To be shocked

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Hi everyone,
My daughter 12 and half started he periods last month, I did expect it soon as I could see her body changing. Today my nearly 10 year old daughter shows me her pants and it has slightly red on it, she said it's been since last week and was confused. I'm shocked she looks like she's 7 she's absolutely tiny and petite and she doesn't know anything.
Is this really her period ? I didn't start my period until 12 I definitely wasn't expecting her to start yet intact I thought she'd be later than 12 as she's so petite. Could this be discharge of some sort ?
Thanks

Whilst sharing an awful lot of addiotional, intimate details........

OP, you have one daughter who has started already. I'm sure you can work out what conversation you need to have with your younger child.

Jess74 if I know what conversation to have with her, that's not what I'm asking about.

Good luck today!

Why are you freaking out? She is 10. Most of my friends started at 10, my sister and our cousin started at 8 and it was considered normal.
Times have changed and good nutrition means puberty is coming in earlier. I'm shocked you hadn't taught your poor 10yo tbh.

Okay then, what advice are you looking for?
And why are you looking for it in AIBU?

@ Reagan
In Scotland sex ed starts in nursery 🤨
They do periods in p3/4 ie 7/8
If you had been told in a different way you probably wouldn't of felt the way you did.
Though even if not I still say its better than going to the toilet in agony and finding blood loads of blood I thought I was dieing and to make it worse my mum was on holiday with my only aunt my dad had to deal with me😭

All of mine have witnessed me changing sanity pads on numerous occasions so they’re all known about periods since they were tiny. Have yours never been in a public loo with you, or followed you into the loo when you’re changing a pad?

This isn't the normal in all families. I have never seen my mother without her underwear, or on the toilet, or changing a pad. When we were small we were made to wait in front of tge toilet door of a public toilet. I saw her naked breasts exactly once (bottle fed baby). Some mothers are really private.

My dd started at 10 but she was definitely going through puberty.

Good luck OP, hope the GP visit puts your mind at rest either way.

So what are you asking for OP? Or are you just hoping people will share details of their daughters first period and stage of puberty?

Thank you everyone we are heading to the doctors this afternoon. Like I said I'm only surprised as she hasn't got any signs of puberty unlike my older dd who I knew would be starting any day.

Jess74 if that's what I wanted to hear that's what I would have asked. I'm just a normal mum to 4 asking for advice/ opinions, real-time don't understand whats wrong with some people. If you don't have anything useful to say don't say it all. There's some lovely ladies here who have put my mind at ease, thank you to all those ladies

I was 9 and I started before my older sister so my mum had ever mentioned it to me at all so i thought I was dying!!!! Luckily, since I was so young I got to go home from school and learnt all about it :D

Some people on his thread just looking for an argument! She only asked for advice

Agree 100%. Why has MN become so bitchy lately? Yes the OP should have probably explained about periods before now, but it's not the end of the world and what's done is done. I too would be surprised if my 9 year old daughter had started her periods without showing any other signs of puberty and I would be worried that the bleeding was due to something else.

The poor OP was only asking for advice. Good on you those who have explained periods to their two year olds (!) but please refrain from bitchy and judgmental comments.

Afternoon,

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@Stressedout10

I never said all schools do it at year 5/6, I said many don't. So you can't assume that OP prevented her daughter from accessing the curriculum in this area.

You're welcome to do what you will with your own DD, as I shall with mine and op will with hers.

Thank you joanne and thank you twosoups.

Reagansomerset thank you, I almost feel
Like I've committed a crime 🤦‍♀️

My older dd started age 10

She had signs of puberty so was expected her to start
I started age 14
Girls start there periods younger now

Hope drs went well

Hi OP - just to say that I hope the doctors went well. I posted a few weeks for support when my DD started her periods age 10. Even tho we'd had the chat and she knew etc, it was still a shock for me and her!!!!! Hope all is ok - so post back for support and ignore any negativity. Most of us get where you are coming from x

My dd is 9 but very young looking for her age. And she is quite immature/silly/full of fun but I have notice her body changing hair wise. I am now in the process of prepping her just in case

It's scary when they seem like they are not ready.
I hope the doctors went well OP

Thank you all you lovely ladies, we've just got back from the doctors and it's a urine infection. The doctor can't guarantee she hasn't started her period too as the spotting was more than she expected for a infection. She gave her a full check tool her about 20 mins and totally agrees with me that there's no signs of puberty and she's under weight but who knows. If the bleeding doesn't stop by around 4 days she said bring her back.
I hope it's just an infection but who knows.
Thanks for the support x

I’m shocked that people leave the period chat until so late. Given how many kids can start before ten I wouldn’t wait so long. I think my little one found out around two, she named it red wee and so that stuck until she asked more about it. By three she knew what it was and roughly why and where babies come from etc. She would see the sanitary towels or see me using the bathroom and the red on the towel or on the tissue etc. She knows it will happen to her one day too and no freaking out. I was told from very young too and don’t remember being scared.