To ask to much you drink when in charge of your child?

[meow1989]

Just wondered as to what everyone's idea of a sensible limit is?

If DH is drinking a couple of beers I'll tend not to, but tonight fancied a glass of prosecco (home measure so about 200ml). Had poured myself another but then put it back as I didn't have dinner (big lunch) and we have a 7 month old DS.

My thinking is if I need to I'll be able drive if I absolutely needed to and I'll wake easily if DS does (still in our room, sleeps through except for dummy wakes, only cosleep in morning after 6.30 bottle).

DH doesn't necessarily think like this and didn't see anything wrong with us both having a second (absolutely amicable brief conversation as to why I put mine back) so I'm just curious as to what everyone else sets as their limit?

I think you are overthinking. Have a drink. If there is an emergency you can call an ambulance or a taxi. Are you not going to drink fir the next 18 years just in case!?!

I don't not drink in case if an emergency, I just don't see the need. I don't like the fuzzy headed feeling, or feeling a bit slow the next day. Why would people lie on an anonymous website?! 😂

And the whole idea of 'kinship' in drinking, or 'mummy needs a drink because she looks after small children' is just such lame drivel tbh.

None. Not against it or anything, but I'm a single parent and hate drinking alone.

My son had a (freak) accident where he nearly severed his finger, he was about 10 or 11.

It was a Saturday night and I had had the best part of a bottle of wine, I wasn’t pissed or incoherent. I called an ambulance and when they arrived explained why I didn’t drive and they were perfectly pleasant about it and so were the nurses at the hospital.

Surely if you don't like drinking you're kind of irrelevant to this thread.

Surely it's like living in wait of an emergency?

How do all of you who never drink in case of the need for an a&e trip live with that level of fear and catastrophising?! I honestly can't understand it.

(And others who asked the same)

Believe it or not, not everyone lives for a drink at the weekend or wine with dinner or whatever. Some people don’t even think about drinking. Its just not on their mind. Not everyone wants to drink. It doesn’t feature in their weekly routine so they aren’t sitting in a constant state of anxiety and stress over not being able to drink incase of an emergency.

I would never drink so much as to be insensible, unable to wake and respond to a call or cry, or reeling or staggering.

But, half a bottle of wine on a Saturday night, drinks with friends when we are all in each other’s houses (with kids there) all perfectly normal in our house and amongst my friends

Why would anyone lie? I enjoy a drink but lots of people I know don’t drink and exh never drank at home, not even at Christmas.

And to the PP who tried to scaremonger with SS.

I wasn’t trying to scaremonger anyone! I was explaining my personal reasoning.

Care and Protection would not be informed about a parent having a bottle of wine in the privacy of their own home in a Saturday night - most social workers I know drink a lot more!!

Good to know. I’ll carry on as I have been.

I don't know anyone who totally abstained from alcohol just because they Have DC.

Nor do my friends get absolutely wasted.

There is such a thing as enjoying a pleasant drink whilst watching tv or chatting with friends.

I think the "in case I need to drive" is irrelevant
I think if you can drink a coffee and be ok and get In ambulance or respond to a fire alarm you're ok
I think it also depends on whether you'll be grouchy/hungover/not respond to kids in the morning
I don't think many people irl would not share a bottle of wine (generous glass or two each) and I think in situations where there is a couple then you compensate for each other's slightly delayed responses.
I think single parents drinking alone is a different issue to do with lone drinking not how much. I would err on the side of caution as a LP

MaxiBondi

“Preposterous.”

“^opinion.”

No, fact. An A&E nurse will not call SS because a functioning adult has alcohol on their breath. And SS will not require the full details of your life because you take a child to A&E in a taxi if needed havjng had 2 or 3 glasses of wine.

If you turn up insensible and reeling, unable to account for injuries to a child, well that’s a different matter.

But your opinion about having one or two drinks is not rational or based in fact.

It really varies. When pregnant obviously nothing and my husband doesn’t enjoy drinking on his own in the house. Otherwise we’d probably have a glass or two on weekends unless we’re out (and in which case the other one is alone doing childcare) or we’ve got guests when the wine is pretty free flowing.

I wouldn’t like feeling out of control if I’m looking after children- it’s not fair on them and I think people do make questionable decisions but there is a big difference between having a glass of wine and drinking to get wasted.

No, fact.

😂😂😂 “preposterous” I suppose not a fact! You’re being preposterous to assert that it is. And that’s my opinion 😂

One can of cider

I don’t drink anything when the children are under my care

is not

Who are all of these militant holier thou non drinking women in real life??
Come on ladies, let's use logic in decision making. Not worse case scenario. Anxiety levels this high aren't healthy.

Come on ladies, let's use logic in decision making

You mean like respecting people who decide not to drink rather than deride them as “holier than thou”...?

😂😂😂

Militant
Holier than thou
Lying
On the spectrum

Christ people really get defensive about their drinking.

I don't know what people think non drivers do you think we just don't take DCs to hospital (or anywhere)
There are ambulances, taxis, public transport depending on how urgent it is.
I do think that what's important is that you can cope with the situation.
Some people lose capacity to make decent decisions after glass 1, whilst others can still do so on a full bottle.

Who are all of these militant holier thou non drinking women in real life??

I hate how we have this culture in the UK where it’s acceptable to belittle someone for not drinking.

It doesn’t effect you if me and my husband prefer to be sober when looking after our children and I haven’t cast any judgement on anyone who is happy to drink when in charge of theirs.