to ask how you can fully trust your OH?

[willieverthinkofaname]

Hi all, I know this title makes me sound a bit crazy but I like to think I have my head firmly screwed on to separate it from my heart. But please bear with...

I just want to know how you can actually fully trust someone. So many people on here are scorned by people they have always trusted/thought were faithful. No one really goes into a marriage thinking their OH will cheat yet the statistics of cheating are insanely high (60-70% I read somewhere).

Then it comes down to internet activity, you can do ANYTHING. I literally only use it for social media, mumsnet and wikipedia these days. But you read about all the things you can do it's so scary!

My OH has no reason to make me doubt him. He's always where he says he is, I've never seen anything on his phone, but I remember the possibility is out there. Especially with incognito browsers which my DP would know how to use and if he were going to cheat, understands all the internet crap to hide anything he's been on. I just think it's so hard to trust people in this society.

I know I sound so pessimistic but I feel so confused by life.

(FWIW this doesn't affect my DP, I don't snoop etc. but please not focus on anything to do with my relationship personally, I feel the same about other people's partners too and worry on behalf of them!)

We lead very dull, boring yet very, very happy lives. Other than when DH is at work (and he couldn't even pretend he's anywhere else thanks to car pooling and being friends with he works with) we are always together. We shop together, socialise together and rarely do anything apart. If we do it's short trips with the children like taking them to their swimming lessons etc.
We have each others Find Iphone logins as well as Snapchat maps, find friends and all that but it's not for spying. We can easily see when we're heading home from work or if DH is popping into his mum's or something as neither of us wants to call or text when we know someone may be driving.
DH likes a very simple life. He doesn't like change and his idea of a great night is a cup of tea and binge watching Gold Rush on the telly. So yes. 100% trust here.

Not one of them can be trusted. Not one. But act as if they can, and stop thinking about it until you need to.

I can fully trust him because I admire his integrity, his courage in saying things even when they aren't what I want to hear but he can't be dishonest, and because he has put all of his time, effort, love, money into building our relationship and our family for years, proving time and again that we are the most important thing in the world for him.

Also because I know that men who cheat don't necessarily do it because of problems at home, a disagreeable wife etc etc but because they are total and utter bastards. So if he turned out to be like that, me worrying about it in advance won't change a thing, and finding out that he was would be so hurtful but would also show me that they aren't someone that I want to have in my life... so withholding my trust because of "what if" or "just incase" seems pointless