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Buggies and Babies and Buses (oh my!)

144 replies

Hollanda · 17/02/2019 14:26

OK. AIBU?

My nearly 2 year old daughter is in her buggy. (Odd that as she's little more than a baby). We get on the bus. I like the seat usually reserved for wheelchairs as she faces me and we can chatter (her speech is great for her age and it's easy to think she's closer to 3 than 2).

Anyway on this occasion the space is taken by a woman with a toddler of 3 on her knee and the buggy not folded. Because the bus is full, several folk from the actual buggy area have to move to let me and my (sleeping) daughter on the bus.

AIBU giving toddler sitting on knee woman a good death stare and inwardly thinking about gauging her eyes out with a rusty spoon??? I wouldn't give this headspace usually but yesterday was bloody awful and I'm still all cross about it!!!

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Violetroselily · 17/02/2019 14:33

You're complaining that you had to put your buggy in the buggy area?

Your daughter was asleep so you wouldn't have been able to "chatter" anyway

Winterfellismyhome · 17/02/2019 14:34

Are you annoyed because she had taken the space you usually want? Or is there only space for one pram and she hadn't folded hers? She probably wanted to put her toddler back in when she got off the bus because its easier than carrying him and a pram off

Festivecheer26 · 17/02/2019 14:35

Yes YABU. You got the actual buggy space. People moved to accommodate you as is expected on public transport. If a wheelchair had got on at the next stop she’d have been able to fold her buggy and move for them which would have been much more difficult for you with a sleeping child. Would you really have expected to her to move from the disabled spot into the buggy spot so you could have it?

PotteringAlong · 17/02/2019 14:36

What are you annoyed about? That you were allowed to get on the bus with your buggy and you had to sit in the buggy area?!

If she was asleep she wasn’t facing you to chatter anyway, was she?

TidyDancer · 17/02/2019 14:42

I honestly can't work out why this bothers you. She got there before you, your DD was asleep and you got a space anyway. How is any of this a problem?!

sweeneytoddsrazor · 17/02/2019 14:46

What is there to be annoyed about?

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue · 17/02/2019 14:47

I don’t see what the problem here is at all. You had a buggy, you occupied the buggy spot.

Makes no sense why you would be annoyed.

erja · 17/02/2019 14:47

Our buses are similar. Wheelchair spot and then another space (supposed to be for elderly though). You're lucky if you get either some days. I have a preference (the wheelchair side) but certainly wouldn't expect someone to fold down their buggy because I preferred that sideShock if you were saying that that was the only space and she hadn't folded a buggy than YANBU. But in this instance, YABU and I hope she thought you were really rude!!!!!! I wouldn't have folded a buggy when I had a (likely heavy) toddler on my knee trying to keep the peace on a bus ride when there's a designated buggy area right there.

riotlady · 17/02/2019 14:47

So you got on the bus with your buggy, put the buggy in the buggy space and everything was fine?

jaseyraex · 17/02/2019 14:48

There was still space for you and your buggy so how is this even something to be annoyed about?! YABU.

Oysterbabe · 17/02/2019 14:51
Confused
user1andonly · 17/02/2019 14:52

Surely she got on the bus with her toddler in the buggy and wanted to sit with her child facing her so that they could chat (exactly the same as you) but at some point the child wanted to get out of the buggy and sit on mum's knee.

Should she have got up, folded her buggy and moved at that point just in case you got on and wanted to sit there?

She did nothing wrong.

IVEgottheDECAF · 17/02/2019 14:54

How do you know her dc was actually 3! You say yours can easily be mistaken ...

Cranky17 · 17/02/2019 14:55

Oh my! How entitied are you! Just because your child was younger

WeCameToDance · 17/02/2019 14:55

YABU. If a wheelchair user had got on she would have had to move out of the wheelchair space. Ffs. It is a space reserved for wheelchairs not an overflow buggy/pram space. Im fed up of seeing bus drivers having to ask people with buggies to vacate the wheelchair space when a wheelchair user needs itand people rarely do it graciously. Anyway, if you were in that space and somebody in a wheelchair needed it you would have had to move with a sleeping baby and the buggy space would have been taken so you would have had to fold and carry child. The buggy space is the better option all round.

LordPickle · 17/02/2019 14:57

YABU. Read back what you wrote OP. You sound like an entitled twat.

Sockwomble · 17/02/2019 14:58

You got a buggy space so what is the problem? You are better off with that one because you won't have to move if a wheelchair user gets on.
The other buggy could have been an sn buggy or be being used by a child with sn.

CherieBabySpliffUp · 17/02/2019 15:01

I don't understand what your issue is

OfficeSlave · 17/02/2019 15:01

Unreasonable, and really really rude if you intentionally tried to make her feel uncomfortable with a death stare.

Its likely something else made you feel out of control before that incident then? Maybe best to think more on what it really was that you were pissed off about, unless it was just entirely an unfortunate off, bad day.

Sparklingbrook · 17/02/2019 15:03

I am not seeing the problem here...

ilovesooty · 17/02/2019 15:06

You seem oblivious to the fact that the space is prioritised for wheelchair users anyway.

Darkstar4855 · 17/02/2019 15:07

YABVU.

My nearly 2 year old daughter is in her buggy. (Odd that as she's little more than a baby).

Why is it odd that your daughter was in her buggy? I don’t get what you mean by this.

edgen2019 · 17/02/2019 15:10

Hollanda = try being a wheelchair user on a bus, that's not much fun either!

Lifeisabeach09 · 17/02/2019 15:11

First come, first serve unless a wheelchair user. I can't believe you are annoyed with someone who was exactly in the same position as you-on the bus with toddler and a buggy.
Agree with PP. You do sound entitled.

FrancisCrawford · 17/02/2019 15:12

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