Parents who don't get their children to give up seats!

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Went to the doctors this morning and had a long wait.it was extremely busy as it usually is on a Saturday morning. And I was extremely shocked at the amount of parents that don't make their children give up there seats so others can sit down. An elderly gentleman positioned hisself at the end of a row of seats when right next to him was a child of maybe 4/5 and her mother the other side of her. She didn't even move the child onto her lap and offer the elderly gentleman the seat. A lady that was sitting close by stood up and gave him her chair. Another parent did the exact same thing when a pregnant lady with her toddler came in. She didn't move her child to let the pregnant lady sit down. So I stood up and offered my chair.

This isn't the first time I've encountered this. You see it all the time. Where's is people common courtesy! Maybe it's because I was raised to give up my seat to my elders I just don't understand this rudeness.

@Louiselouie0890 yes. From now on every bus stop needs to include a moment of age auctioning.

My younger kids would sit on my lap anyway.
GP surgeries are a minefield.
When I was very sick, and relatively young, my GP medicated me and made me sit in the waiting room until my heart rate had reduced (under immediately provided drugs), to slow me to go to hospital for tests.
Nobody would have known how ill I actually was.

I lost a vital organ in surgery to fix that. I couldn't have stood up if I'd tried.

I had this in the doctors a few months ago. A lady was cross that I didn't move my son who was sitting on a seat while I checked in at reception. She told him he should have more respect. He looked fine and was chatting away to another lady who was waiting.
We were actually there because he had sliced his foot open and he needed the wound cleaned and dressed by a nurse every other day for a week as it couldn't be stitched.
He is 6 and he was really upset that the lady had told him off although she did apologise when I explained.

Perhaps the OP could offer her services to her local A&E?

They clearly have the ability to triage in the blink of an eye.

And oh for those halcyon days of the 1950s when women and children knew their place. Because that didn’t go wrong. Not ever.

I would rather stand up myself than try and persuade my dd(8) to stand. That would just be embarrassing.

May have missed this but can someone please explain to me why children need to stand for adults?

In many situations, a child is able to sit on a parents lap more easily, therefore parent/child and the other person all get a seat. Whilst there are exceptions to this, all things being equal, this is a way that everyone gets a seat.

Whilst children shouldn't necessarily get up, just because someone is older, they also need to be aware of space around them, what is going on, and what makes life a bit easier for everyone. If I'm on a bus/train with my son and it's starts getting crowded, he can sit on my lap, one other person gets to sit down and get out of the aisle, which means an extra person can get on the train, which means they aren't left on the platform and possibly late home to their own family. It's all bigger picture stuff. Even if he couldn't sit on my lap, could he stand between my legs and the seat in front of us, with my arm around him, which is probably more stable than him sitting alone on a seat anyway, in order to take up less room.

My children are also beautifully considerate and polite OP. And do you know what they are taught? They are taught to think about their actions and have a conscience about their choices.

they are not taught to judge others.

As an aside, they would not choose to like someone like you. They would give up their seat for you, but they would quickly recognise that you are not a role model.

😂😂 some of these reply's 😳😳

You's are the perfect examples of what I hope my children never become. God help the next generation.

I'm turning off the notifications for this thread and won't be replying again.

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Oookay. Seriously though, how can you tell if anyone is in need of a seat?
Also, you say they didn't look poorly. One of them had to be in the first place for them to be there!

Such a loss! I hope my children know they are valued members of society and that because they are small doesn't mean they don't matter. They'll hopefully continue to have good manners and be good people.
I'm shocked you think your son who had a medical issue and was on crutches did the right thing by standing, possibly in pain to prove a point that his Mother had taught him manners. Madness

Surely it’s a mumsnet thing that rude entitled adults take great pride in bringing their children up to be just as rude and entitled. An old or obviously ill person needing a seat? Well my little prince won’t be giving his up. We live in a sad society where hopefully there is karma.

No one has said that chocolate stop making shit up. I think society actually values children a lot more than the 1950's, as it should be

I agree with you OP. Far to many parents treat their kids like precious and delicate little flowers. Theirs no respect, a lot of parents would let their kids sit even if therf was a 90 year old person standing on the point of collapse.

Hisself and yous. I give up.

I miss ... by your reckoning the op is precious too, getting affronted about a seat. And not one for her own backside either.
There’s respect but in my experience it is older people that are rude. Little kids may well be ill, howvoth tell by looking outs you in good stead as a triage nurse. Or watchman over who sits and stands depending on age.

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LucyBabs

• “Such a loss! I hope my children know they are valued members of society and that because they are small doesn't mean they don't matter. They'll hopefully continue to have good manners and be good people.

I'm shocked you think your son who had a medical issue and was on crutches did the right thing by standing, possibly in pain to prove a point that his Mother had taught him manners. Madness”

Oh please get the violin out. Just make your kid stand up. I doubt he/she will melt. If they’re small they can sit on your knee. If they’re too big and ill most people would understand.

People are so selfish. I can remember getting on a bus to go to an anti natal appointment, heavily pregnant and carrying a wriggly toddler. No one offered me a seat including quite a few self centred women with children. In the end a teenager with a full leg POP stood up. Disgusting really.

Oh dear yes criticising my tying when you have problems in that area yourself. Read over what you’ve typed it’s completely unintelligible.

See what I did

I have a genuine issue with people like the Op who impose their own values and attitudes on everyone else expecting others to think and be just like them, as if somehow they themselves are the benchmark for all of humanity. It's arrogant, prideful, self centered and ill mannered. Making such negative assumptions about the children and their parents and acting as if you know their personal details. All knowing, benchmark for humanity you are full of yourself, think too highly of yourself, think too less of others and preoccupied with blowing your own trumpet and gazing at yourself with rose colored glasses. I'm not perfect so please forgive me if I have judged you too harshly.

If your kids are little they can sit on your knee. Fortunately my adult kids have respect and empathy. They wouldn’t let their little kids sit whilst an older person stood. Guess iv just done a better job at parenting then some.

Oceonbliss when does your book come out. Doubt it will be a success.

No one has said that chocolate stop making shit up. I think society actually values children a lot more than the 1950's, as it should be

To be fair there have been a couple of replies along those lines although of course not verbatim. And it is those people that cause the problem. Yes, some people have hiddden disabilities, adults and children alike but some people are just selfish arses. You can’t tell the difference. In a whole room or train carriage full of people, it would be statistically improbable that all of them have hidden disabilities.

It’s not possible to tell the difference from looking at people so it makes it impossible to judge really. You can’t blame specific individuals, but you can probably conclude where there are many people, one of them must be able bodied enough to stand up for someone that is clearly in need.

Consideration and common sense go a long way, but if these were attributes everyone had in abundance then the world would be a better place but theses boards would be rather dull.

It gets to me more when you have kids running around the doctor's being loud and not behaving themselves while the parents are just watching them run riot.

It gets to me more when you have kids running around the doctor's being loud and not behaving themselves while the parents are just watching them run riot.

I think the MN response on that one is they could also have hidden disabilities and therefore you should similarly refrain from judgment.