16, blah blah..

It's a difficult age ..

Oliver's I hear what your saying but both my half sister and my niece were bought up not able to have a drink as they were growing up (teenagers) when they got to 18.. both were a nightmare and were pissed on a weekend and all respect went out the window for there parents, they tried to control them but it was constantly "I'm 18 I can do what I want" they are 20 & 22 now and seem to just becoming "normal"again and have both said they think because they wasn't aloud to drink when they were older teenager they just went mad when they could..

For the record they don't know each other and don't live by each other they are separate side of the family

It is indeed cinder!

Just to reiterate, she had a row with a younger sibling about some disco lights . Did not get arsey about alcohol.

Until I poured it away. But I would not expect her to react any other way to this! She is stroppy! I still do it tho and ignore her.

Because it is now been proven that strict no alcohol till 18 or 21 produces people who are far more sensible drinkers.

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