Can’t pick your in-laws

[Boboz]

I have been married for 12 years and DH and I have a DD together. My in-laws have always been on the cold side but have felt we got on fairly ok. I have just got this text message from my MIL and I am really cross....Am I being totally unreasonable or am I justified in feeling p*d off with my MIL? Her message below.
“Hi., I hope you don't mind but I am organising a 50th birthday party for my husband I booked village hall and bar for Saturday's 31st March and I will organise all the food.. Hope this is okay with you and can you invite all that you can think of”.

I agree, it would have been polite for her to discuss this with you in advance, but as your DH has already said he doesn't want it, and you already have plans, I think you are perfectly justified in saying 'what a lovely idea. Sadly, we can't make that weekend as we have plans.'

And leave it at that.

hamandpease yes she is cancelling the party.

Ok so your MIL is cancelling the party, no drama.

I don't see the big deal tbh. "You can't pick your in laws"? Well yours don't sound that bad to me. She had the audacity to organise a party without running it past you... and now she's cancelling it.

Unless there was some hysterical reaction you're not telling us about, it's no big deal.

Some of us have actual in-law problems to worry about