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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 17:55

Hi everyone,
My daughter 12 and half started he periods last month, I did expect it soon as I could see her body changing. Today my nearly 10 year old daughter shows me her pants and it has slightly red on it, she said it's been since last week and was confused. I'm shocked she looks like she's 7 she's absolutely tiny and petite and she doesn't know anything.
Is this really her period ? I didn't start my period until 12 I definitely wasn't expecting her to start yet intact I thought she'd be later than 12 as she's so petite. Could this be discharge of some sort ?
Thanks

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Tcga745 · 04/02/2019 19:49

Dd1 was 11, dd2 was 9. I am wondering if I am Error’s friend.
They were both aware, but frankly the then 9 year old was not ready and nor was I, but you just have to deal with it as just part of the cycle of life. She is 12 this week and only just hitting 7 stone, fwiw.
My heart dropped this weekend though when ds3 (8) asked for a private talk with me... I thought surely not. Luckily she had diarrhoea ..... much easier to deal with!

Tcga745 · 04/02/2019 19:59

Btw, I was shocked with ds2, and sad, tbh. But now it’s just normal

mywigwamneedsnewflaps · 04/02/2019 20:02

Quite often a group of women / girls Irving or working together have their periods at the same time , this may be a factor that has brought it on ?

sizzledrizz · 04/02/2019 20:07

I started at 13, my sister started at 10. She was much smaller than me, size has nothing to do with it. My daughter is 9, and I talk to her about it quite openly, she asks me questions sometimes, I think it's important. When my sister started she hid it for months.
You need to take her to the GP just in case, and you should really speak to her about periods.

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 20:16

Tcga745 I feel the same she's definitely not ready and nor am I and the feeling a bit sad too. OMG About you dd8 luckily it wasn't her periods. I will talk to her and I'm taking her to the doctors tomorrow too. Thanks

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 20:17

Mywig I've heard this before but this is crazy literally 2 weeks after my first Dd Confused

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 20:18

Sizzledrizz thats true I was planning on talking to her ASAP especially as her big sister started so I thought it's a good time but this happens right after.

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kindlyplay · 04/02/2019 20:22

I will talk to her

Sorry you will Hmm

Are you for real? She came to you and told you she had been bleeding for a week and you didn't take that opportunity to talk to her?

Wow. That's shocking.

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 20:47

Kindlyplay of course I have, I've explained what periods are and that's it's normal etc.

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kateandme · 04/02/2019 20:47

i know you aren't ready.but try not to let your shock of fear show to her.she must be bloody terrified.let her know now this is all normal and you will sort it and leanr together how to make her feel comfortable.dont let her think(if they have begun) its anything wrong or to be feared or shocked by or like her body is wrong.shes started so lets go from there and make her ok

emzw12 · 04/02/2019 20:52

Periods start approximately 50kg. While there is a "genetic component" ie your periods and menopause are likely to be similar age to your mum.
45-50kg is the weight that the body starts to produce the hormones etc needed to start periods.

Rassy · 04/02/2019 20:56

DD2 started at 12 and her best friend started the next day!

3WildOnes · 04/02/2019 21:02

All of mine have witnessed me changing sanity pads on numerous occasions so they’re all known about periods since they were tiny. Have yours never been in a public loo with you, or followed you into the loo when you’re changing a pad?

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 21:21

Kateandme thank you sound advice

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 21:21

emzw12 she's only 27 kilos. I started my periods at 12

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 21:22

Rassy wow how strange

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PinguDance · 04/02/2019 21:31

“Have yours never been in a public loo with you, or followed you into the loo when you’re changing a pad?”

I see this quite a lot on MN threads about periods and I have to ask if this is something a lot of women do? This never occurred to me cos any age where I would be in a loo with my mum is an age I can’t remember. She wasn’t clandestine about periods but I don’t really see how the above situation comes about?

3WildOnes · 04/02/2019 21:45

PinguDance I obviously can’t talk for anyone else but I’m my family now and in my home growing up no one really locked doors so we would often walk in on each other on the loo or in the bath. We obviously shout to get out if we’re doing a poo, well the kids don’t but we do! But I always remember knowing about periods and what they were. When I had mine I was never worried or scared it seemed normal. My kids have obviously asked why I have blood and I’ve just explained what periods are.
Even if your kids don’t see you on the loo what if they put something in the bathroom bin, don’t they question why there are bloody things in the bin?

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 21:48

Honestly my kids have never asked me before

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ReaganSomerset · 04/02/2019 21:49

Depends if they look in the bin, I suppose?

ReaganSomerset · 04/02/2019 21:50

Also, some contraceptives stop periods. I've not had one in about six years now.

TooManyPaws · 04/02/2019 21:56

My mother didn't know about periods when she started so she made sure that I was prepared for it from the age of seven. Full sex education and all. Given that girls are starting earlier these days, I'm surprised that people are risking their daughters being terrified by starting when they don't know what it is. What I was most upset about was the antique suspender belt and huge towel. Yes, I am an old fart though not a prudish one.

Shopkinsdoll · 04/02/2019 21:57

Some people on his thread just looking for an argument! She only asked for advice.

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 22:07

Shopskindoll thank you

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