AIBU: Teenage friend put on the sex offenders list for 'pantsing' someone at school

[Neonata]

Last week one of my 15YO DS's closest friends pulled a classmate's gym shorts down in the changing rooms as a prank and unfortunately his pants also came down and he was momentarily exposed. The boy then escalated this and the friend has now been isolated for a day, then excluded for a day and also put on the sex offenders list!!

AIBU to think this is a massive over reaction by the school?? He is a lovely boy who is usually really well behaved and generally high achieving academically.

I'm wondering that this will demonise him so much that he will start thinking he is actually a bad person and it will be enough to send him down the wrong path.

In my pp I said that I was concerned by your support of the perpetrator and your lack of empathy for the victim. Since then your posts have left me aghast at complete dismissal of the impact on the victim and your continued support that it is only a silly prank.

IF YOUR DS HAD HIS PENIS EXPOSED IN FRONT OF ALL HIS CLASS MATES WOULD YOU TELL HIM IT'S ONLY A PRANK AND THE LAD WHO DID IT IS A NICE LAD?!

You're still minimising and excusing. What does it matter what register this lad is on, you think it's harsh and unfair and he doesn't deserve it anyway.

BTW even a criminal or sexual offence that happens out of school, the school would know about as they have a duty of care to safeguard other pupils.

You sound very gullible op... and I'm normally the gullible type.

The boy sent the S.W.A.T. team round to Justine's house is a lovely achiever who went to an extremely good school but he still commited an offence and got caught, my ex was is a high achiever but he still broke my arm so I think arrogance and nobody can get me is a trait in these little shites

You worry about embarrassing the bullies parents, what about the victim. If my 15 y.o. behaved like this I'd be mortified, I hope his parents have demanded an apology from him. He sounds a complete idiot.

I'm not minimising what he did - I realise there must be a reason why the boy escalated it.

It's just my DS said last night "You know he's ended up on the same list as XXXXX" (the boy from the other school who filmed and shared a sex act).

His parents have apparently grounded him for three weeks, so they are taking it very seriously.

This is weird.

#trollalert

There is clearly a misunderstanding here. Schools have no power to put people on theses offenders register and courts don’t move so quickly.

Cripes I'm glad I NC'd for this - some of you sound vile 😂

I have to say whenever I've disagreed with an OP I've kept things diplomatic...a lesson that's stood me in good stead IRL too so far...

Grounded for 3 weeks for being on the SOR..

They are taking it seriously 😂

U need to take a step back for a minute and analyse this properly and listen to what people are saying..

This boy can not being on a SOR
It is impossible

It’s probably a list written on the toilet door.

OP: am I wrong??
Everyone: yes
OP: you’re all mean. Waaaaaa

And why do some posters think I'm a troll?? If it's because the post seems so far fetched then that's how it seemed to me and why I chose to share it on here.

The little shit deserves this, you are not a friend of women, are you OP?

OP, just because some boys and their parents are saying something, it doesn’t mean it’s true!

It sounds like utter crap.

And I would be concerned about the company your DS is keeping. You lie with dogs, you catch fleas.

Wow. This is all getting a bit mob-like to me now. I think I need to check out and leave you the it.

It's just my DS said last night "You know he's ended up on the same list as XXXXX" (the boy from the other school who filmed and shared a sex act)

His parents have apparently grounded him for three weeks, so they are taking it very seriously

Are you being deliberately obtuse or completely taking the piss?

Gosh how dumb can you be OP. Do you really think this went on the SOR. you're one of those people who you could play the stupidest prank on and you fall for it.

some of you sound vile

What is vile is minimising the nasty, humiliating behaviour of this bully.

The problem isn't that the underwear "accidently" came down as well. Pulling someone's clothes down is a really nasty horrible thing to do even if you don't expose their genitals.

If it's because the post seems so far fetched then that's how it seemed to me and why I chose to share it on here.

No, OP, it is because it is clearly a lie/over embellishment by your son and his friend that all of us would know not to be true. No one is that clueless, surely????

Word of advice, OP. If it seems far fetched, it usually is.