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AIBU?

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Buggies and Babies and Buses (oh my!)

144 replies

Hollanda · 17/02/2019 14:26

OK. AIBU?

My nearly 2 year old daughter is in her buggy. (Odd that as she's little more than a baby). We get on the bus. I like the seat usually reserved for wheelchairs as she faces me and we can chatter (her speech is great for her age and it's easy to think she's closer to 3 than 2).

Anyway on this occasion the space is taken by a woman with a toddler of 3 on her knee and the buggy not folded. Because the bus is full, several folk from the actual buggy area have to move to let me and my (sleeping) daughter on the bus.

AIBU giving toddler sitting on knee woman a good death stare and inwardly thinking about gauging her eyes out with a rusty spoon??? I wouldn't give this headspace usually but yesterday was bloody awful and I'm still all cross about it!!!

OP posts:
TurquoiseDress · 17/02/2019 16:27

I would never be able to fold my pram if I were on a bus- it does come apart, so then there would be the carrycot and chassis and my baby in my arms...this would not work on a crowded bus!

Luckily I live in a suburban area and do not depend on the bus to get anywhere in particular.

Recently a wheelchair user got on the bus and I didn't hesitate to come off the bus and carry on my journey in the sunshine. There was another women next to me with a pram and a couple other children.

I have been known to get off the bus in the pouring rain- most recently while the bus was stuck in awful traffic and I was feeling sick due to how hot & stuffy it was on the bus!

yourfeetstink · 17/02/2019 16:44

I think you know yabu

Crazyfrog007 · 17/02/2019 16:46

Seriously...?

itsbritneybiatches · 17/02/2019 16:46

Is this shit actually real?

You gave her a snarl because she was there first???

Don't ever go all inclusive OP you will have a full of shit fit melt down Confused

aslafiesta · 17/02/2019 17:06

You managed to get yourself and your daughters pram on the bus and go where you needed to go. I really don't understand why you're annoyed? It's public transport. Other people are allowed to use it too, and they can choose where they want to sit if they get on first. It's just how buses work. There have been times where I was late to where I needed to go because the first bus didn't have room for me and my pram and I have been annoyed but these things happen.

You're an entitled rude bitch and there was no need to give evils to a stranger because she 'took' your seat and you couldn't stare at your PFB the whole time. Get a grip seriously Confused

Sirzy · 17/02/2019 17:08

So you managed to get on the bus in the space for a pram. What’s the issue?

ShabbyAbby · 17/02/2019 17:14

When the bus drives past me or won't let me on because I have a buggy I am perfectly happy to fold and there are people standing in the buggy bay when there are plenty of seats then I get annoyed.
Otherwise you are being u

Mmmhmmm · 17/02/2019 17:17

I knew this thread was going to be by a super entitled OP with no world problems. It totally delivered. Well done OP. 👏

Rosered341 · 17/02/2019 17:22

What’s the issue? Is it She was in the spot that you perceive to be yours??

Biancadelrioisback · 17/02/2019 17:24

I really don't understand...

Biancadelrioisback · 17/02/2019 17:29

OP please please come back and explain what the problem actually was?
On the one hand I'm hoping that you've forgotten something critical that happened but the on the other I'm hoping you're one of those people. Like the lady who tried to give me a proper, pissed-off-primary-school-teacher style telling off in M&S the other week when I bought the last scotch egg. Apparently it was her favourite and she was so hurt that I went and bought it...

ZeldaPrincessOfHyrule · 17/02/2019 17:39

What? I'm definitely reading this wrong. I can't find anything to be annoyed at the woman about. Are you annoyed she existed?

rose789 · 17/02/2019 17:45

Hang on a second!! You got on a bus and another passenger had the audacity to be sitting in the seat you prefer????? What did the police say?????!!!!! Never mind giving her and her child a death stare you should have called for an instant public flogging!
Yes yabvvu and frankly a twat.

hazeyjane · 17/02/2019 17:50

I once had a woman get the arse with me in almost exactly this situation!! I had taken ds (who was 4 at the time) out if his sn buggy (which didn't fold) as he was hysterical....a woman got on with a younger child asleep in its buggy and spent the entire journey pursing her lips and staring at us with barely contained fury.....bizarre!!

foxandthehound · 17/02/2019 18:20

Yabu. There was space for your buggy in the buggy area. Your dd was sleeping, she wouldn't of missed the chats

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 17/02/2019 18:27

You got some issues Hmm

Canuckduck · 17/02/2019 18:28

You’re angry because she took your favourite space in the bus? Your highly advanced toddler was sleeping anyways so not sure of the issue. Move on.

Wallsbangers · 17/02/2019 18:41

Must be nice to have such little in life to worry about.

NotACleverName · 17/02/2019 19:14

You should've challenged her to a duel for the seat.

LilaJude · 17/02/2019 19:18

I agree that OP was being unreasonable but some people on this thread are just being downright nasty.

newroundhere · 17/02/2019 19:23

I have no idea what you were cross about Confused

ilovesooty · 17/02/2019 19:28

nasty Grin

For goodness sake...

Kintan · 17/02/2019 19:44

Maybe the OP meant this as a lighthearted humourous thread but no one got it? That’s the only explanation I can think of that would make sense of this bizarre thread!

dawn29 · 17/02/2019 19:44

YABU be grateful you can even get two buggies on a bus, where I live there's space for 1 wheelchair or 1 buggy, I get taxi's everywhere or walk as I give up trying to get on a bus, bus people annoy you so much don't get the bus then, there's other options to get places. If you couldn't get on the bus at all because she had an empty buggy up I would have understood it, but you said you got on the bus and could leave your sleeping toddler in the pram, so what's the problem?

Talkingfrog · 17/02/2019 20:05

Sleepstandingup - the information came from a driver from the same company. I think you have me confused with someone else. I have only ever been involved in one incident with an empty pushchair and it is the one above. I definitely haven't requested someone come downstairs for me. I have also never made my own post, just replied. If there was no space I would wait for the next bus, or when my daughter was old enough, fold up the pushchair. I actually bought a smaller pushchair when my daughter was a bit older so that it would fit in the space with another pushchair, or I could fold it down more easily if needed.
Jane doughnut - sorry if my comment caused any offence. It wasn't intended to. I got distracted part way through the post, and as you can see by the typos I didn't proof read it first. The man in the wheelchair and his companion were at the bus stop when I returned home too. We were all talking about the film they had seen.
Two roundabouts - I think he was trying to fit us all on without conflict. The other pushchair was long. The driver and I tried to get them to fit in the same space and they wouldn't. I offered to wait but he told me to stand in the aisle and get off if anyone needed me too. Everyone told me to stay where I was and they would manage.