To ask to much you drink when in charge of your child?

[meow1989]

Just wondered as to what everyone's idea of a sensible limit is?

If DH is drinking a couple of beers I'll tend not to, but tonight fancied a glass of prosecco (home measure so about 200ml). Had poured myself another but then put it back as I didn't have dinner (big lunch) and we have a 7 month old DS.

My thinking is if I need to I'll be able drive if I absolutely needed to and I'll wake easily if DS does (still in our room, sleeps through except for dummy wakes, only cosleep in morning after 6.30 bottle).

DH doesn't necessarily think like this and didn't see anything wrong with us both having a second (absolutely amicable brief conversation as to why I put mine back) so I'm just curious as to what everyone else sets as their limit?

I’m just imaging all the “not wine o’clock in this house” performance parenting FB statuses from all is holier than thou liars.😂

NOthing when breastfeeding - maybe one wine in nye but was so long ago now!
Since then I def drank when they were younger. I never did to point of not being able to function around them, and if anything happened then cabs are available.
As they got older we went out more and would drink at parties etc. They’d be babysat and tbh we never had an issue.
I prob drink less than ever now as my tolerance isn’t as good although I do still like to drink at parties, I’m not fussed about drinking at home.

ILoveMaxiBondi

And the releases of all the hilarious books “Why Mummy Drinks Sparkling Water”

If I'm on my own with ds then nothing, ever. I'm not great in a crisis anyway (tend to panic) so dread to think what adding alcohol into the mix would do.

Daffodildainty

This is a silly and smug mummy thread attracting all varieties of silliness. My DD is grown up. I took her to A&E three times, never without a build up. The likelihood of an unexpected emergency in the night is minimal and if driving is an issue then use an ambulance or taxi. As others have said non drivers are not lesser parents. Maxi bondi you are talking total twaddle- SS would never be called if parents had a whiff of the grape. Obviously not advocating that anyone get trousered.
Chill out - stop the performance parenting and you’ll bring up relaxed and we’ll adjusted kids.

This is the most sensible post I have read on Mumsnet for a long time. Thank you Daffodildainty

performance parenting?! Who the fuck is watching the performance I put on on not having a drink? In real life, this doesn't come up. Drink, don't drink, just don't be a dick. It's hardly a performance to say you don't drink on a thread about drinking or not.

I’m just imaging all the “not wine o’clock in this house” performance parenting FB statuses from all is holier than thou liars

This reeks of someone who has guilt and shame at drinking alcohol and ridicules those who don't, or makes them out to be liars.

I'm not a performance parent because I choose not to drink. I'm not a liar because I choose not to drink.

HTH.

I'm hoping that by the time my DS has children, people will view drinking alcohol at home most evenings as a way to relax and unwind in the same way as smoking at home is generally viewed nowadays and it will be seen as something anti social and a bit embarrassing.
The only women I know that subscribe to 'wine o'clock' suffer from varying degrees of anxiety and use alcohol to change the way they feel.
I find that very sad.

I only drink on a Saturday night, about 4-5 drinks, can get a taxi if needed. I find as my dc get older, I don't like it when dh cracks a beer open on a Sunday afternoon, I think it sets a bad example. I worry about that more than the safety issues.

This reeks of someone who has guilt and shame at drinking alcohol and ridicules those who don't, or makes them out to be liars.

Read my other posts. HTH

Completely agree DaffodilDainty, such smugness on this thread. If you don’t drink, fine. You didn’t stop drinking because of children, you just don’t drink full stop. But then to criticise people who shock, horror dare to have a couple of glasses of wine ‘whilst in charge of children’ is not on.

Never, in 10 years has there been a middle of the night emergency involving a trip to A&E. There are taxis and ambulances if there had been. If I had a sick child then I wouldn’t drink. Thank god I didn’t become
tee-total for 10 years ‘just in case’.

Ridiculous thread and I’ve never met anyone in real life who doesn’t have a drink ‘in case they have to drive to a&e’.

I know people who don’t drink, but they don’t dress it up as being for their kids. They just don’t drink. Stop confusing the two.

You didn’t stop drinking because of children,

Except plenty did and do that not really hard to believe is it? Or can you really not imagine not drinking?

you just don’t drink full stop.

Except some have said they do drink, just not when caring for their children.

But then to criticise people who shock, horror dare to have a couple of glasses of wine ‘whilst in charge of children’ is not on.

Where is this criticism?

Once baby’s in bed, we’d both happily have a couple of drinks although I dont fancy it very often these days. Neither of us drive so that’s not a consideration.

You didn’t stop drinking because of children

I did! Drank loads before I was pregnant. Haven't drunk a drop since.

As one of the ‘social drinkers but not wasted’ people on this thread I think it is a perfectly reasonable choice to make to never drink while responsible for children, and NEVER ok to criticise or question someone for not drinking.

But I still maintain that it is preposterous to think that you would get reported to SS by an A&E nurse who in the abscence of signs of abuse or neglect observed that you had had alcohol simply by smelling it in your breath.

—eat mints—

@iammaxbondi - I do apologise! I read the first two pages then the last.

You may think it preposterous, but it isn’t impossible. I have no interest in taking that risk.

No problem stop!

Why on earth does having a beer on a Sunday afternoon set a bad example? Why is moderate social drinking suddenly bad all of a sudden!?!

Yeah I'm not sure what's so wrong about a parent opening a can of beer on a Sunday afternoon. Presumably we're not talking about someone chugging down 20 cans one after the other?

I don’t think it’s a silly and smug mummy thread at all. I have never discussed this with friends before but I more or less stopped drinking when I became a single parent for reasons I mentioned earlier in the thread but no judgment of others who choose to.

Drinking causes a bit of an odd response on mumsnet, it's a bit like eating.

With booze all the tea totallers appear and about how they don't drink.

Two facts spring to mind, 80 percent of the British populatiin drink regularly. So it's a minority group responding and dominating.

On a thread where people were asked what was the one thing you wish you could afford to buy with your grocery shop but can't thr overwhelming response was alcohol.

Make your own leap if you think the heavily skewed non drinker responses are in any way linked to thr heavily skewed can't afford to drink responses.

😂 we’re not talking whiff of a grape. We’re talking drinking a glass or two of wine or gin or whisky or whatever the preferred drink is (and we all know different drinks affect different people differently so what’s fine for one, mightn’t be fine for another) and being in a situation where some jobsworth or nasty bastard on a power trip (don’t tell me they don’t exist) might decide that’s relevant to whatever injury has befallen the child. You can’t tell me the chance of that happening is nil.

Such a strange fear. Health professionals/ social workers have better things to do, honestly.