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am i being unresonable to expect my husband to prioritse his children over his relatives

115 replies

MMMMS · 10/02/2019 22:23

I have been married for almost three years and have 2 DS's. recently my husband has said he no longer wants to financially support me as he wants to financially support his relatives. i have told him that its his responsibility to care for me and his children first and if he doesnt want to provide for us, its better for him to leave.

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MoseShrute · 10/02/2019 22:24

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thenightsky · 10/02/2019 22:26

WTF? He doesn't get to just opt out FFS.

crazycatlady5 · 10/02/2019 22:26

Erm what? More context is needed here I think.

Houseonahill · 10/02/2019 22:28

Are the children his? Are you a SAHM and that what he is objecting to? Why does his family suddenly need financial help? It's not right he just gets to dictate what's happening but more information is needed.

Giraffey1 · 10/02/2019 22:29

Eh? He wants to what? Why? We need more info!

Ghanagirl · 10/02/2019 22:30

Huh how will that work and which relatives does he need to support?

MistressDeeCee · 10/02/2019 22:30

Is it a cultural thing?

Redshoeblueshoe · 10/02/2019 22:31

Bloody hell

AnneLovesGilbert · 10/02/2019 22:32

I’m confused.

Singlenotsingle · 10/02/2019 22:32

Are the relatives abroad and he wants to send money to them??? Does he expect you to support him?

Sparkles07 · 10/02/2019 22:33

Epic drip feed on the way I feel.

GunpowderGelatine · 10/02/2019 22:34

Way more detail is needed.

Is he saying he will no longer have any of his incoming finances going to joint mortgage, bills food etc because he will be paying for his relatives in some way? Or is it spare cash? Which relatives? Supporting them how?

steff13 · 10/02/2019 22:36

Epic drip feed on the way I feel

I'm so excited to see what it will be!

Ghanagirl · 10/02/2019 22:36

@MistressDeeCee

Is it a cultural thing?
WTF in which culture do you not support your offspring who are young children??

fluffygreenmonsterhoody · 10/02/2019 22:36

Did you mean xDH?

HolesinTheSoles · 10/02/2019 22:37

More detail needed. How old are the kids? What was your plan when you had the kids (I'm assuming DH is their dad)? Was the expectation you would stay home indefinitely? What does he propose you do for money?

Ghanagirl · 10/02/2019 22:37

Oh do hurry up and reply OP, I’m in bed

Gazelda · 10/02/2019 22:40

Does he mean that he will no longer be contributing to your household? Or is he trying to persuade you to increase your income? Who has been supporting his family until now? Does he live with you, or with them?

TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup · 10/02/2019 22:41

I'm guessing...you are a SAHM, the kids aren't his and he's a dickhead.

SoleBizzz · 10/02/2019 22:42

He is insane

ATBhinchers · 10/02/2019 22:43

Ok hun.

Fattymcfaterson · 10/02/2019 22:44

How old are the DS's?

Ghanagirl · 10/02/2019 22:45

@TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup
Op does say his children in post but as she’s disappeared I guess we have to keep guessing🤔

zsazsajuju · 10/02/2019 22:46

More info rqd. Why doesn’t he think he should support you?

BackforGood · 10/02/2019 22:48

Come on OP - give us the drip feed.